How do you all deal with salespeople in the womans department?
I have plenty if confidence when there, and thick enough skin for the looks and comments, but I'm thinking of a new approach to settle there fears, insecurities.
Would it be appropriate to pull the sales person aside and just tell them who there dealing with and hope that eases there anxiety?
Maybe give them the option to opt out, and find a neutral gender salesclerk who can/will help?
There has been a couple incidents where I was shopping panties and the girls/ladies almost try to shoo me away because of their disgust? Insecurities? Who knows what. I then revert to making them comfortable by leaving.
I'm wanting to buy a pair of jeans at CK, I will tuck, cute panties, and need help not judgement.
I have no girlfriend to go with, otherwise I would love this option.
Any thoughts?
Chrissy

Most sales persons try their best to sell the products, regardless of your gender or appearance. If not, he/she is a dumbass and you do not need to visit there again.

In my case, I usually purchase in female mode, but do not try hard to pass. If necessary, I let them know I am a kind of transgender. They recommend some products for me, sometimes providing tips on beauty and usage of the product. Although honesty can give you freedom, sometimes you may hide something, depending on your feelings.

This is the same when I visit a hair salon. Usually the hair dresser wants to chat with me a lot while taking care of my hair. Even she knows I am a male, she treats me as a woman, providing tips on beauty and hair care while calling me as a female pronoun.

barbie~~

I am not an expert on shopping for female clothes and up to recently I had a beard and I would go in and go shopping for my female attire and nobody seemed to care and think 'oh this guy is probably looking for something nice for his wife' and I really don't care either way now what they think and I just go about my shopping and if I get dirty looks or what not I just don't care anymore.

I haven't really gotten any negative feedback when I am out shopping for female attire and if they do meet me with some negative feedback then I will just deal with that when it comes. I think for the most part they will judge if they want to but that we shouldn't care, if they give us attitude and don't want our money then we can always go somewhere else. I think its that easy unless you live in a small town where you don't have that many options then I say confront them if they are giving you attitude and I am sure it won't happen again.

I prefer to engage one of the older sales ladies with a specific question.

Such as: "are the straps on this bra long enough for me to wear it multiway?" or "I am looking for plain-topped stockings to wear with a garter belt".

The detailed discussion which then often follows removes any embarrassment from either side, and I sometime even get lovely remarks like: "I wish I was small enough to wear a pretty bra like that".

Well i shop both guy and gurl mode and i have not had any issues. One lady actually saw me buy a dress and she was joking and said that will look great on you and i said thanks its for me...she really didnt know what to say but she smiled as i left. I have found almost anyone at Ross is veru helpful.

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I mainly shop at target for all my clothing needs so far no attitude, no odd looks, no judgments unless it was after the fact that I was gone. Though even in the case I get all my stuff bras, panties, skirts, jeans or anything has been no issues. Even though female mode (except the hair really), half the time I still get classified as male they probably just think I'm getting stuff for a girlfriend or something, even though I'm basically wearing the female stuff that I got there to begin with.
The one time I went to sears to check for clothes, the lady almost gave me a hard time to use the changing rooms, since she was doing both the register while needing to watch over the rooms. I just waited patiently, and then she decided to change her mind.

Kate <3

I was shopping today... Was made aware I was in the woman's section, I told the salesgal, I know, I'm suppose to be here, I'm transgender, so she took a second to think, and did help me figure out the conversion of jeans sizing. She came back ( after talking with manger maybe?) , and let me know I was to use the "mens" changing room, I agreed. I assume because I was not fully dressed female that makes sence. I was wearing female top and bra, no breast enhancements, fem jewlery, etc.
There is clearly a line you must cross to join the woman in the publics eye.


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Chrissy, don't worry in the least about making a salesperson comfortable , THEIR job is to make you comfortable and assist you in anyway they can. Been shopping for girl clothes 40 + years ,the vast majority of times in guy mode. Never had a salesperson question what I was doing in the women's dept. If you feel your not being treated well try a different store. Bottom line with most sales people your money does the talking. You could have two blue heads but if you have the "green" they don't care.

Quote from: Chrissy5946 on October 11, 2015, 06:46:44 PM
I was shopping today... Was made aware I was in the woman's section, I told the salesgal, I know, I'm suppose to be here, I'm transgender, so she took a second to think, and did help me figure out the conversion of jeans sizing. She came back ( after talking with manger maybe?) , and let me know I was to use the "mens" changing room, I agreed. I assume because I was not fully dressed female that makes sence. I was wearing female top and bra, no breast enhancements, fem jewlery, etc.
There is clearly a line you must cross to join the woman in the publics eye.


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In my country, most of changing rooms are unisex, and usually there is only one room next to a booth. Only one person can enter the room.

Is there any specific reason for marking the rooms by sex?

barbie~~

I used to skulk around the ladies wear for a long time before making a purchase and unwittingly drawing attention to myself. Some months ago I was feeling particularly brave and went and went straight to what I wanted to purchases...panties and Bra's, took my time to get exactly what I wanted. I bought a couple of tops some makeup and earrings. I was confident and it must have showed in my manner because no-one apart from the sales clerk batted an eyelid and the only thing she commented on was the pretty top I had in my trolley.

Confidence, go to the shop like you own it, Most people do not notice you and do not care what you are purchasing as they are too wrapped up in their own world. I do much more of my shopping online now as it is so much easier and cheaper.

Sarah T

I go to stores with my wife and I have no problem looking through the ladies wear areas. It is my wife that has more anxiety issues about what others will think.
I was in one store holding some items for my wife when a salesperson walked up looked at me and said "would you like to try these on". Then she stammered as it was an automated response. I struggled to hold back a "hell Yeah" response.
My wife looked at me and we had a really good laugh about it.
I agree with Barbie that if you have a bad experience then find another store. They are there to sell and only a very few will cast judgement.
To buy your jeans I would just ask straight that you prefer the ladies cuts and you need help selecting the right ones. Walking out in either mens or woman's jeans for appraisal remember your still just in jeans and the right sales person will not give you bad judgement.
Good Luck Chrissy.