I still have some time to go before I start transitioning but I know it's what I want to do. I've been reading about its effects and I like everything about it but it worries me that I've read some accounts where people's sexual orientation changed after they started taking hormones.

All my life I have been attracted to women, even before I knew I was transgender I would prefer lesbian porn and if I watched straight porn when any penetration started I would lose all interest. All my sexual and romantic fantasies are with me and another girl as lesbians (my body is completely female there).

It wouldn't really bother me if I started being attracted to men but being attracted to women is something I really value. I would still do it regardless but that would bother me a lot.

It might broaden, and there might be things below the surface that come up, but it won't change. Think of it as letting some light into the room ...

Welcome to Susan's Place. I don't think HRT changes your sexual orientation but it and the surgery might make you interested in both sides of the fence. As a woman, society will no longer look down on you if you have sex with a man and you might be interested to see what it's like. What ever you decide, I think you will enjoy it. One thing the hormones will do is reduce your sex drive. It won't be constantly on your mind like it is now. Also you will reach a point where you experience sexual excitement as a woman would and I think it's more enjoyable that the way a man experiences it.

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Quote from: Zoetrope on September 26, 2015, 06:53:51 PM
It might broaden, and there might be things below the surface that come up, but it won't change. Think of it as letting some light into the room ...

This^ like transition in general starts unveiling a lot of things you had suppressed for so long. I'm still learning so much about myself 5 years into this, so yeah it won't change your orientation. You'd be surprised how well the human mind can forget and bury things so deep that it's like not even there.

The previous ladies were all right..  It's what's in your head..  I have to admit I've had some really wild dreams lately about guys, but it's your mind running through scenarios to get you used to things you may fear (or enjoy). 

I doubt I could ever be with a guy (too hairy is my mood killer)  but ya never know:)  I said that comming into this transition..  But I always told myself I wasn't going to transition,  then it wasn't remove all my hair, then it wasnt wear more femenine clothes, then it wasn't wear makeup, now I'm working on surgery dates..  everything I said I would never do, I still have an issue wearing a skirt and a dress, but finally got one of each for that day:)

So with all that said, I've always been hetero with women and always will?  Why worry and just let nature take its course..  we only do what we feel is right to us, or at least that's my ideals on transition..  I hope you don't have preconceived notions how it's supposed to end..  just start the transition and see where it takes you..  stop when you are satisfied..  good luck;)

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Thank you, this puts my mind at ease. I'm not really scared about my sexuality broadening, I was just kind of scared that what I have would be taken away.

I totally get where OP is coming from but from the opposite direction. I was never interested in lesbian porn. If there wasn't penetration, I wasn't interested. In everyday life, I can count the number of times I was physically attracted to a male and noticed it, but women kept my head on a swivel. It's taken me a long time to realize I'm drawn to women out of jealousy and by getting close with a woman, smelling her scent, feeling her softness, it is a need of mine.  Privately, men have always been my primary fantasy, back to my first ever climax. The problem is, I'm supposed to be the woman with a man, and being a man with another man is repulsive to me. That's not to say that I'm not aroused by women, obviously, since I've fathered two children and have a relatively active sex life with my wife.

After transition, I have little doubt that I will be a straight woman.

I take the view that its doesn't matter how my orientation changes a long as I enjoy life. I wasn't too happy discovering I'm transgender, but I've learned to accept myself however I am. I'll admit it did take a while, but I've reached a pretty good place.

Quote from: KatelynBG on September 26, 2015, 07:49:36 PM
I totally get where OP is coming from but from the opposite direction. I was never interested in lesbian porn. If there wasn't penetration, I wasn't interested. In everyday life, I can count the number of times I was physically attracted to a male and noticed it, but women kept my head on a swivel. It's taken me a long time to realize I'm drawn to women out of jealousy and by getting close with a woman, smelling her scent, feeling her softness, it is a need of mine.  Privately, men have always been my primary fantasy, back to my first ever climax. The problem is, I'm supposed to be the woman with a man, and being a man with another man is repulsive to me. That's not to say that I'm not aroused by women, obviously, since I've fathered two children and have a relatively active sex life with my wife.

After transition, I have little doubt that I will be a straight woman.

I can totally relate to all of the above. 

Hi Needle

Those are my considerations too. My best advice is don't be scared. Look at it as discoveries, not as changes.

Background: I am now into men only, but also getting asexual until I have had SRS. I haven't gotten to hrt yet.

For me HRT didn't change it. As I have went through the process of transitioning it opened my eyes to what my sexual orientation was all along. I think often we suppress it before transition and everything that we do including HRT helps free what our sexual orientation actually is in those cases. Hugs
Mariah

personally I've never understood the worry. Hormones are a natural part of human biology. We're not talking invasion of the species by an alien organism that will totally wipe blank your personality so you become a clone of an alien species. Your are who you are , free will and all.

Hi Needle,

There is no scientific information that HRT changes sexual orientation. What can change is acceptance of your sexuality, particularly if it is latent or suppressed. I could never accept myself as Gay, but I readily accept myself as a straight woman.

Always remember, love, sexuality and gender are different things; don't get hung up on them. You are who you are, and that is the wonderful thing about being human.

ive never dated or been with a man but a year and a half into hrt and ive become very boy crazy. im still hella into girls too. idk i think its cool. i no longer feel as much shame for finding some guys attractive

I don't think you should worry too much about your sexual orientation changing. At most, it might expand a little, but a high majority of the time what attracts you will always attract you. So if you are attracted to women now, even with HRT you will still be attracted to them. Surely the hormones will effect some of your thinking, but I doubt its anywhere near powerful enough to completely change your sexual orientation as a whole.

Hormones can't and wont change your sexual orientation. If it did, they'd use it to "cure" gay people.... Which is exactly what people tried a few years back and found it didn't work.

It's not that HRT changed my orientation, it's that it helped me get my head out of my ... self. The sexual relationships I'd had before were limited to women because I didn't want to be with men as a man, but with women I enjoyed it vicariously through their pleasure. It's weird to explain and deconstruct, but saying I'm attracted to masculinity whether within women or men is more to the point.
Therapy made me grasp my orientation better, and HRT is helping me get to where I focus on myself. Now it's just that I'm tired of the extra drama with dating women, so I date men and put up with bs.


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- Katie
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Quote from: Cindy on September 27, 2015, 03:40:09 AM
Hi Needle,

There is no scientific information that HRT changes sexual orientation. What can change is acceptance of your sexuality, particularly if it is latent or suppressed. I could never accept myself as Gay, but I readily accept myself as a straight woman.

This really resonates for me. Back in my early 20's when I experimented with transitioning one of my "tests" was the reality of sex with a man vs the fantasy. The fantasy  part was far better. I was totally aroused by women only it seemed. TBH- I never lost the "Some guy in a dress" feeling either.

Today, after coming to accept, embrace even, the fact I am a woman, men are a lot more arousing and women far far less so.