Hi all,

This is my first post and I'm navigating from my phone, so I'm not sure if this is the best place to post. I think this is mostly strictly surgery, but I'm struggling with the emotions related to surgery. I'm a cis female (somewhat queer, but heteronormative) and my live-in boyfriend is embarking on GRS. We've had our initial consult with Dr Crane and have just scheduled the hysto. I am totally supportive of surgery, but feeling totally overwhelmed.  I love his body in any form, but the finite nature of surgery is bringing up so many unexpected feelings related to our future with children that i didn't expect, especially because we both see babies off into the future.  I'm also having so many fears about being strong enough to be the primary support, that id like to build my support system up because I am stressing myself the heck out.

I guess I was hoping to meet other SO's that have been on the lower surgery journey with their partners and/or those that have kids.  It's been hard because neither one of us feel like we fit in with the local community.

I know there's got to be more support and YouTube channels out there if someone could point me in the right direction.

Thanks!


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There is a chat on susans... you can even use your own chat client software...

there might be a support group in your vicinity...
maybe with meetup, or with a lgbt center...

and nothing is off... its all possible regardless...

I'd say just take your time... try to calm down a bit...

those surgeries are really widespread nowadays and complications are very rare...
you will be all right...


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Hi bwr welcome to Susan's.

There is a SO support area here that may be of benefit to you. I'm not into youtube, but some here may be.

The feelings that go with your partners changes are to be expected. I agree that having support for yourself as well as your partner is important and I am glad you came here.
Feel free to read other people's stories and share more of your own concerns. I think you will find this is a very friendly site.

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Welcome! My wife had GRS about three years ago now, and while I don't think I had all the same worries you do, I definitely remember being stressed out and scared even though she was the one going through it. (We didn't and don't want kids, though... but I admit the permanence of her choice did still strike me at times.)

Thank you for the feedback!  I went to our local support group for significant others and thought it was helpful. There weren't any partners going through the same thing, but it was nice to be able to speak with parents. Gave me a better perspective and made me feel good that my experiences and meeting my BF could them them process their kids just coming out as trans (like less than a week ago). 


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