You know, I think on this all the time. I feel like it really is necessary for the trans community to dig deep and find patience at the weird fears and social fubars we face so that we can actually educate the people rather than attack them(which seems to come up too often), but it is soooo tiring and even I see it. Dealing with people who say weird things and think they are being deep or helpful is the worst.
I've noticed people I've known for years say "nice to meet you Amy" when I inform them I'm changing my name. This bugs me, because it's like they assume I'm transforming into someone new. I have to correct them and say "I'm still just me, I'm just more honest now" but I'm secretly hiding so much aggravation over yet again correcting some stupid thought that makes literally no sense to yet another person who just can't grasp the concept of the inside not matching the outside.
It's nice to let it out occasionally anyway.