update on that whole situation, turns out that tricare has been cracking down on out of pocket payments. they are cracking down hard, making it so i have no choice but to go threw my HMO ( making it so i have to inform even more people know about me. personally i dont care but as of right now we are not aloud to serve openly. i have the actual document that was issued but the secretary of defense to all armed forces. luckily my HMO ( a HM1 ) was more understanding then i thought he would be, and much cooler with me about it then anticipated. he asked my permission to talk to an officer then came back and said he was going to have me set up with psychiatrist who would, more or less set down with me and then send me to see and endocrinologist that works with tricare. ( this also is because im not looking to make a full transition while im in the service, im only looking to start HRT) now i just wait for a phone call and make an appointment with the psychologist!