i feel great discomfort in being here but i chalk that up to general uneasiness and fear and lack of 100% acceptance with my feelings. otherwise, i feel a sense of belonging and that is nice. 17 and pre-everything, but i have come out to my girlfriend who has shown to be very understanding and supportive and encourages me to embrace it whenever she can visit (she lives in another city ) held back by my own anxiety

hello,,

Hi there, and you've taken the most important first step, which is an acceptance within yourself and the ability to have come out to your girlfriend.

The hardest step is that initial one, you'll have to explore your own feelings in your own time, it may be worth while starting off small with a little bit of make up, dressing up underneath your normal clothes and going out like that and see how you feel in the big wide world, that's how I started and I found it was what was right for me, maybe have your girlfriend dress you up a few times in private and see how it feels, it seems she's very open and accepting of you already from what you've said. Take advantage of this and see if she'd be willing to, if you feel more comfortable and happy dressed, then well you'll have your answer to any doubts you're feeling one way or the other .

There are loads of people here who will help support you through any decision you make, I've spoken to a few already and they are all very nice and helpful I am always about if you just want to talk to someone who has only just come out to friends and family, I know how anxious it can make you, but as long as you tell the right people, people who you feel will support you, you'll do well HUGS AND KISSES xx

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Quote from: Kylie Wilson on July 21, 2015, 09:04:29 AM
The hardest step is that initial one, you'll have to explore your own feelings in your own time, it may be worth while starting off small with a little bit of make up, dressing up underneath your normal clothes and going out like that and see how you feel in the big wide world, that's how I started and I found it was what was right for me, maybe have your girlfriend dress you up a few times in private and see how it feels, it seems she's very open and accepting of you already from what you've said. Take advantage of this and see if she'd be willing to, if you feel more comfortable and happy dressed, then well you'll have your answer to any doubts you're feeling one way or the other .

There are loads of people here who will help support you through any decision you make, I've spoken to a few already and they are all very nice and helpful I am always about if you just want to talk to someone who has only just come out to friends and family, I know how anxious it can make you, but as long as you tell the right people, people who you feel will support you, you'll do well HUGS AND KISSES xx

thank you so much when she is able to come over yes she helps me out big time she does everything she can and i am very very indebted to her. i have opened up entirely to her about this and she has displayed an understanding that shocked me very much. she will be here this weekend and we have talked about going for a walk with me in women's clothing, and also offered to pierce my ears (though i am nervous about the social repercussions of that!!!)

and thank you for the offer

Hi beastinfection, welcome to Susan's. Congrats on the courage to post. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
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Quote from: beastinfection on July 21, 2015, 09:21:03 AM
thank you so much when she is able to come over yes she helps me out big time she does everything she can and i am very very indebted to her. i have opened up entirely to her about this and she has displayed an understanding that shocked me very much. she will be here this weekend and we have talked about going for a walk with me in women's clothing, and also offered to pierce my ears (though i am nervous about the social repercussions of that!!!)

and thank you for the offer

That's lovely to hear, I have to say it's not everyday someone's girlfriend can also become their best girl-friend You're one lucky lady, and that would be a great start, just be glad of who you are while out and about dressed, if you're confident no-one will look twice (well maybe one or two but not necessarily for bad reasons ) and piercing your ears would be a BIG but positive step to embracing who you are. It may help you feel alot more comfortable, but its something to do at your own pace, don't rush it as that's something not easily undone

You're most welcome, as I say, any time

Welcome to Susan's Place. We understand your nerves in coming here but the banner across the top of the page may be a little misleading. This place is welcome to all regardless of where they are in life. I have worked with two GG's who were here for FFS and had no intention of altering their gender. We don't judge and understand you need to learn what you want out of life. We are here to help you with that and are only interested in helping you be happy. Feel free to ask any questions because if you don't know the answer, that is the only way you will find out. We all look cool, calm and somewhat professional but at one time in the past we were very much like you are now. Just give it a little time and this will become a second home to you. If there is anything we can help you with, just ask.

thank you all for the kind words it actually feels really nice to belong somewhere and is a very very welcoming juxtaposition to my relative solitude otherwise lol it is reassuring to know there are other girls out there like me!

