I went through a stage over ten years ago when I started mentally transitioning. What that entailed was telling myself I was a man and not a lesbian stud. If I identified to others, it would be as a masculine identified lesbian. I've been 'cross-dressing' since I was a teenager. I did everything possible to become comfortable with the idea that I was a man and not a man trapped in a woman's body.

so when I started the medical portion of my journey, I felt I was conditioned to be very comfortable during the 'real life experience' portion of the journey.

Did anyone else prepare themselves mentally before coming out?

I did for a couple years before I came out. It took a while for me to accept myself, because I was afraid of rejection. I was in denial for a while because of all of that. I would tell my self every night "I am a guy, I am trans, stop lying to yourself Grayson". Yet I was so unsure of myself that I couldnt come out without backing out of it, until I finally understood and came to terms with who I am about a year ago.

Now that I am out, I've mentally transitioned myself as best as I can, it helps me pass too I think.

Quote from: Pizzaparty78 on July 08, 2015, 09:15:10 PM


Now that I am out, I've mentally transitioned myself as best as I can, it helps me pass too I think.

I think the mental preparation was a major help with passing more. because if you believe it to be true it comes out of you. thanks for sharing

I personally didnt. When I realised everything pretty much just clicked into place. It made sense and most people around me realised it made sense as well. I didnt have to prepare myself because I was very intune with my thoughts and unlike you I didnt have a label ie I hadnt identified as a lesbian. I was simply a tomboy, there were certain things I liked and certain things I didnt like. I wasnt (and still arent) experienced sexually and romantically so I didnt know my sexuality, and I still dont.

From an outsider I was a very boyish hetrosexual tomboy. I was only hetero because it was the status quo (it wasnt enforced but I didnt need to change that at the time). I was seemingly a "tomboy" but I was just me and therefore I had no need to reinforce that I was me, because I already knew that, and I hadnt tried to fit into any particular box or label. I had simply carried the ones I was "born with" ie straight, female. They werent particularly hard to shake off because I hadnt openly attached myself to them.

Quote from: The_Gentleboy on July 10, 2015, 03:24:04 AM
and unlike you I didnt have a label ie I hadnt identified as a lesbian.

I'm curious about this "unlike you" statement. My post never said I labeled myself as anything other than a man. I clearly stated that others might have labeled me but thats what I went by...a man

Quote from: teddybear_zach on July 08, 2015, 08:15:59 PM
If I identified to others, it would be as a masculine identified lesbian.

I didn't mean to cause any offence, the way in which you worded it sounds as though you revealed you had some affiliations to the lesbian label, I was merely remarking I had no such affiliations.