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how much does it really bother you not being cis

Started by stephaniec, July 13, 2015, 02:26:49 PM

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On a daily bases how much are you troubled not being cis female

It bothers me to no end, I can't stop thinking about it
17 (34%)
Once I started hormones the thought became less obsessive
2 (4%)
I think about it constantly , but have learned to cope
15 (30%)
the longer on HRT the less it comes to mind because I have the E in me
4 (8%)
transition has totally minimalized the perception of cis difference
6 (12%)
I don't feel a difference any more.
6 (12%)

Total Members Voted: 50

stephaniec

For me its a weird feeling, I don't view it as being different because my chemistry is the same as any other female.
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Dee Marshall

It doesn't bother me at all. Sometimes being me is hard, sometimes it seems too hard, but it's always rewarding. Who wants easy?
April 22, 2015, the day of my first face to face pass in gender neutral clothes and no makeup. It may be months to the next one, but I'm good with that!

Being transgender is just a phase. It hardly ever starts before conception and always ends promptly at death.

They say the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train. I say, climb aboard!
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Laura_Squirrel

I don't care at all these days.

I got to that point a long time ago. Now, things are just what they are.
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Jill F

If it didn't bother me, I would not have needed to transition in the first place. 
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zog

It has never bothered me, so I didn't really find an option that would fit me. Yeah, being trans can suck and I'm not yet at a point where I can trust that I consistently pass (although it seems to happen more and more), but I've always been one to stay away from mundane ways of living. Not that I'd go out of my way to be trans, but being one doesn't bother me even if it can suck at times. I think it's a valuable part of the great tapestry of human experience and can have valuable additions to how we see the world. That's why I'm not planning to ever be stealth even if I do get to the point where I can consistently pass.
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Joi

Don't really think of it often now that I know who I really am.  I am just happier now and really enjoy the acceptance of the cis females that are in my life.


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Martine A.

If I could choose, I would choose to be cis something.

But I accepted my state. I am exhausted fighting my gender. I have got what I have got and should accept it in order to make best of my life.
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Laura_Squirrel

Quote from: Jill F on July 13, 2015, 02:44:31 PM
If it didn't bother me, I would not have needed to transition in the first place.

Ah. That's a good point.

I was speaking more about my life after transition.
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stephaniec

when I was a teen , I used to get so angry and depressed because I didn't have breasts, now I've got them and no need to stuff. Just that is enough to make me smile.So cool to look in the mirror with a bra on and see flesh hanging out.
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kittenpower

Quote from: stephaniec on July 13, 2015, 02:26:49 PM
For me its a weird feeling, I don't view it as being different because my chemistry is the same as any other female.

It definitely bugs me, but I've learned to celebrate my uniqueness.
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Rejennyrated

I think I need another option... as in: it has never bothered me - I think its a priviledge.

because I honestly do.
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Zoetrope

None.

It did bother me a lot, pre-transition. Started late (35), having been in male roles for a long time. GD surfaced around 32.

36 now - the whole process of rebooting and rebuilding my body, has also refreshed my identity.

I had anticipated that my female identity of a few years would be reinforced - it was already confirmed well enough for me.
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However, I was still only on the tip of the iceberg. It as if my brain has been jump-started on a cold day.

There is a whole lot about my potential that I am still learning. I have sides, identities - and also - multiple gender identities.
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So I am rolling with it. Call me androgyne for the gender part.

Does being like this - quite different from 'normal' - bother me?

It excites me and fascinates me far more than that ...
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Mariah

It's not something I think about to be honest. I'm happy being who I am now that I have transitioned as far as I have. It' true I won't be completely happy tell it's finished, but it's not something that makes me bothered that I'm not CIS.
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amber roskamp

I'm happy that I can be a women. cis or trans doesn't matter. I will take trans with some pride on the side  ;D
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kelly_aus

Not being cis? Never really bothered me at all.. But I also seem to have a different view on being trans to most.
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suzifrommd

I wish I had been born a cis woman. That bothers me frequently, but not seriously. I can accept that that just didn't happen.

But I am so, so, so glad I was not born a cisgender male. That is totally not who I am.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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Serenation

I wouldn't be the same person at all if I'd been cis, this path moulded who I am, I'd have been raised different, not sent to a technical boys school, probably wouldn't love guitars and cars. I appreciate the unique view we get on life.
I will touch a 100 flowers and not pick one.
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katrinaw

For me I would not have had to transition to become who I always knew I was from a very early age.
Yes it means I may not be the person I am now, but then I would have been me and I would not have to unravel the complexity of my life to date, perhaps damaging others lives in the process.
But am I happy? yes
Would I have been happier? probably
Does that make me stronger now? probably
Do I have a more rounded view on humanity? yes

Katy xx


Long term MTF in transition... HRT since ~ 2003...
Journey recommenced Sept 2015  :eusa_clap:... planning FT 2016  :eusa_pray:

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Live life, embrace life and love life xxx
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Echo Eve

During my more dysphoric moments, yes. In the sense that life would be easier without having to angst over something as fundamental as my gender.

That said, if I were cis I wouldn't have knowledge of gender dysphoria and would therefore be unaware of and take for granted any perceived benefit or privilege of being cis.
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