Quote from: Kylie Wilson on July 21, 2015, 12:55:24 PM
That's lovely to hear, I have to say it's not everyday someone's girlfriend can also become their best girl-friend You're one lucky lady, and that would be a great start, just be glad of who you are while out and about dressed, if you're confident no-one will look twice (well maybe one or two but not necessarily for bad reasons ) and piercing your ears would be a BIG but positive step to embracing who you are. It may help you feel alot more comfortable, but its something to do at your own pace, don't rush it as that's something not easily undone

You're most welcome, as I say, any time

yeah she's very sweet i realize it's very big and i'm a bit hesitant to do it now because im going on vacation in a few weeks but at the same time i am very eager to do it ? i might wait until after i get back but either way she has promised a makeover and im rather excited thank you so much for the kind words though!! i feel rather good about myself at the moment and am just taking it a day at a time until she gets here!

Quote from: beastinfection on July 21, 2015, 02:21:53 PM
thank you all for the kind words it actually feels really nice to belong somewhere and is a very very welcoming juxtaposition to my relative solitude otherwise lol it is reassuring to know there are other girls out there like me!

yeah she's very sweet i realize it's very big and i'm a bit hesitant to do it now because im going on vacation in a few weeks but at the same time i am very eager to do it ? i might wait until after i get back but either way she has promised a makeover and im rather excited thank you so much for the kind words though!! i feel rather good about myself at the moment and am just taking it a day at a time until she gets here!

I can only speak for myself here of course, but I'm here to help, as I say I've only just come out myself (You can probably see my post a few threads down actually ) But I feel really confident in myself already because of the acceptance I've already had from friends and family, it's so relieving and if you ever get to this point yourself (Depending how you feel after a while) you'll wonder how you ever lived the other way And I'd say take it as slow or as fast as you feel comfortable with, that's the main thing, if you rush into things you may get knocked back for a longer time than if you take it at your own pace.

There's no rush for you, you're still very young and still have many many years ahead of you If it takes 2, 3, heck even 5 years, it won't really matter, what matters is that you make the right decisions for yourself, that's the only thing that matters now xx

Quote from: Kylie Wilson on July 21, 2015, 03:28:10 PM
I can only speak for myself here of course, but I'm here to help, as I say I've only just come out myself (You can probably see my post a few threads down actually ) But I feel really confident in myself already because of the acceptance I've already had from friends and family, it's so relieving and if you ever get to this point yourself (Depending how you feel after a while) you'll wonder how you ever lived the other way And I'd say take it as slow or as fast as you feel comfortable with, that's the main thing, if you rush into things you may get knocked back for a longer time than if you take it at your own pace.

There's no rush for you, you're still very young and still have many many years ahead of you If it takes 2, 3, heck even 5 years, it won't really matter, what matters is that you make the right decisions for yourself, that's the only thing that matters now xx

i already have an idea of what the retrospection will be like!! i dress up often in my room in private and always dread having to switch back so often i just hole myself up there for most of each day haha. i've been toying with the idea of transitioning and hopefully i'll be able to more if i manage to move out by the end of this summer just need to work on the voice haha

i've grappled with these feelings but only very recently found an identity and acceptance within myself, and my confidence is steadily growing. my health insurance covers this so i am hopeful for the future!!!! thanks for all the kind words though 

Hi beastinfection, welcome to Susan's Place! I live near Boston. You're going to meet lots of nice people here, see you around the forums!

Hugs, Devlyn

Hi beastinfection 

Welcome to Susan's    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

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V M

Hi breastinfection and welcome to Susan's. You've taken a big step toward discovery. It's okay to explore your feelings. Embrace the positive feelings you may have. Glad that you posted your introduction. 

thanks everyone for the warm greetings