...and then i decided against it

I have learned over the years that forums are strange places and many
people are rude, "know it alls" or dream crushers

I am choosing to hold onto my dream and not be ignored or deflated
because someone wants to tell me "Oh, that doesnt work, honey" or
you should do this or not do that... or Dont come here and tell these people
they cannot dream and wish themselves into a woman

I am on my own journey and am thrilled with the new things I discover as
well as seeing others here finding those things as well

I will tell you that believing in yourself is a huge part of what we are going through
and if you believe you can change, you will

I didnt write this to offend anyone here, but I guess if you get offended... you might be part
of the problem. Im only being truthful about how I feel and what I have seen through many years
of web forums for many subjects.... And this part of my life means too much to me to
have it run over by anyone

thanks for listening and Im sorry I cannot tell you more

Hi,

It sounds like you're having a difficult time.....  Hugs.....I've been there.

HRT helps thinning hair.  Excercize helps the body.  Support helps the soul.  We are here when you are ready. 

Big Hugs sister.

Jen

I have found that this Forum has been very helpful,  and the participants generally to be caring and supportive. Are we talking about the same forum? I like the phrase 'give and you will receive'.

Well, we try to be supportive. There are certain activities we don't allow discussion of (like self-medication or discussion of dosages, for example) but other than that generally allow and encourage people to talk about their experiences. Glad things are going well for you!

hugs Rita,

Its a shame that you feel that way, I understand sometimes on reticence to share when your journey seems not to fit the perceived way, but we have a very supportive membership so I would not be worried at all.

You should share it, because many may hold back for whatever reason they presume, but in reality your story will help many who may be in a similar position, realised or not.

Best wishes for your continuing journey, seems as though you are progressing well xx

As Grace said there are certain things that are taboo, also if anyone gets a little out of control our Terms of Service ensure that such things are quickly reviewed and if necessary action could be taken, But this is all very unlikely.

Katy 

I had someone be pretty negative and give really bad advice. So I went off on my own and finished transition, had my srs.  Back then I wished I had someone like me around on the forum, so here I am, I can't be there for my former self but I can hopefully be there for others.

Just remember people that are transitioning can have a lot going on in their lives and be under a lot of pressure. Try not take things to heart and certainly trust your medical professionals over random negative internet people.

In this forum you can let yourself go.  A very safe place to 'be yourself' and discover what you want out of life, getting some support along the way.  It's true, if I had listened to peoples' advice and their opinions I would not be where I am today. Would still be hiding away in my room in a body that doesn't fit my inner most being.
                                                                  Follow your heart, but remember to take you brain with you.

Thank you all,

I think some of this comes from a few years back when i joined here (different name) I was trying to explain
that my " parts" were changing without HRT. (which I know believe is due to me lying somewhere on the intersex spectrum, but didnt then) A very important person here chastised me for telling other "girls" that Im changing myself into a woman with my mind.

In a way its completely true.... but maybe a bit different than the "magic" I was thinking at the time... or was it?

I remember some unsupportive members then and it wasnt fun.
Just thought I would explain.... I also have a touch of aspergers so Im really not the best listener to be honest, and I struggle with the "social" aspect of not only forums, but life as well.

Hers a little more honesty

I tend to go into forums where things go well at first, then I get ignored and I act out and get in trouble

Maybe I am that cute little bratty girl that likes to be the center of attention?

I guess I am learning who I am lately and afraid to just be myself

Well, OK. some may find it a bit unbelievable.

I will be honest that I don't really believe in magic.

I do believe in endocrine disorders and disruption so I will grant you that.

Quote from: RitaChans on August 26, 2015, 01:37:11 PM
Hers a little more honesty

I tend to go into forums where things go well at first, then I get ignored and I act out and get in trouble

Maybe I am that cute little bratty girl that likes to be the center of attention?

I guess I am learning who I am lately and afraid to just be myself

I can relate to that.  Most of my life I was in the corner, just called upon when needed.  Never being recognized by any.  An invisible person.  Now that my confidence is soaring for the first time in my life I want to be noticed.  I want conversations to be just about me.  I want to be noticed and not ignored and when I post a pic I want the world to comment on the pic. And if I don't get the attention I really have to be careful not to do something stupid that will damage my reputation and respect.  Just take it easy, you're not just a number here and don't be afraid to show yourself, fearing more rejection or being ignored.