Walking through a grocery store with my Mom today, as we headed for the registers I overheard a very little kid say "See! Here he comes again, and look he's wearing lady pants!" Then the parents went into a discussion with him. Two days before, a different grocery and a different child. A little girl asked her Mom as I passed them "Is she a woman?"

I pass in general but those kids are so perceptive and lacking filters. I can't fault kids who are trying to parse the meaning of gender for asking questions, however loudly.

So to cope with the conflict of being misgendered but loving the inquisitive minds of children I reached a conclusion that made me quite happy. Instead of taking it personally and letting myself get upset and down I realized that I had just made a teaching moment. Even if the parents say nothing to their child but "shush" that child has experienced someone who is confident, happy and gender variant. The next time I overhear a child asking such a question I am resolved to look in their direction and at least smile, perhaps wave. I will be the change I want to see in this world!

Quote from: sparrow on July 15, 2015, 07:34:25 PM
Saw a doctor!  She's totally on board with WPATH, didn't act like a gatekeeper!  Two weeks 'til hormones!

Hip hip hooray for you sparrow!

Well yesterday and today was a roll coaster for me. But my going full time has been pushed forward a lot. And I started crying from being so happy tonight looking in the mirror, and realized I'll be seeing me everyday soon. I'm going to get the ball rolling Friday and hopefully won't have many more weeks left to present as male.

Playing with new shades of polish, that's fun. Such a nice group of women & new friends on the Fair Maiden FB page. We all have such fun with our nails. Trying to soon start using pellets, so so tired of pills & itchy patches, yuck. Life is good.

Yes, playing with different shades of polish is always fun. Beautiful nails. I'm hope all goes well with the HRT changes your hoping to start soon. Hugs
Mariah

Quote from: FrancisAnn on July 16, 2015, 06:23:30 AM
Playing with new shades of polish, that's fun. Trying to soon start using pellets, so so tired of pills & itchy patches, yuck. Life is good.

I had my first consultation with an electrologist, and was glad to learn they are trans friendly. I felt very welcomed and they were completely non-judgemental, even though I'm still 100% presenting as male. Looking forward to losing the hair, not looking forward to the pain hehe.

Quote from: Mariah2014 on July 16, 2015, 06:30:52 AM
Yes, playing with different shades of polish is always fun. Beautiful nails. I'm hope all goes well with the HRT changes your hoping to start soon. Hugs
Mariah

Mariah, Join a FB group called I Love Natural Nails, it's great & also there is an oil everyone uses to strengthen their nails. I so hope pellets soon, so tired of itching, damn patches. TC GF

Quote from: amoeba on July 16, 2015, 06:35:16 AM
I had my first consultation with an electrologist, and was glad to learn they are trans friendly. I felt very welcomed and they were completely non-judgemental, even though I'm still 100% presenting as male. Looking forward to losing the hair, not looking forward to the pain hehe.

Hair is just hair to elctro women, they see & kill it all day long. It's gonna hurt, be ready to cry.

I'm really working on bettering my life.

and i'm going to meet so many awesome people:)

I'm going clothes shopping with a girlfriend today! I'm really looking forward to it since I haven't shopped with anyone yet.

Just a quick update about today. This is probably the happiest I've ever been  today even if my boots were killing my feet. My cis female friend took me to a kind of high class mall in the city. I was really nervous at first since this I was way out of my comfort zone since I've just gone shopping at grocery stores so far. Right after getting out of the car and walking to a restaurant a lady past by me and told me she loved my bow that I had in my hair! Walk into the restaurant the server said good afternoon ladies. I was really really super nervous to use my voice while ordering but my friend reassured me that I was doing fine. I worked up the courage and the waiter did not look at me weird or anything. After eating we did some shopping in some stores and I got treated just like a female and my friend kind of had my back and said the entire time not one person gave me a second glance or a weird look.

