Always remember, everyone, most of these people who are anti-trans are simply uneducated about us.
In a survey of 4500 American adults which was done back in the year 2013, only 9 percent of survey respondents reported having a close friend or family member who is transgender. NINE percent. (Odds are that in reality that number is much much higher, that many people aren't even aware that a certain friend of their is trans, but still, only 9 percent are consciously aware that a close friend is trans.) That means that absolutely everyone else who is offering their bulls*** opinions, over 90 percent of the people who are weighing in on whether we are legitimate and whether we have a right to be who we know we are or not, don't really know a transgender person personally.
Which means they don't know what we're actually like.
In other words, don't take these opinions too seriously.
We can have a tendency to automatically assume that everyone knows what they're talking about, and therefore feel insulted by this person's opinions that transgender women don't act like women to her judgment...
Well, the odds are that she's making a COMPLETELY baseless opinion based on nothing. The odds are that she's never even met a transgender person in full knowledge.
Therefore she's just making up whatever assumptions about trans people she wants based on her own biases.
Don't take it too personally.