Hey guys, I believe this topic is allowed but I was wondering a few things.

How does post op sex feel, is it true that penis size plays apart on the ''depth'' of the new vagina? Does orgasm feel good and how hard is it to achieve? Is it true that you have to dilate every day for the rest of your life and how on earth do you fit that around social life if it's multiple times a day.

well many people report post op sex feeling kind of right because it can be penetrative.

Penis size plays some role. The longer people wait after hrt the smaller some parts might become. But many surgeons use skin grafts to gain material. The graft might be hidden in a fold so sometimes its not visible.

Concerning orgasm, estrogen levels should be high enough. Some people even take a small dose of testo to help with overall drive and orgasm ability. Bioidentical progesterone might also help some.
Meds against depression might also play a role... its possible to switch if this might help...

You don't dilate daily. Only in the first few months. Afterwards its only once a week... or month... and some say sex can replace dilation, some say it doesn't 

I am really glad about the dilation part, I saw a YT video saying you have to do it 4 times a day every day lol

Quote from: Skylar1992 on October 19, 2015, 03:03:39 PM
I am really glad about the dilation part, I saw a YT video saying you have to do it 4 times a day every day lol

You do this only in the first few months.
Afterwards much less is necessary, and some people even replace it with sex after a few months.

I've never had sex with a guy, so that may or may not count for your question, but my wife and I have used toys... and it's fantastic.

Whether penis size matters depends on the method, but for penile inversion, yes, it's relevant. It's not as direct as original penis length = depth, though. The surgeons can stretch things quite a bit.

Orgasm is amazing, but it's definitely a lot more work these days - half an hour or more of working up to it. On the bright side, the journey is almost as much fun as the destination.

I had to dilate 4x a day for the first month or so, but by a year post-op I was down to once a week for 15 minutes. Nowadays at 3+ years post-op, well... I'm supposed to do the once a week "for life," but I've gotten lazy and it's more like every other week.

Im in the process of this at the moment... I had to dialate 3× a day for 2 months then 2× a day for another 2 months and now i have to do it once a day and i have been doing this now for 3 and a half months... But yes they do say that you are aiming for once a week for life or once a month depending on factors...
Everyones bodys are different and in my case i cant go down to once a week at the moment because my body is taking its time.. This is the reason im still stuck to once a day.. And yes it is anoying it is taking so longe when my friends didnt have to wait this long.. But needs a must i guess....
For me sex is far better souly because it is more natural to me now and im not focused on anything else apart from what is going on. And because i am more focused on the act i tend to enjoy it alot more.. The sensations are very good too when done in the right way.. But penatration orgasums i havnt experianced yet. But i am hoping with time i will, but i cant really answer that....
I guess im still learning and trying to find the right ways for me to do things and i do find new things out about me daily, and you would be the same because everyone has different things they like, emotions they feed on, and also sensations which stimulates the different sences. I guess it just takes time and practice.

I hope this helps answering your question skylar,

Lea xXx

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I will answer from the perspective of someone who has been in my proper body for quite some time (2 decades+). In short, the "o"'s can be mind blowingly awesome and go on and on for a lovely length of time. As ones body chemistry changes, so do your senses of smell as does ones personal scent. Amazing little details. So many little things one may never consider as you jump down the rabbit hole of finally coming to terms of getting on with life as it should in the best manner you can.

Of course your most important sex organ (brain) always plays the major role of no role but I am over the top pleased at how things turned out. As many of us get to live two separate and distinct lives, the differences between the sexes are in so many ways quite marked.

The sensations, post SRS, will continually develop so do take time to thoroughly and continually explore your self and ALL of your senses. Truly love and accept yourself. It is amazing the things that are turn ons (and offs). A simple scent for example can get me all a twitter or conversely another scent may repel. A sultry voice melts me (oddly some male voices really move me). Touch, common human courtesy and interaction can be most sensual (as opposed to sexual) and most alluring.

