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Voice dysphoria?

Started by needhelp, October 26, 2015, 11:26:52 PM

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needhelp

Hey there. By any chance.. what did voice dysphoria feel like for some of you? I'm having a hard time even talking now... I feel the need of take my voice to a super high pitch.
Also.. I haven't even transitioned yet and yet I can't stop feeling like a woman. By that I mean... people before transitioning complain that they feel like the same sex which they hate. Unless I look myself at the mirror I feel like a woman somehow.. (if I vidualize me in a random scneario I see this womenish shadow looking, not concrete).. Can't even visualize myself to save my life. Possible intersex condition? Klinefelter? :O...
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Dena

Voice is something that is very hard to judge for yourself. I never though my voice was low until I measured it and found it was about as low as a male voice can go. We hear our voice through bone conduction instead of through the air and that totally distorts what we hear. That is also the reason why our voice really sounds bad when we hear a recording of it.

As for the correct pitch for the voice, a realistic voice has a pretty small range it should fall into. To low and it sounds masculine and to high it sounds like a teen or a child.

Some us are lucky and look pretty feminine at the start. You may be one of the lucky ones who can see the female in you early one. Many of us see the female in us long after everybody else has seen her.
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needhelp

Well it's kind of not good actually.. Even if I wanted I'm not in a situation where I could transition atm.. but suddenly I can't look my parents in the eyes. I know they see a male but somehow my minds tells me there's a woman (physically) there talking to them. Like it's killing me inside in a way since it's not being coherent..
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Anna33

That is how i felt all my life too, needhelp. i always had troubles in  situations like using the public men restroom or the changingroom at the gym, id feel like a little helpless lady in a room full of men (yuck!) and wanting to run for my life.

Re voice: i am not very learned in the organs of speech but i have noticed that sometimes its more of an intonation thing rather than tone. Seems like men and women use different intonation patterns for different expressions. I am still practising my female voice and i am shy about it despite what some people say.

I do not focus so much on my tone, maybe i go up but just slightly. I try to focus more on the vocabulary and expressions as well as body language, which seems to communicate better than the tone itself. Makes sense? Big hugs.

Clara.


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Lynne

I never liked my voice, not even before puberty but I would give everything to get that voice back now. After I realized that the trans* thing probably won't go away and my voice is permanently damaged by testosterone I was really sad.
To this day I don't feel that my voice is really mine, I feel kind of detached from it. For years I was not able to listen to recordings of my own voice, I just couldn't stand it. Because I knew that voice training is more effective if I hear my own voice I recently started working on dismantling the mental barrier. It seems I'm succeeding in that but I have a looot of work before I will be even remotely satisfied with the results and if I had the money I wouldn't hesitate to have VFS. Sometimes if I can get away with it I just don't speak so I can avoid using my voice but that is not a solution.
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