The best part was I went into a really high end purse shop and the guy at the counter went straight for me and started telling me what would look perfect with me. And I worked up enough courage to even talk to him and he was super nice and also commented on the bow in my hair.

It was an all around great night and I feel that now I can pass pretty well, and shouldn't be so hard on myself and my appearance,

So I posted a comment on FB about Caitlyn Jenners Espy award last night. My uncle responded with something about "who is this sensitive female alien ". I responded with a simple "things change". I then got a reply from an aunt on how my new sensitive self was welcome anytime at their house. I felt confident, so I outed myself to her and told her to feel free to tell those she thought would be good.
God that felt good. She then pretty much gave me the rundown on where a lot of my cousins fall in the lgbt spectrum. I'm not alone and I'm accepted as me.
I cried last night watching Caitlyn and I cried again today, but all happy tears.



Ella

Today I was at a support group meeting (where I am out) that I attend regularly. A member (cis female) who I knew,  but not very, well approached me after the meeting and handed me a package wrapped in a brown paper bag with a pretty pink bow on it and said this is for you.  She asked me to open it which I did and inside was a wonderful book called "About Face" which is a manual on how to apply make-up. I was shocked and elated by this gesture. She asked me to be sure and read a note that she had written on the wrapping paper.  It said:  To Joi:  "You are a a Brave Woman & a credit to our Sex" Love, Sheila. I almost melted.  This really touched my heart and soul.    I'm going to cut out the inscription frame it and save it.  What a beautiful and thoughtful woman   Had to share this.

Hugz,
Joi

I set my schedule for SRS today.  It's all the way out in November 2016 but at least it's scheduled. 

What a wonderful moment!  Thanks for sharing.  I too had a gift like that it ment so much to me to be accepted like that. 

Quote from: Joi on July 16, 2015, 10:51:20 PM
Today I was at a support group meeting (where I am out) that I attend regularly. A member (cis female) who I knew,  but not very, well approached me after the meeting and handed me a package wrapped in a brown paper bag with a pretty pink bow on it and said this is for you.  She asked me to open it which I did and inside was a wonderful book called "About Face" which is a manual on how to apply make-up. I was shocked and elated by this gesture. She asked me to be sure and read a note that she had written on the wrapping paper.  It said:  To Joi:  "You are a a Brave Woman & a credit to our Sex" Love, Sheila. I almost melted.  This really touched my heart and soul.    I'm going to cut out the inscription frame it and save it.  What a beautiful and thoughtful woman   Had to share this.

Hugz,
Joi

Congrats girl!!  It may seem like a long time but at least your set.  Good luck. Any chance you can get the date advanced?

Quote from: CrysC on July 17, 2015, 12:37:57 AM
I set my schedule for SRS today.  It's all the way out in November 2016 but at least it's scheduled. 

I was able to run another 3 miles tonight.  That's the 3rd time this week.  I am so happy that even after laying off running for so long I was able to pick it back up again.  While I'm not particularly fast I did maintain a steady pace.  Nothing like those running endorphins!!

Quote from: Jessie Ann on July 17, 2015, 01:10:19 AM
I was able to run another 3 miles tonight.  That's the 3rd time this week.  I am so happy that even after laying off running for so long I was able to pick it back up again.  While I'm not particularly fast I did maintain a steady pace.  Nothing like those running endorphins!!

That's awesome!  I could never really run anymore due to bad knees, but I love to hike when they aren't acting up.  There are amazing hiking trails almost literally in my backyard (OK, like 3 blocks away) and I'd love to hit them again.   Seriously, anyone in LA who wants a fun little hike in a tucked away canyon, please come over and be my guest.   

What made me happy ...

It was a single phone call, from a much-older man, who I am quite infatuated with.

He said come over :~)

Pray for me ...

Quote from: Zoetrope on July 17, 2015, 01:51:31 AM
Pray for me ...

Be careful Hon and let us know you are OK when you get home.