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Started by RevanDFS, September 14, 2015, 08:40:35 AM

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RevanDFS

Late Saturday up until this morning a little bit right now. I've been having panic attacks and anxiety so I've three days.  I got a good stable job which I'm not worried about how people  will see me. Or by transitioning well this damage my kids in any way? Is normal to start on hormone like this? 

Then I'll upcoming months when would I do the name change how do I act when can I pass? If I can I'll know what's the point I wear my makeup to work my nails I carry a purse around when I start wearing skirts to my therapy session

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Mariah

It's normal to worry about things especially so early on even later on we do sometimes. It's something you should bring up with your therapist. Any time we take steps forward that can affect others around us and impact our lives it can cause anxiety and panic attacks. Hugs
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suzifrommd

Quote from: RevanDFS on September 14, 2015, 08:40:35 AM
Or by transitioning well this damage my kids in any way?

Studies have shown that children of LGBT parents do just as well as children in general.

As for your other concerns, I had similar anxieties about how my life would be like after transition. Very few of the things I worried about became problems. Most things were about one tenth as hard as I thought they would be.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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Newgirl Dani

Hello Revan, the advice given so far is right on.  I believe the only thing I can say is to do your best to stay in the moment.  This does not mean to ignore what you may think to be a potential problem, but more to just 'land lightly' on them, decide if there is anything that can be done about this at that time, and if not try to set it aside.

I know that it sounds easy but in life it is not.  For myself, I spent many many hours tearing so many many things apart, wanting a solution for everything.  Fortuneately a time came when I finally realized the need to step back, allow things to 'naturally' take their coarse, and to just relax.  Easy?  No it was not.  My only hope is that somewhere in one of these replies you will see your own answer.  I will help in any way I am able, if you need to PM me.  My best,   Dani
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AbbyDS74

Quote from: RevanDFS on September 14, 2015, 08:40:35 AM
Late Saturday up until this morning a little bit right now. I've been having panic attacks and anxiety so I've three days.  I got a good stable job which I'm not worried about how people  will see me. Or by transitioning well this damage my kids in any way? Is normal to start on hormone like this?

I was the same way when I started transition. I started having heart palpatations and had to wear a heart monitor for the first 2 months of transition. They went away after I started to relax a bit but still come back every once in a while when I get stressed out. It's completely understandable that you would be nervous. I think fear is a good thing though. It makes you ask more questions and put more thought into the steps that you're taking. I think with kids, if they're young enough, your transition isn't the problem it's other people telling them that it's wrong. If they're older, you can find creative ways to see how they feel about it. If you feel that HRT is what you need, and you have had your endo and/or therapist inform you of what you're getting into then yes. All my opinion though.

Quote from: RevanDFS on September 14, 2015, 08:40:35 AM
Then I'll upcoming months when would I do the name change how do I act when can I pass? If I can I'll know what's the point I wear my makeup to work my nails I carry a purse around when I start wearing skirts to my therapy session

I found that I should have done the name change sooner, it seems that it took much longer for mine to be finalized than most people that I had seen on here. My goal was to have it changed just before I started full time RLE. I started dressing as my correct gender after the first couple sessions. It's a safe place and a good way to start practicing makeup and hair and finding your style.
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RevanDFS

Thank you so much for the reply everyone. My kids r great 10 and 4. I just don't know how to tell my younger brother and Parents. They know everything about me. But they don't know I'm on HRT. I'm 39 why  worry. Right?  It help make me relax. Plus I started feeling excited to be HRT again .That you girls replied. What does RLE stand for? I hoping to put in hair extension by  December I'll on 4 month.Plus I'm losing weight. I hope to be 200 lbs or under by December.

RevanDFS

I guess it really hard at times to . To find support from people who r on HRT and around the same age as you. Plus that what to be friends on FB or in real life with you.

AbbyDS74

RLE is real life experience. I was the same age as you when I started transition

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RevanDFS

AbbyDs74 you look great. I hope I'm just as lucky...

AbbyDS74

Thank you. Feeling good about yourself is what really matters. 

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Hannahh

Hi Revan,

I totally understand what you are feeling at this time.
I would like to answer you two things :
First, you cannot control the other and their reactions. And probably, more you try it, worst happen. With transition or not, with hormone or not, conflict can happen with kids, parents, family, friends... but i am pretty sure that it is not because hrt, you know.
Second, I think, in life, for everybody, we have to take care of ourselves and do things that make our happy, because, if you, you are happy, it is the best chance to give happiness around you. We are responsible of our happiness. If another person is not happy, you cannot blame you, of course not, never : it is the choice of this person.
I wish you the best and i am pretty sure that with love and love again, everything can be just fine.
Take care of yourself and of your family,
Hannah
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