so i have a few questions i was hoping you guys and gals could answer

1: when you hear about trans usually the person who is trans feels like they are trapped in the wrong body but i dont feel that way or maybe i do i more so feel like i would be much happier as a girl

2:i am going to go get my blood drawn so i can get some info like if i need any pills because of hormone stuff that is making me depressed kind of and other problems i have i think its a good idea because i think if i need any pills to be happy then i can take them and it will help me confirm im trans am i wrong

that is all thank you and if you could please answer my questions

Well, I can tell you for certain that it isn't always that feeling of being trapped in the wrong body. I thought that's how it was, too. So it took me a very long time to even consider myself to be trans, and longer still to accept it. Dysphoria presents in many different ways, and for me it was more of an indifference to my body rather than revulsion or feeling trapped.

Everyone is different.

Quote from: preston j sannicolas on October 02, 2015, 02:59:34 PM
so i have a few questions i was hoping you guys and gals could answer

1: when you hear about trans usually the person who is trans feels like they are trapped in the wrong body but i dont feel that way or maybe i do i more so feel like i would be much happier as a girl

I do understand why you may think that you have to "feel a certain way" to "qualify" as Trans. This is simply not true.      Everyone's story is their own and unique. There are commonalities with each  but your story can be different. It doesn't change how you feel about yourself. You may be happier as a girl but that is a huge step and fraught with all kinds of hassles along the way. If it is who you are then now is the time to get some help.

Sarah T

Can I suggest a therapist or counsellor to help you sort out how you feel

We had a thread 2 weeks ago and I should have book marked it but  everybody felt like they wanted to be a girl. There is nothing wrong with the way you feel as that is pretty common. After surgery like I am you feel like you are a girl in body and mind.

The blood test are to make sure it's safe for you to take hormones. Most people don't have problems with hormones but a few people do. In their case, the treatment is altered to reduce the risk. As you are young and healthy, I don't think they will find any problems.

Quote from: preston j sannicolas on October 02, 2015, 02:59:34 PM
so i have a few questions i was hoping you guys and gals could answer

1: when you hear about trans usually the person who is trans feels like they are trapped in the wrong body but i dont feel that way or maybe i do i more so feel like i would be much happier as a girl

An awful lot of us never felt that way. A lot of us feel exactly the way you do.

Quote from: preston j sannicolas on October 02, 2015, 02:59:34 PM
2:i am going to go get my blood drawn so i can get some info like if i need any pills because of hormone stuff that is making me depressed kind of and other problems i have i think its a good idea because i think if i need any pills to be happy then i can take them and it will help me confirm im trans am i wrong

that is all thank you and if you could please answer my questions

Others may disagree, but I didn't find hormones told me whether I was trans or not. The fact that I wanted to be a girl told me I was trans. The hormones helped me actually get there.

thank you for the answers i know my mom is going to try to find a therapist (i live in Michigan)

and if i do have some hormone in balance or whatever and i end up needing some medication i dont think it will change my thoughts if any thing it will help clear up my doubt

I know not all trans ppl feel the "trapped in the wrong body feeling!" I, for one fluctuate between feeling trapped and just feeling like "what the heck is this? this isn't right." Other times I'm just like "yeah, I'd make a much better dude." It's different for everyone, and your feelings of "transness" are completely valid.

About the second part, I personally don't believe that other mental illnesses can cause the feeling of being transgender... I think it's the other way around. Like, I developed severe depression because I am treated as the gender I am not, not the other way around.

Hope that helps!

Quote from: thorhugs on October 02, 2015, 03:58:05 PM
Well, I can tell you for certain that it isn't always that feeling of being trapped in the wrong body. I thought that's how it was, too. So it took me a very long time to even consider myself to be trans, and longer still to accept it. Dysphoria presents in many different ways, and for me it was more of an indifference to my body rather than revulsion or feeling trapped.

Everyone is different.

Yes! This very much. The indifference especially. and yes I feel like I would be happier.

I never felt the whole 'trapped in the wrong body' thing. Just a preference of one over the other, and feelings of apathy and frustration to the current.

Thanks, dude.

Hi there

I will throw my thoughts into this thread.

Personally I have never felt I am trapped in the wrong body, but I have always felt different.  I say my brain is wrong to be a man.  Growing up, I always wanted to to be the little girl or woman in the tv shows that I watched.  Very rarely did I want to be a guy.  Although I had boys toys and played happily with them, I enjoyed hanging out with the girls even more.  Their games were softer, more gentle and it was fun until the boys started calling me names.

Around men, I feel very uncomfortable because I am not like them, and don't fit in.  I don't fit in with women either because I am not the same as them.  Now I don't think I am a woman or have a huge desire to be one.  I just know I hate being a guy so much.  Part of my brain is stuck when I was 10 years old and my father died.  I was called the man of the house by relatives.  I've never wanted to be a man and be swamped by everything that a man is supposed to be.  I am now 48 and still feel the same way.

When I let the girl inside me out for some air, it's quite wonderful.  I am different person entirely, Gone is the anger and hatred of life, gone is the shyness and low self esteem, gone is feeling of hopelessness.  She is part of me, a big part of what makes me who I am.

There is no right or wrong way to be Transgender.  Either you are or are not and the way you feel is UNIQUE to you.  You can't compare yourself to others.  It's like comparing 2 pianists, both playing the same piece.  There are going to be differences, even if they are very minor, they are still there.  Neither is wrong, just different.