Mmkay, it's no HUGE concern of mine right now, but as an 18-year old its kinda natural for me to at least give it some thought.

Personally, I'm a pansexual (which I think everyone should be ) but as an MTF who still hasn't actually taken ANY steps yet besides my general behaviour and vaguely my appearance, I'm wary of who would be attracted to me. I mean I'd feel awkward if someone was attracted to me as a boy because... well that's obvious. I think unless the person's a pansexual, The whole thing would be really unwieldy... I'm having a hard time phrasing this properly, I'm sorry.

& not to mention at what point to tell somebpdy if anything DOES happen.

Any thoughts, experience or advice here?

Well, the obvious being that any pansexual would be attracted to you, or you know be the "most likely" of any.
But I know several straight, "biological" males who have been attracted or dated MtFs.
Same with lesbian, "biological" females, etc. etc.
You just gotta hook yourself into the right individual.

However, if someone becomes attracted to you, as a male, just set them straight.
=] Hope that helped a little, or at least comforted.

Hi, I kinda have the same issue ( i think) and Im 11mo on T but pre top and may not get bottom but I pack and shag like a boy. My body dysphoria had always been there and I have dated females from all ends of the spectrum. Up until only recently did it start to bother me about which orientations find me attractive.
B4 T became available,  I guess I would have been considered a butch lesbian by society ( b4 they defined Everylittlething) I identified male then and now so that didnt quite fit. But even then I was leary if certain people were attracted ( straight boys mostly).  Ive even ended my last relationship at the start of my transition bc I wasnt secure enough in my manhood yet and still have the body I am correcting.
But now there is this girl I like a lot so Im starting to think that it just boils down to who makes you feel the most secure. I realize tho now that first I need to be secure in my manhood and not so much concerned with what their sexual preference is.


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Hi Samantha and welcome to the family.

It may be on the hedonistic side, but if it feels good, do it-right? (with some exceptions). 

There are a myriad of straight guys who date us; I have dated quite a few and yes, slept with them all.  Some of them turned into FWBs while some were one night stands.  The thing is in my adolescent years and adulthood, I never slept with a guy as a "guy." 

Unless you plan on being on the Jerry Springer show, it is best to be honest right up front; after all, what happens is about what YOU want and NOT what HE wants.  There are many gay, bi, and otherwise slightly straightly challenged guys who want a guy and despise anyone with the prefix "trans" associated with them.  In fact, some will get violent, so be honest up front.

I hope that helps at least a little.

Be safe

Marlo

I'm a 21 y. o. transmasculine person, and I'm read as male. I think I understand what you are talking about.

Before transitioning, I identified as a gay woman, and I presented as such for about two years after understanding that I was actually trans. In this period though, I was part of a community of queer women. Sometimes, these or other queer women showed interest in me. To me, this was a positive experience, but I think that can be explained by how society views masculin women. For a long time, I identified as butch, and I still feel connected to that term.

Growing up, I was treated as a freak because I was boyish, and i learnt that no one would love me for who I was. When the queer community actually told me that my masculinity was attractive, that was more affirming than anything else.
The years around my coming out, I had one girlfriend, and a few other girls I had sex with, all of witch knew me as a transman, but they all got to know me as presenting as a girl. Most of them were queer, one way or the other. In my head, though, I told myself that they were straight (if they themselves were doubting), or that it was the male-liking part of their bi-ness that made them like me.

I'm sorry if I am hijacking your post, and I do think that it's different to be transmasculine than transfeminine! But you asked for experiences, and these are some of mine. All in all, I definetely prefer being with people who know I'm trans, and respect me for it. Now that I am percieved as a cisman, I even prefer queer people, but that's another story.

Quote from: HHSamanthaJB on January 11, 2009, 05:49:50 PM
Personally, I'm a pansexual (which I think everyone should be )

I have been thinking about this as well, and I would like your thoughts os this: I am thinking bout my own sexual and romantic orientation, and lately I have come to the conclusion that I don't like men (not sure, but it's where I stand now). I think this leaves me as identifying as polysexual, liking all other genders than men. What do you think about that kind of orientation? I am not sure, because I am still open to liking men in the future