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Started by Bri1991, July 16, 2015, 01:00:51 PM

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Bri1991

I've finnaly come out as being transgender to my family. Honestly they don't believe me they all think I need counseling because it started 17years ago from sexual abuse from my brother, and now with no support I don't know where to start. Any help would be appreciated
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possessed

In cases where you think that it is caused by psychological traumas you indeed need counselling to overcome the traumas. Once you get over that events you will realize it has nothing to do with being sexually abused is the time to start your transition

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Bri1991

Well it's my mom who thinks it's psychological trauma. I honestly forgot about it for the longest time, I've always been attracted to the female form, so I'd dress up when no one was home, and when I did I felt great I felt try to myself, when I changed back I became depressed,  when I was in high school I honestly could not wait for cross dress day cause I could be myself without being judged.
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RaptorChops

Your school had a cross dressing day?? Wow I wish mine had that but hell can't expect that from a school that used to be called Cornfield High let alone a dumb ass principal that would not let us have an LGBT group.

I'd say look around and find yourself a gender therapist in your area. You'll be able to talk to them about everything (at least I was able to).
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Laura_7

You could have a look at the links there for a few thoughts that might help you:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,192236.msg1714114.html#msg1714114


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suzifrommd

Quote from: possessed on July 16, 2015, 01:06:06 PM
In cases where you think that it is caused by psychological traumas you indeed need counselling to overcome the traumas. Once you get over that events you will realize it has nothing to do with being sexually abused is the time to start your transition

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I can't agree with this. I don't see the need to put your transition on hold unless the events in your past are interfering with your ability to transition. If you've decided to move forward with treatment, I wouldn't let your family's opinion stand in your way.

It's your transition, not theirs.

Some find it helpful to consult a gender therapist. Others don't find they need one. I had a therapist but she was mostly helpful with my transition - I'd already decided I needed to be female. I made a list of what I needed to do. E.g. wardrobe, beard removal, hormones, wig, etc. Then I prioritized the list and started on the things that would take the longest.

Good luck, Bri. We're here if you need us.
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Mariah

A therapist is a good starting point. I can only hope that your family in time will understand, but it's your transition so move forward in the speed and way you need too. Remember our transitions are about us and not those around us. It's true it affects those we love and care about, but in the ends it's about who we are and we need to do for our own health and happiness. Hugs
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