After we arrived home yesterday my girls wanted to know how the week in New Zealand had gone. I was really reluctant to let things go after coming out to my parents last week. I spoke to my partner and she agreed may as well strike while the iron is hot and tell them rather than leave it till a more "appropriate" time.

I am getting pretty darn good at this coming out thing...just as well because I am now out...out completely apart from one of my Brothers who has an International job and is very hard to get in front of but other than him all the significant people in my life now know.

I started by telling them I had Gender Dysphoria and then moving on explain where I was at and what I was feeling. They both immediately gave me their unconditional love however the younger of the two was struggling as she didn't really understand. So we sat and we talked and we cried and we laughed. We as a family "got into it" and they asked a number of questions which I answered. But by the end of it they knew where they stood.

It is going to take a few days to sink it and then they may want to talk some more. I will make myself available. I have told them both they can talk to me anytime they want and we as a family will get through this. I also reassured them I was still there Dad and always would be. That I would manage this like I have many other things in my life and that we as a family would be Ok. They have both told their respective partners so there will be no secrets and the girls will be able to have the support from their partners.

The kind of conversation I had with my girls after telling them is the conversation I expected to have with my parents when I came out not the wall of silence I was greeted with. I am so happy that my girls are still happy to be part of my life and the younger one said she would help me with doing my nails and hair if I wanted....talk about blown away, the elder daughter also offered her assistance with makeup and clothing choices... I was really happy with he outcome and really proud to be the father of such beautiful human beings, both of them understood that the conflict I have would be causing me huge amounts of pain. This empathy surprised me the most because I did not think they would understand that part of it. Wrong again...I am making a habit of this.

I have the beginnings of a feeling I have not had for as long as I remember..... is that hope ?

Sarah T   

You have had quite a few weeks Hon!

I certainly have and there is much more that happened while I was away but I feel strangely calm. I am still angry with my parents and probably will be for awhile but that will pass. I am really looking forward to moving in the direction of peace in my life...I really do need some. I am so proud of my girls I know that it is not over and they will want to speak to me further. I am really happy to do that

Sarah T

You did something right when you raised your children and they are now repaying you in a way you never expected. I know would have continued your transition regardless of the outcome but the road ahead is looking much smoother.

Sarah,

This is brilliant. You are just speeding right along. I am sorry to have read your post about your experience visiting your parents. It cerainly could have been worse. I can hope my girls will react as well as yours have.

Congratulations. Let the hope float.

With warmth

Joanna

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