Interesting thread. Like Eva Marie and others, I had a string of relationships with women Including a marriage and all the women in my life pre-transition, I haves been attracted to because I envied them and wanted to be them. Interestingly the strongest female friendships have been with women that I didn't fancy (sexually) . Now after 2.5 years on Low dose HRT i am sort of stuck midway. I just love the female form and find women very attractive, but the more the Oestrogen takes hold the more I want to be in a relationship with a caring man. Oh to just be a housewife!

Ooh.

Gender identity and relationship roles - can be quite different things.

*nods comprehensively*

Well the first thing that springs to mind for me is...I have only ever had straight relationships and I must say I have always wondered what all the fuss was about when it came to sex...I am being serious here, Enjoyable...in the most part...I have enjoyed my fair share of romps in the hay...but I can't say it has ever been a huge thing in my life...maybe when I was younger and full of testosterone but even then it was more like a bodily function that needed attended to....I am beginning to wonder if I have missed the boat on something here I haven't had any in a long long time...maybe I need to explore non-straight sex but even then that doesn't really appeal to me...me as a woman having straight sex with a man is different...that sits well with me...in fact a bit more than "well" I think if I am being honest.

A blushing...is it hot in here?
Sarah T

I'm bi/pan/whatever af. Early on I thought I was a lesbian, but that was total b.s.. I went through on month of vigorous.... Experimentation.... And discovered a lot about myself. Even after that I didn't think I could have a romantic relationship with a guy, but I have met some guys lately that I could see myself having a relationship with. I am still definitely into girls and nb folks, but right now the person I have a big crush on is a guy.

I had been lesbian for my whole life which made figuring out who I was a bit tricky. I'd considered the possibility that I was "gay" (at the time) but kept coming back to the fact that I had no sexual attraction to guys. After a while on HRT though, I'm starting to lean more towards "bi/pan/whatever" as Amber put it.

I spent my whole life as a "straight" male. I did experiment a time or two with transsexuals because I felt an attraction to the female form.

Now yes, inside, I wanted to be one, but I love the female form. My ex asked me, after I came out to her, what my dating pool would look like. I told her it would cos-women and other TS girls. I have always been the protector type and I doubt that will change much. I would love to be with someone that I can, one, be my female self with and two, be able to be female together, TS or CIS.

Go shoe or clothes shopping together. Have fun being girls.

But at the end of the day, I will always have that want to take care of someone. It's just my nature. I don't think HRT will change that much.

I don't believe that is a gender role, just a part of who I am.

Old-me dated a string of beautiful, very femme - but also very assertive, girls.

Each one was 10 times the man I was. Yet they were definitely female gendered.

I guess my place is on the bottom, huh :~D

all my relationships throughout my life have been very confusing and I'm still confused.

Quote from: brianna1016 on March 24, 2014, 12:13:18 AM
I was never really in my element when I was in a relationship with a woman. After starting hrt I became fully aware that I was only attracted to men. I've dated a couple guys since then and I liked it a lot! Its like I finally understand my role. It feels amazing to have a man treat me like a woman. The chemistry feels natural. I don't feel confused and unsatisfied after sex. Its just so much better in every way!

This is pretty much the way I feel. Only difference though is that I accepted that I liked guys when I realised that I was trans.

J xx

Quote from: sarahtokes on September 02, 2015, 10:45:23 PM
Well the first thing that springs to mind for me is...I have only ever had straight relationships and I must say I have always wondered what all the fuss was about when it came to sex...I am being serious here, Enjoyable...in the most part...I have enjoyed my fair share of romps in the hay...but I can't say it has ever been a huge thing in my life...maybe when I was younger and full of testosterone but even then it was more like a bodily function that needed attended to....I am beginning to wonder if I have missed the boat on something here I haven't had any in a long long time...maybe I need to explore non-straight sex but even then that doesn't really appeal to me...me as a woman having straight sex with a man is different...that sits well with me...in fact a bit more than "well" I think if I am being honest.

A blushing...is it hot in here?
Sarah T

Ok how did you leap into my head and read my mind on this topic? I mean seriously, word for word.

Quote from: vlmitchell on March 24, 2014, 02:11:20 AM
See? This is why this site needs to take down the absolutist rules about language. I'd totally call you a whore now because it's funny and something that is said regularly in women's circles because... y'know... *inclusive* whore = me too... but I can't directly use profanity so I'll just do this whole long paragraph that might get edited anyway but... yeah, I'm tired.

<3

Actually no it's not said in female circles. I dont know where you got that but pretransition literally every female group I've ever been in never referred to the other as a whore other than being mean spirited

 I only became attracted to men after my transition was complete, fully experiencing life as a woman in every way.

Quote from: judithlynn on September 02, 2015, 10:28:36 PM
but the more the Oestrogen takes hold the more I want to be in a relationship with a caring man. Oh to just be a housewife!

That's exactly what happen me, it wasn't planned, it just happen that way, my caring man came into my life, we dated, then got married, if somebody said to me 10 years ago, that I would eventually get married to A MAN and I'd become a fulltime housewife, I would have said they where crazy, but that's the way my life turned out, the rest is history.