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so , once you complete transition are all pre pictures going in the dumpster

Started by stephaniec, July 11, 2015, 07:52:18 PM

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stephaniec

I was just thinking that my only bridge to my past through pictures are the few I have on this website. I just bought a new computer because my other one died, so the only pictures that exist of me pre transition are on this site. I'm thinking if I'm going to completely delete my past look. I haven't quite got to where I'm going transition wise so I got some time to think on whether to keep a picture or not. Is everyone thinking of just dumping the past picture log or holding on.
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Sabrina

I don't have many pictures to hang on to but I'll hang on to a few. It's important to remember the past.
- Sabrina

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stephaniec

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Ms Grace

Nope. I'm keeping them all. I existed prior to transition - admittedly not as I would have liked but I'm not writing myself out of history for that reason. I have a lovely picture of myself with my grandmother (since deceased) and niece from several years ago that I'm never letting go of.
Grace
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Mariah

Not a ton of them exist, but I'm not dumping them. However, they won't be seeing the light of day. Hugs
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Ashey

I'd still show some friends a few 'before' pics, because I'm proud of how far I've come. But for the most part they will be tucked away for safe-keeping.
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awilliams1701

I'm not about to delete who I was. In many ways I find it comforting to see who I was even a year ago and seeing how miserable I was compared to now.
Ashley
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iKate

I'm keeping my kid pics. I look like a girl in most of them anyway *shrugs*

I have other pics with me from moments in my life that I treasure such as holding my babies for the first time. I'm not destroying those. However don't expect those to show up as #tbt.
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Lady_Oracle

yes at least the one's in my possession but I'm not going to tell my parents to destroy their photos of me. They're sensitive to my transition and supportive of me. They do everything they can to keep my privacy a priority so I really don't have to worry about them showing my pretransition pics to the world, not that there's many anyways. I hated taking pictures before transition, plus I look like that person's cousin now so people wouldn't be able to figure out it's me anyways.
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Lady Smith

I've still got all my old photos and I've no intention of getting rid of them.
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.Christy

I dont have any pics of when i had short hair pre-transition/in boy mode in my teenage years(self-esteem issues) and the only ones are from when i was a little kid stuck to the fridge. Im keeping them since they dont give me any dysphoria.
My life doesn't exist in this lifetime.


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Martine A.

I never liked how I look like as a man, so number of those pics is limited.

On the pics of me there is a progress noticeable as I take down weight, partly shave eyebrows, use skin care products etc. Will also have it on record what hrt and surgeries did for me.

So, won't toss it, but will be careful who I show it to. People invest time in building videos showing their progress; maybe I will find patience for that too.
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noeleena

Hi,

What makes us today is what we were before  , from birth through out my life im sure not going to say this is someone else and why should I, all photos of my self are there to be seen and im sure not someone else ,

iv grown and little changes have taken place and what you would see before is not a great deal different form today as to my look  facial features are concerned .

I was in the public eye before and still am and every one knows and those close to me are part of my life going back 57 years,   Ill put it this way im not ashamed of who I am  , though I may not have liked how I looked / and look now  , people still recognise me just the same ,

...noeleena...
Hi. from New Zealand, Im a woman of difference & intersex who is living life to the full.   we have 3 grown up kids and 11 grand kid's 6 boy's & 5 girl's,
Jos and i are still friends and  is very happy with her new life with someone.
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Valwen

aside from my license and perhaps one more picture I don't have any of me anyways, I would not make others get rid of theres I just never want to see them, I even told facebook to block them, unfortunatlly its also blocking anything new now that I have starting presenting as myself, but pictures of me always make me feel weird so ya.

this ramble brought to you by Serena who swears she had a point to make when she started that paragraph but lost it half way through.
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Naeree

I had dump most of my photo before transition, I was having a thought of I want totally dump my past, I don't want to be recognize as I was, etc.  And today I wish I doesn't done that, I should kept those photo. Recently, I just try to gather the remaining picture of me in the past, I could found like 5 photos. And I kind of smile when I look at those. I would tell anyone who think about dumping the past photos, you may like put away where you don't see it. May be in the future you might want to bring it up again.

stephaniec

I thinking of keeping the pictures I've got on Susan's. their the only ones I have. It would be nice to see me as I was pre HRT.
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noleen111

Not many pictures of me exist per-transition for two reasons.

My father was not much of a picture taker and
a small house fire destroyed most of the pictures.

The ones that remain.. well.. a few baby pictures and there I am wearing very gender neutral clothes, white or yellow so you cant tell my gender as a diaper hides things. Three pics exist when I was 5, and funny i am wearing a dress in each one of them, mostly smarter long sleeve dresses. My mother use to make children's clothes on the side and the one little girls was my size.. I often was used a test subject to see how they look. My hair was longer and at that age there no real difference between a girls body and a boys body besides the private bits.. so I actually passed. Today I love to wear dresses, maybe that's where it comes from.

My mother use to say I looked so cute in the dresses. She actually framed them and now it hangs near her bed. She is very proud of her daughter.
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Rejennyrated

No offense meant to anyone, but I really do worry about the mental wellbeing of people who would choose to dump ALL their past photos. I can fully understand that one might want to thin them down to a few selected examples, and that those examples might not be shown to many people, but we are all in part the product of out past lives, and I worry that there is a horrible unreality and denial in the heart of those who cannot acknowledge that past.

Aside from the fact that it seems to me to be a psychologically worse situation than being pre-everything and in the closet, it also suggests that the person in question is in deep denial, and in all seriousness most mental health professionals would probably consider that to be a borderline psychosis. So I think this notion is actually dangerous to peoples emotional and psychological wellbeing. By all means lock them up and keep them very discretely, but we all need to keep at least a few to remind us of how far we've come.

Its an understandable temptation, especially in the euphoria of taking the final steps in your journey, but it really is a dangerous siren call which should be resisted if we are to stay healthy and rooted in reality.
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Serenation

I don't have any photos, gave the small few I had to my parents. It wasn't really because of what I looked like then or anything though. If I did keep them It would be like, here's me with all my friends that abandoned me, this is the love of my life that left me, oh this is the night the night I got bashed by five guys. Here's me when I attempted suicide.

Maybe if had some fond memories of the past I would have kept them.
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Kayleewantsout

I don't really like photos of me but I do still intend to keep them so I have a measure of how far I have come, as well there are some with deep significance like holding my children for the first time.

-Kaylee
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