I saw my VA Psychologist today (I see him once a month, and have for around two years), and even though he is mostly involved in helping me with my PTSD, he also is a pseudo Gender Therapist for me as well. I came out to him late last year, and he has been very supportive so our sessions include my transitioning, and my PTSD.
Today the subject rolled around to how my wife and I are doing (roller coaster since we've been married 44 years, and I just came out to her April of last year). I told him that the first time since I came out to her she wanted to see some of my selfies (she has never seen me as LesleyAnne), and I told him she was shocked at how good I looked.
Well it just so happens that the selfies were taken on my phone, so I asked if he would like to see the latest.
What made me feel good was that when he looked I could see the shock on his face! He mouthed the word "Wow" under his breath. That made me feel amazing since I know it wasn't "wow are you ugly" kind of wow.
Then he said the most amazing thing.... he said "I've worried about you going out in public dressed as a woman, and worried that with your PTSD something bad could happen, but I have to tell you that you are totally believable, and lovely in these pictures." and then he said " If you don't mind me asking, did it take at lot for you to look that way?" "I don't mean to be disrespectful, I just am curious?".
When I replied that I have on very little make-up, and my clothes are my own, without any touch-up......
He then said "Well I am no longer worried about you passing, and now I hope you are working on your voice to sound more female." I told him I was, and that as soon as I really feel good about it I will start talking to him in my feminine voice. And then the most amazing thing he finished by telling me that he hoped that sometime in the future He would like for me to attend our sessions presenting as the real person he has been talking to.....and that's LesleyAnne.
I've been on cloud nine all day. After all I'm 66 yrs. old, and that makes an old lady feel pretty.