I am new to this and have issues that I would like to chat about and as I am sitting here writing this I have just become lost to myself because I am not sure if you can help me find out what the freaking hell I have to do. I am a 6 ft male who has never worn mens underwear only woman's and I don't dress fem on the outside just my underwear. I have dreamt of having breasts for as long as I can remember but not sure about the other body part that I was born with. I know  ( was trained to please a woman with or without it, but keeping it would be great and yet here I am not sure if living in the constant turmoil is worth living at all.
If any can assist it would be appreciated


Sent from my SM-N910F using Tapatalk

Welcome to Susan's Place. I am 6'2", had my surgery 33 years ago and have been happy living as a woman all these years. You didn't include enough information to know exactly what you are as there are options other than transsexualism but where ever you fit, this is the right place to explore it because all of the transgender branches exist here. Therapy would be the first goal on your list but feel free to explore the site for now. Also you might want to go to youtube and request "the transition channel" as it may give you more understanding about your self. If you make additional post to this thread, we will be notified of the post so we can review them and respond if we have an answer.

We issue to all new members the following links so you will best be able to use the web site.

Site Terms of Service & Rules to Live By	Standard Terms & Definitions	Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar)
Reputation rules	News posting & quoting guidelines	Photo, avatars, & signature images policy

Here are some resources that could help:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,194986.msg1737439.html#msg1737439

Know you're not the only one...

well you might try to explore...
grow your hair out, try some clothing for women.. second hand stores could be a good source...

and I'd say go with what gives you a feeling of joy... (within reason)

and you might talk to a good gender therapist to help you along...

keep asking questions here, people are accepting and like to help...



*hugs*

Hi Mikey 

Welcome to Susan's    Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M

Hi hon,
I'm 6'3" and when I started down this road I thought I would never find cloths that would fit. Not just because of my height, I was also badly overweight, have large feet and a deep chest and broad shoulders.

That was then, I've lost almost 25kg(55lbs), found a store that sells wonderful shoes in my size and right now I'm wearing my first real cloths, I went op shopping like Laura suggests as I still want to loose more weight and don't want to fork out loads of money on cloths that hopefully will be too big in a few months, and it feels great to finally dress as yourself.

Oh and my doc told me discreetly that I have to start investing in bras, I didn't think they were noticeable yet :]

I wish you the best of luck, whatever you decide.
Hugs,
Sarah

Well my dear Sarah .
Thank you for your words of wisdom and support.
My chest has always been bigger and fuller and more rounded than any man I have ever seen. I wear a 38B naturally but I have always dreamt of at least 38c or d I am not really overweight or anything. But due to the underwear issue and naturally large chest my wife and I are currently getting divorced, funny thing is she accepted me as I am before we got married and even bought my wedding underwear now it's a problem and she can't stand it anymore. It is not fare to me to expect me to change to be a "man" in her eyes when I have been me since I can remember

Sent from my SM-N910F using Tapatalk

Sorry call came through and I sent by accident without signing off


Regards
Mike
Freestate
South Africa

Sent from my SM-N910F using Tapatalk

Hi mikey,

A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. It's good of you to drop in and say "Hi". Hope you like it here, and you stay for a while.

There is a mountain of information, resources and friendship waiting for you here, you just need to jump in start talking and ask any question you like. You're quite safe here and we are very accepting.

All the good stuff on seeking therapy has all been said previously. Take time and sort through it all.

Looking forward to hearing more of your story in time to come, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.

Lotsa huggs
Catherine

Hi all.......
I am back after a long absence and a lot has happened in the time of my absence.

I am finally in the divorce process and after 9 years of marriage I finally had enough of being told what a f**k up and confused idiot I was. It all became just a little too much for me, and if I had to hear one more time that I should cut my d**I off and become a woman , I was going to loose it.

Good news is that I met someone who was actually a woman who was a friend and who I could chat to about my feelings and one thing led to another and something happened.......a spark or a bewitching or maybe I finally found my pots lid but after deep conversations and a lot of late night talking, she finally revealed that I actually turned her on. Imagine my surprise when she said I should research breast augmentation surgery, and after discussing this intensively she said it would be done before my birthday in September.......
Next thing I know I am sporting acrylic nails and being treated like prince and a princess all at the same time.......

Regards
M
No longer mikey,just M

Sent from my SM-J701F using Tapatalk

Have you considered HRT to grow your breasts naturally?  That's what I'm doing and just started with it.  You'll also get some other feminine characteristics.  I currently wear 38A bra.

No I actually am planning on keeping my Male organ and I act fairly feminine as it is and over time ill change things as it comes up for change, I must be honest when I say I have not really gone into research of HRT but after waiting 21 years I just want to have my chest done so I can look down and appreciate the look and feel of it

Sent from my SM-J701F using Tapatalk

Sorry to hear that you hurt.  It is confusing and daunting sometimes to feel as you do.  There is nothing wrong with wearing ladies underwear nor is there anything wrong with fulfilling your dream to have breasts.  There is nothing wrong with deciding that bottom surgery does not fit your needs.  We are all here because we have challenges that society, our friends, family and even ourselves do not understand.   But, understand this:  YOU have the right to be happy.  YOU have the right to define that happiness and YOU have the right to make decisions about your body that no one can deny or condemn.   If you have not found a councilor, please do find one.  Talking out your feelings really helps.  Best luck to you and don't ever be afraid to ask for advice!

Bea