Quote from: Jill F on August 02, 2015, 04:21:05 PM
My wife got carded for beers at Dodger Stadium yesterday.  When I grabbed one of them, I was carded as well. When the clerk noticed that we have the same last name, she asked if we were sisters.  When we explained that we were married, she just assumed it was a very recent thing and congratulated us.

Passing for cis is nice, but I passed for plausibly 20.  Jill for the double win!

Yes. A merit of m2f transgender people is that they look far younger.

barbie~~

This has been my first full week of passing consistently.

It all began when my pharmacist looked right through me when she was calling my birth name. She laughed in nervous embarrassment when I caught her eye and indicated it was me she was looking for.

Then came more ID shock when I presented it to get my ears pierced. The guy handled it really well though. Without missing a beat he said "I have to put your legal name here but you can put down your preferred name over here."

The week ended with hellos from wait staff adressing myself and my Mom as "girls" etc.

When I asked where the bathroom was at a Pennsylvania museum I was directed to the lady's...

I don't know how it happened or what I am doing (it might be anything but I have seen an uptick in physical change from the hrt) all I know is that I effin' love it.

Ok...I know I just posted here but I had another one. I was feeling so good I went back to my old early transition enemy. Algorithms. A friend posted a link on facebook to a site that would tell you what celebrity you look like. I got Kourtney Kardashian (sp?). That got my ego going so I went to the "how old do I look" site. When they released it a couple months ago I fed pic after pic into it. It could not peg my age, ranging me from the teens to the octogenarian area and always as male. It ruined my confidence. With extreme trepidation I entered a photo from yesterday...

It pegged me exactly as I am...a 37 year old woman!

Kellam: I think it's confidence.  You know you are a woman so the little mannerisms are falling into place and people  don't have cause to check.

When you try and tell a group of new friends that you are Trans, nobody believes you and think you are making a joke, and laugh at you. I even did my male voice and they said it just sounded like I was trying to sound like a man. One of them even told me off for trying to make a joke out of Trans ppl as they have Trans friends.

When you meet up with someone you and your sister worked with for a couple years thinks that you are your sister.

She thought I was my sister and had grown like 6 inches from the last time she had seen me.
The best was her reaction when I told her who I used to be

...you try to not pass and fail, at least with strangers.

I've been having a difficult time lately as I've reached that point where fully socially transitioning must happen.  Soon. 

I work in an office.  Yay, for employment! It's the only place left where I live as a guy.  Boo, for highly religious employers (what was I thinking)!  Anyway, we had high-level visitors today, so that meant the end of six months of casual dress. 

I did my best, I really did.  Binder as always, Dress slacks, dress shirt, oxfords.  No tie, because...I just won't.  Pulled my hair back in an "I.T. ponytail".  I mean, I *felt* pretty butch, right?  Okay, the shirt was a really pretty lavender, but whatever.

Our server room A/C units had failed when I came in, so I was swapping failed drives and getting servers back up again for the first few hours of the day.  The HVAC guys were going in and out of the room, doing their thing.  Every time they needed something, I got "ma'amed", and referred to as "her" and "she".  And they were nice enough to hold the door for me very politely and pointedly whenever we were going back to the main office area at the same time. 

I think I could get used to this. 

Walking through the gun aisle in Walmart while in a dress and passing by a bunch of guys in camo who stare at you weird.

As you walk to the other aisle you hear them laugh amongst each other and assume they clocked you, but instead you hear them say;

"She looked lost."

When nobody pays attention to me.



barbie~~

You know you pass when you get arrested and the jailer asks you if you are pregnant when he books you in

You go through a drive-thru presenting as female but no makeup, 2 day old scruff, not even trying my female voice and I still get ma'am'd.

..when the gas-fitter guys and a stranger in the office greets you with "Good morning ma'am!" while you are pretending to be a man because you did not come out at work yet ...

When you go through the TSA airport screen in Orlando (plus several other locations) with absolutely no search, wand waiving or any other questions  (as I did in the past few weeks).

Male Fail Lynne!  Time to go full time.

Does this count?  After an evening service at a church I've started going to, where they don't know me, I chatted to two of the other women.  I mentioned an LGBT group then said I had called myself lesbian while I was going through my divorce.  One of the women gave a wry chuckle that I thought meant she or a close friend had also been through a bitter divorce.  If they had any suspicions about my 'history' I think I would have found out at that point.

When you look in the mirror and you are happy/satisfied with your reflection.  We are our worst critics, so when we honestly pass to ourselves, we have arrived. And to be honest, I'm not where I want to be yet, but I will continue to do everything in my power to make improvements. 

When you call places to change your name, and they automatically assume you're changing your last name...

When you're driving and some strange guy pull up to or in front of you and makes obscene gestures like they want to lick your lady bits, then points to the side of the road like they want you to pull over, and signals early, then pulls over.  It's happened to me twice in the past week.  This goes way beyond cat calls, it's really pervy. 

-Alana

Probably mentioned already, but, when you get carded and they don't believe that picture is actually you...

And you know you've found a great bra when someone who knows about you asks if you've recently had a boob job, lol.

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Quote from: KristinaM on October 22, 2015, 06:02:57 AM
Probably mentioned already, but, when you get carded and they don't believe that picture is actually you...

Hahaha that happened to me at Costco.
The cashier asked for ID because the picture didn't look like me. I showed her my DL. I still had the old name on it but gender marker was F.

Hi I had a wonderful weekend for the first time I was out shopping with the Wife and she did not out Me to anybody she has a habit of introducing Me as her husband when I am living full time as a Woman . Then Sunday I was at our church where everybody knows I am Trans  but I am totally accepted and a lady approached Me and Said" You look lovely My Dear". I went shopping on my own in the afternoon and went into Clare's to get a new ear piercing I had 3 Young girls around Me discussing the placement and saying things like I think the Lady needs it moved a little to the left HEHeHe . But my favourite one was I was in BK having a snack and a older couple sat with Me at the table and We got chatting about this and that I mentioned that I had great grand children and they Said "You are never a Greatgranny" .I loved it