I identify as gay woman, meaning I find much more comfort with other women but have fooled around with few men and though on rare occasions do find a few men attractive.My first encounter was so laughably awkward, but after all these years we are still good friends. They can be amusing but of the few I have been with, I felt somewhat like a science experiment for their edification afterwards as they either knew my business but i also felt the need to inform to avoid and possible reprocussions/conflicts.

To me, being with someone you are genuine attracted to and "click" with, someone you are really into, someone that shares your feelings, makes all the difference. Experimenting and rando one nighters (BTDT) can be interesting and to some empowering, but at the end of the day one is left with their thoughts and sometimes nothing more.

I am stealth and very private by nature. So much so that the woman that is now my wife (met years into my 2nd life and been together for 14+years now, married this past January when the state laws were finally amended) only ever spoke of TG issues in late 2014 when I desired some FFS due to aging, this after more than 13 years after being together! She simply stated to me last fall she figured if I needed to talk about something I would. She just accepted me as any other woman and loved me for me. Same for her children and our grandkids. God, I Love my wife! I married my best friend...

Anyway, I just thought I would pass on my experiences as someone a bit older than many here on Susans as so many others burdened as we are with being born so wrong, many are now coming to grips with transitioning much earlier than when I did.

Things were very different not too long ago. It was not uncommon to be verbally harassed, physically attacked or had murder attempts perpetuated on some. I was one such person (on a different job when information on a government security clearance, a federal offense, was freely bandied about). I survived and still moved forward growing into the person I am today. Focus on goals and a deaf ear to jibes and remarks by buttheads saw me gain success beyond my wildest dreams prior to transitioning. i never thought I would own a business much less 3 and actually was gifted with finding my calling in life.

I am so very heartened to see young women and men realizing their true selves at much earlier ages than just 10 or 15 years ago. Parents that are actually listening to their children and helping rather than universally ridiculing as was pretty much the norm but a seemingly short time back. It genuinely brings tears of joy to my eyes. So many faces that are now smiling their true smiles and casting aside the shells we we had lived in for how ever long. Nothing is easy for us, but life beckons.

I always say "Live up to your potential rather than down to others expectations".

Note: to mod's As I am not sure how descriptive one can be here without running afoul of Mod settings please let me know if I have overstepped. 

Enjoy the new day
Elaine

Quote from: Skylar1992 on October 19, 2015, 02:49:55 PMHow does post op sex feel.... Does orgasm feel good and how hard is it to achieve?

That is like trying to describe the colour red to a blind person - words can never come close to doing it justice.

Quote from: Northern Jane on October 20, 2015, 06:37:26 AM
That is like trying to describe the colour red to a blind person - words can never come close to doing it justice.

Well it can be described a bit...

people say its more drawn out, and can be more like a body orgasm...
there are two neuronal pathways, one via the clit and one via the prostate which becomes a g/pspot.
So there are a few things which can be experimented with.
Dilating is important in the beginning.
Some people dilate before sex for some time... and some people use applicators for wetness before an event....
some people use coconut oil because it does not dry out as fast, but its necessary to use non latex condoms then.

For some people it takes time to get used to how to play with the new parts..
some people get it right away.
There are toys like the lelo smart wand big, its possible to use a cloth in between if they are too powerful (all your own risk... and wait until the surgeon says its safe).

Concerning wetness there are studies showing the neovagina can turn into a mucosa over months with the presence of estrogen as dominant hormone.
Some people report a very slippery substance coming from the urethra, so they are wet by themselves.
Not holding in might help then...
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,41563.msg270533.html#msg270533

Quote from: Skylar1992 on October 19, 2015, 03:03:39 PM
I am really glad about the dilation part, I saw a YT video saying you have to do it 4 times a day every day lol

it depends on your surgeon, Chett is 3 x 50 min dilation sessions a day for the first year.Then 1.5 hours a day after the first year. Other surgeons are less.

Orgasm's are harder to achieve but 100 times better imo