hi everyone.

i m on my way to full time transition.my office mates welcomed my new identity[thank you god ]. actually i had a few laser session left for facial hair removal so in a month or half i will completely transition full time. i was wondering what would be office outfits i chose. in my place there is both modern and ethnic trend.i was wondering if i go with unisex outfits and in term replace with female outfits would it be okay .please suggest

Take the lead from the other women in the office and wear things/styles similar to them and that you're comfortable with. Also, check with your manager to see if there are any rules about what you can't wear. That way you'll be suitable for the place you work, won't accidentally step outside of any (perceived or set) clothing protocols and fit in nicely.

I found the move to female office wear a bit odd. Going to work as a guy was super easy; smart trousers and a shirt all the way (not that I enjoyed it very much), but having to actually think about what you're going to wear every day is both exciting and a pain. I have 'work clothes', a selection that can easily be mixed together for a variety of looks without making me think too hard about what I'm wearing each day. There are a few dresses that I throw into the mix a well, but nothing extravagant. My work stuff isn't really what I'd normally wear as my dress sense is more alternative, but that makes it easier to differentiate and limits the choices I have to take any stress out of what I put on in the morning.

I wore skirts and blouses for a long time and then I started working in the lab area and damaged a couple of costly skirts on the equipment. I switch to pants and less costly wear that was better suited for the lab environment. Because of my hight, better dress clothes are costly but they are well made and will last years if not damaged. As such, I tended to like fashions that didn't go out of style so I could wear them for a long time.

Tastes are different and if you are smaller, you may be able to follow the current fashions better but beware you might not look good in some fashions. This means some years you may find yourself wearing last years style because what is available won't work with your image.

I transitioned on the job after having worked at the same location for 20 years.   I didn't want to overwhelm people with my transition, so kept my clothing very conservative at the beginning.  It was easily a year before I wore my first dress to work, staying with slacks and at the most, capris and shorts.

Two years later, I changed jobs to one where I needed to dress more professionally.  It's been a good experience to have the full wardrobe available without having people's historical memories to deal with.

I'm in the process of changing jobs again, and I notice that employees under my new employer dress much more conservatively.   It will be another clothing transition, I believe.

My advice to you is to gauge your acceptance.   If you think that there won't be any push-back when you transition, then open up your wardrobe to everything that's available.   If you anticipate any non-acceptance, then dressing conservatively is a better way to avoid difficulty.

On a side note. I love your name.

I recently got a new SE from a vendor to work with on a project. I wasn't sure if they were a man or a woman. We had only communicated via e-mail.

So she's a woman. Amazing. Since I came out, I've been working with more wome SEs on projects with them.

Anyway, carry on...

BTW I have almost zero advice as my workplace is casual and I go dressed however I want. Only when I know I have to meet VIPs do I ever don a suit.

This is something I need some help with as well. I have come out fully, changed name etc but I don't really pass yet. (Working on it!)

I'm wondering if I would even be allowed to wear female stuff in an office or if I would need to be further in transition. It's worth noting I am 100% comfortable in public and I just dress how I want, but I know work places have rules.

A lot of it depends on the work place and also the internal culture. My previous job expected that people would dress "well" but it wasn't specified what that meant. Even though they were a community organisation many of the staff liaised and met with a lot of state government departments and even with ministers and the premier. The women tended to dress stylish - not expensive but with a fair bit of class. I loved the way some of them dressed and even though most were 10-15 years younger I basically followed their lead. There was an older woman who was the classiest of all, so I had a lot of role models. As a result I now find I am the best dressed woman in my new job, also a community organisation but with less government contact. I'm even a bit overdressed since jeans and extreme casual seems to rule the office on most days. Oh well. I like dressing to suit myself now and I often receive a lot of positive comments.

Try experimenting with styles - buy clothes from cheap sources at first to establish what is not only a good fit for the office but what you most like on yourself.

Quote from: SofiN on October 31, 2015, 04:52:17 PM
This is something I need some help with as well. I have come out fully, changed name etc but I don't really pass yet. (Working on it!)

I'm wondering if I would even be allowed to wear female stuff in an office or if I would need to be further in transition. It's worth noting I am 100% comfortable in public and I just dress how I want, but I know work places have rules.

This really depends on where you are.

"Work places have rules" but states, cities and countries have laws and that trumps any "rules" they may have.

Are you in the USA? Does your locale have a law?

Also your company may have a policy for transgender employees already. If your company is friendly to trans people you may want to discuss this with HR.

I live in the UK and I'm currently looking for new work after I finish a course I'm studying for. I'm just not sure how this stuff works here.