my wife and I are british and we are moving back to the UK soon. I am trans, she's cis. We are planning on having a baby when we are settled in the UK.

Today she told me she is concerned about other kids bullying our kids in school over us being lesbians (or me being trans) I told her that no one is going to bully our kids, because I feel like no one will, really.

Any of you parents can tell me the truth what is it like to raise kids being two mums? thank you so much! I really dont know where else to ask and I'd like to have more opinions on this so I can discuss it with her.

Hi Clara,

It's quite possible that you'll get geography dependent answers, but if in UK people are as open as here in Montreal, things should go pretty smoothly. My kids bring friends home, we meet their parents and so far no complaint, no bullying. Everybody's cool with me being a trans-woman. Surprisingly, the only person who refuses to see us is our sister in-law! Something about her kids being aware of possibilities! Really?


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Kids are pretty accepting of all sorts of living and parental situations.  Most of the time, kids are simply concerned with themselves and each other, parents aren't particularly interesting to them.

As long as you're active and meeting other parents and getting along well, there shouldn't be any issues. Here and there, there will probably be an adult blowhard or two that says something that a kid may pick up on, but if they get along well with your kid, shouldn't be a problem. If a parent has a problem with your situation, I sincerely doubt they'd sit a young child down and explain it in great detail to them. Much more likely to be a snide remark that a kid hears. The kid is likely to disregard it (or not understand it).

Helps if you're in an area where bullying is generally frowned upon and stood up to by other parents and kids.  For the most part, I think most bullies adapt to whatever "weakness" they perceive in a chosen target. I'd suggest that Body type, clothing brands, hair, facial features, sports teams they like, etc are are more likely targets than picking on a kid because of their parents.  (bullies typically look for an immediate gratification, visible to everyone)

i am from the uk and have two kids in school and is been fine. in severeal years time when your kid would be at school, plus a few years for kids to work it out, it will be even less of a thing.

Hey, I'm from the UK too and while I don't have any kids, It wasn't that long ago that I was one myself so I guess I have a bit of a say??

I think that children these days are far more accepting than they used to be since the LGBT community has been more visible in their childhoods.

That said, it would be a bit naive to say that it'll be a total non-issue. At some point nearly every child will encounter another child or group of children who say or do something that hurts them (for me it was when someone called my Dad a suicide-bomber...). But at the end of the day, the number of good, accepting and understanding children far outweigh those who don't like it. And if they don't like it then that's their problem and your child will simply not be friends with them!!

I hope I didn't come across as really negative, I just wanted to be realistic: There's no saying that your child won't get called out on it by one idiot, but if you bring them up to be a good, understanding and forgiving person then you and your wife have nothing to worry about xxx

thank you for the replies so far girls, I reallly apreciate it. x