I've come out to some teachers and basically everyone in my grade in one way or another. I didn't bother switching bathrooms or changing dressing rooms but this up coming year I do. I'll be in 10th grade. Who do I ask aboit what bathroom they want me to use? The principal? Or maybe the school board? I don't care what bathroom I use because I'm there to do my business. I'll be getting T when I turn 16 which would be like 4 months after school starts and getting a stp for my birthday.

I think the Principal. I assume your parents are fully supportive of you, so I think they and you should bring it up with the Principal to begin with.

And congratulations young man! I hope you have a wonderful life and I am very proud of you.

Cindy

Do you have a counselor at school? I would start by talking to them.

Are your parents helping you with this?

You really shouldn't need to take care of all of this alone.

Quote from: suzifrommd on July 20, 2015, 05:32:03 AM
Do you have a counselor at school? I would start by talking to them.

Are your parents helping you with this?

You really shouldn't need to take care of all of this alone.

While I usually agree, sometimes being your own best advocate can prove to adults that you are capable of taking responsibility for yourself in a mature environment. That being said, if things get complicated, of course asking a parent to back you up can be a good thing. This is just from my personal experience; my parents were supportive, but respected my need to transition at my own pace and on my terms (which was fairly quickly and assertively ) and I'm actually grateful that they were able to trust me enough to take a step back instead of "helicopter parenting" me through the first few months of my transition.

The person I spoke to most was my class counselor (we had one for each grade), and she insisted if there was anything I needed that I should just ask. I said something like "I just want to know that I have permission to use the bathroom of my choice" to which she insisted that of course I did, as it was a basic human/civil right. That's exactly the kind of response you're looking for. I'd say start with a counselor and possibly the vice principal if you have one, don't go to the top of the chain unless you start encountering problems further down, I'd say.

Also congrats on being so close to T! It's going to be an amazing experience, and hopefully you have some good friends at HS that can help you laugh at your voice cracks, stray peach fuzz, etc.

Quote from: suzifrommd on July 20, 2015, 05:32:03 AM
Do you have a counselor at school? I would start by talking to them.

Are your parents helping you with this?

I do have a counselor. I have a small school (max 50 kids per grade) and she is always super busy and rather forgetful because she does like everything. My parents are very supportive but they let me do my own thing but if I wanted their help they would step in right away.

Quote from: AndrewB on July 20, 2015, 09:07:20 AM
While I usually agree, sometimes being your own best advocate can prove to adults that you are capable of taking responsibility for yourself in a mature environment. That being said, if things get complicated, of course asking a parent to back you up can be a good thing. This is just from my personal experience; my parents were supportive, but respected my need to transition at my own pace and on my terms (which was fairly quickly and assertively ) and I'm actually grateful that they were able to trust me enough to take a step back instead of "helicopter parenting" me through the first few months of my transition.

The person I spoke to most was my class counselor (we had one for each grade), and she insisted if there was anything I needed that I should just ask. I said something like "I just want to know that I have permission to use the bathroom of my choice" to which she insisted that of course I did, as it was a basic human/civil right. That's exactly the kind of response you're looking for. I'd say start with a counselor and possibly the vice principal if you have one, don't go to the top of the chain unless you start encountering problems further down, I'd say.

Also congrats on being so close to T! It's going to be an amazing experience, and hopefully you have some good friends at HS that can help you laugh at your voice cracks, stray peach fuzz, etc.

I agree and am happy to say that my parents let me do my own thing and help me when I ask. I don't know why I forgot the schools counselor but that makes the most sense and I have a vice principal but he mosty stays with the elemntary.

I am also grateful too say that my friends have been supportive from the very moment I told them. They told me not to be a ->-bleeped-<-boy and my best friend told me that I have to go to homecoming with her.