I have some financial problems now, namely expensive home repairs.

So I had to stop seeing her. I can resume whenever I need to but truth be told I need the money.

This is uncharted territory for me as I've had her leading me through every step of the way and she did help me with a lot of milestones. But I dunno, I think I will be fine.

In the meantime we are here, but if something does happen and you do need her see what you can do to make it happen financially. Hugs
Mariah 

You will probably be fine for a while but you also might think about seeing her less often like once a month. Make up your mind in a few week after you know how things are going on the home front. Much of the time in my transition period I didn't need to attend as many group meetings as I did and you may be reaching the point where you can fly more on your own. Should you need to talk something out, we will help you as much as we can.

Thanks.

I've never done the support group thing. I really don't see the need for myself and the thought of them was mildly depressing.

However one on one she did give me a lot of good advice.

I can't even afford once a month now. It will be more like once every 2-3 months if that.

Quote from: iKate on September 06, 2015, 04:37:28 PM
But I dunno, I think I will be fine.

I think so too. You have a good head on your shoulders.

Kate you will be fine have some faith in yourself

Yeah but she was a good person to vent to and share milestones with and encourage me along. She helped me come out to my parents and other relatives. She also helped with the transition at work.

In any case when finances get better I will see her more often.

Thanks for the support, it means a lot!

Just keep the option open to see her when you need her, or if a lot of little things start to build up.

Does your therapist do the sliding scale with fees based on financial situation of clients? A lot do this. If so explain your situation and see if she'll work with you to reach a figure that is doable for you. Good Luck.

Kate, I'm really sorry you won't have as much support from your therapist as you have in the past. 

I did want you to know, though, that your posts always inspire and uplift me, partly because my situation is so similar to yours but mostly because you're clearly a smart and sensible lady who can handle anything life throws at her.  I have no doubt you'll be able to weather this bump in the road.  And, as others have said, we'll be here to support you in the meantime.  Hugs!

Liz

Quote from: lostcharlie on September 08, 2015, 03:34:34 PM
Does your therapist do the sliding scale with fees based on financial situation of clients? A lot do this. If so explain your situation and see if she'll work with you to reach a figure that is doable for you. Good Luck.

She probably does but my problem isn't really income, it's expenses.

Septic system repairs on the house
Car repairs
New school year, tons of fees

I also had a scare with my job where I thought I would be on the unemployment line again but that turned out to be unfounded fear.

Incidentally my transition is costing me next to nothing apart from therapy, surgery and hair removal. On an ongoing basis hormones cost like $20 a month total plus $15 for the doctor visit every 2-3 months.

Quote from: ActionLiz on September 09, 2015, 05:38:51 AM
Kate, I'm really sorry you won't have as much support from your therapist as you have in the past. 

I did want you to know, though, that your posts always inspire and uplift me, partly because my situation is so similar to yours but mostly because you're clearly a smart and sensible lady who can handle anything life throws at her.  I have no doubt you'll be able to weather this bump in the road.  And, as others have said, we'll be here to support you in the meantime.  Hugs!

Liz

Thanks for the kind words. I am glad I am able to inspire people, especially my Trans sisters and brothers. Really though I just live my life. It's the end goal of transition right!?

Trust yourself, Kate.  You've been a constant voice of stability here and seem to have a very sensible and well-informed outlook on the whole transition process.  You and your therapist probably worked through the big "low-hanging fruit" issues long ago, and those that remain are far smaller and more manageable alone in comparison.  You can always see how you go for a few months; the therapist will be there in the background if need be, but this might be the push out of the therapy nest that you need in order to realize that you're more than capable of flying solo.

Quote from: iKate on September 06, 2015, 04:51:22 PM
Thanks.

I've never done the support group thing. I really don't see the need for myself and the thought of them was mildly depressing.

However one on one she did give me a lot of good advice.

I can't even afford once a month now. It will be more like once every 2-3 months if that.

FWIW I too do a support group and it does help. At first I thought I would be mentally labeled a lesser person for going. Turns out I would have been the lesser for NOT going. It's 50 miles one way from me and the first time that I went I twice thought about turning around. You'll be in great company I am sure.