ohh I just remembered changing in gym class, avoiding anyone seeing my underwear...at the time traumatic and painful, now sorta funny when looking back on it, though I blocked out the memory apparently. Also as someone said, girl shoes sneakers are so general that most people can't tell unless they are pink. pink is fine too if your ok shrugging and saying "there comfortable" or you can give a story about wearing them for breast cancer awareness, no one argues after that.

Serena

Quote from: Foxtran on August 24, 2015, 08:41:27 PM
I have thin curly(ish) hair, at the moment it is wandering dangerously close to mullet territory, thankfully my dad has given up on trying to convincing me to let him give me a haircut that he is gunna take me to the local barber shop were they can cut it better than he could (he can basically do buzz cut and that's it, hate buzz cuts). For hair care I use this amazing stuff that makes my hair ludicrously soft and gets rid of my dandruff, sometimes I will use this stuff that repairs hair and smells like coconut but I only use that when my hair is bad.

If you can grow it out past the point that it stabs you in the eyes, you can get some long hair going.  I recommend non-sulfate based product, as your hair sounds similar to mine, and sulfate can damage delicate hair.  Light curly hair is the best, and most girls will be envious of you if you grow it out.  Also, as a guy without hormones your hair grows better now, so getting it long is best to do now.  If your school won't flip out on it, stop worrying about a mullet and learn some basic hair care.

You'll want two brushes, one with stubs, and one with whiskers(that's how I refer to them, by stubs I mean plastic thick prongs, and by whiskers, I mean lots of thin bendy wires.)  The stubby brush for when your hair is wet, you may also want a dry conditioner.  I like Hollywood Beauty's Olive Oil blend a whole lot, but you can also just use straight olive oil.  This will stop it from puffing up and notting, and allow you to care for it.  It's best to apply it when your hair is drying but not completely wet.  The whisker brush is for brushing when your hair is dry, and should be used about twice daily, maybe a bit more but don't over do it.

I use Giovanni Triple Tea Extract shampoo for my head, and I use the same conditioner:

http://www.amazon.com/Giovanni-Invigorating-Shampoo-8-5-Ounce-Bottles/dp/B001ET788S

No dandruff when I use it, and it feels amazing when you put it in your hair...like minty.  Hair is no longer closely associated with gender so I believe you could get your hair growing while you wait to get out of high school.  You could talk to your dad about this new avenue if you like as well.

Quote from: CosmicJoke on August 24, 2015, 11:33:15 PM
I was not social in high school and I was very quiet and under the radar.

This sounds pretty similar to me, i'm one of the nerds at my school and we sit at a table in the back corner of the lunchroom and generally keep to ourselves so that will definitely help me not get noticed. Something that's funny to think about now is that my freshman year (before I knew I was transgender) one of my fairly observant friends kept asking me if I was gay because I acted pretty feminine, they knew something was up before I myself even knew.

Oh high school. I threw myself into sports when I was young. I was one of only 3 3-sport athletes at my school (and the other 2 played golf in the spring, that's cheating and I became a golf pro later life so I could have done it too). Anyways, I was always the quietest athlete on the team and I was horrible at/very uncomfortable with locker room talk. I just never got it. The faux homosexuality was always very confusing and scary to me as well. I remember a goth boy at my school (2001 so goths were somewhat of a newish thing for my area) and he wore a dress to school everyday but did not identify as trans. I remember being jealous that he had the guys to do that and put up with the abuse. I never said an unkind word to him or about him and would intervene if my friends got on his case.

I could not have lived authentically back then, though my high school was probably one of the most progressive high schools in the whole country. If I attended now it wouldn't be an unusual thing for me to be trans.

I wish you luck on your journey into womanhood and with matriculating from your high school safely and with happy memories.