I'm starting to realize why I'm not into cis guys is because, as much as I hate to admit it, we are fundamentally different from each other when it comes to sexual relations. My mind has always set "sameness" and homosexuality as its preference...and when someone is different from me in sexual aspects, it just conflicts with it.
Maybe it's because I'm becoming at ease with myself, and not trying to continuously fight my actual self anymore?

The greatest piece of advice my gay male friend told me is "stop trying to fight yourself and be cis. you're still a guy. once you come to terms with yourself you will be much more satisfied in life". Indeed, I finally embraced the fact that I'm different, and as my friend said "a unique type of guy", I just gained so much more confidence.

Anyways... I posted a similar question to this a while ago. Does anyone else feel as if they are fundamentally inclined toward homosexuality, and can find its truest meaning in dating other trans men? It's more of a question relating to sex than to just physical and emotional attraction.
To me, personally, being with a cis man just doesn't satisfy that inclination toward homosexuality. We're similar but different. My gay trans friends don't feel this way, just I do.

I don't see why not. Some gay men need their partner to have an average+ sized member, others are fine with whatever. If some gay men are only attracted to someone with a cis-male body similar to their own, why can't you be attracted to someone with a similar body to yours? If you know what I mean? Sexuality is incredibly diverse. There are plenty of cases where transmen are in relationship together and I can see the appeal. There's an understanding that you can't get with anyone who isn't a transman themselves. Physically and emotionally.

I'm fine with cismen but honestly I'm nervous around gay men. I'm not that confident with my body. A bisexual man would be perfect. For some reason i always preferred bisexual guys...now i understand why.

Quote from: Asa Spades on July 28, 2015, 10:45:22 PM
I don't see why not. Some gay men need their partner to have an average+ sized member, others are fine with whatever. If some gay men are only attracted to someone with a cis-male body similar to their own, why can't you be attracted to someone with a similar body to yours? If you know what I mean? Sexuality is incredibly diverse. There are plenty of cases where transmen are in relationship together and I can see the appeal. There's an understanding that you can't get with anyone who isn't a transman themselves. Physically and emotionally.

Exactly! It phases me when other trans guys say, "if a gay man or straight woman wouldn't date or have sex with a trans man, he or she doesn't see him as a real man and can't look past his medical history or his body". If everyone was able to look past someone's body, sexual orientation wouldn't exist, would it?
I bet that if everything about me stayed the same but I was a cis male, I'd be gay. Same thing if I was a cis woman; I'd be a lesbian. I'm just wired that way. Lol. I keep going back to the same conclusion.

Quote from: BenKenobi on July 28, 2015, 11:05:29 PM
I'm fine with cismen but honestly I'm nervous around gay men. I'm not that confident with my body. A bisexual man would be perfect. For some reason i always preferred bisexual guys...now i understand why.

I absolutely agree! A bisexual man could save you the nerves of worrying continuously about, "is he missing out on his true desires in this relationship? is he cheating with a cis man behind my back?". Man, I know those feelings really well...except with a straight girl. And a lesbian lol. I used to fear dating bisexual girls because I thought they would cheat, since they are into both sexes...(of course, many people in general cheat. it's just how people are, sadly).
At the same time - take attention from gay men as a compliment!  Most gay men are super strict and centered on their sexuality that they won't stray from it; hence, if they find you attractive, it's further validation that they see you as regular man.