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It is pretty simple in hind sight but you need steps like the following
Therapy, HRT, Hair removal, Putting together your image, cross living for a year and then surgery.
While it sound simple there is money and time involved in each step. I don't know if you have addressed any of this but pick a place to start and ask questions. By the way, most often you need therapy before starting HRT so therapy and hair removal are good place to start.