I'm struggling trying to figure out how to tell my family I am trans. I was thinking of doing it, during
a vacation we have planned next month, at a beach house in Sequim. All of my close family will be there:
my wife of 30 years, my 2 daughters in their twenties, my brother in law his wife and daughter
and my mother (who already knows).

I thought it would be easier just to get it over with all at once.
My therapist thinks my wife should know first.

Thank you for any advice you might have.

Kath

Be direct, straight and truthful.

"I need to tell you all that I'm transgender. That means that my brain is wired to need me to be female, even though my body is male. I'm working with a therapist to figure out what that will mean for my future."

If you plan on staying married, I agree that your wife should know first. I'd tell her in private.

I'd answer whatever questions they have as truthfully and completely as possible.

Good luck, Kath. I hope it all goes well.

Suzi's advice is exactly what I would do.

Suzi is right on the money with this. Your wife should know first and privately. Please keep us updated. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah

Even if you DON'T plan on staying married, your wife deserves to find out first and in private. Then your daughters.

And please, don't do it during family vacation. It shouldn't, but it is very likely to kill the mood.

Suzi is right, that is what i would do.. 100% agree.. xx

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Thankyou for the help

I guess my therapist is right I need to tell my wife first .. I really don't know
what she suspects. I've been trying to find a way to tell her for the about a year
need to do it because it is really weighing on me and a lot of guilt. I do very much
hope to stay married.
My endless layers of secrets are like Dante's Inferno and the levels of hell.

I hadn't thought of the spoiling of mood .. I may still do the rest of the family anyway
since the opportunity is so there .. the whole thing just scares me to death

All the best,
Kath