Wow i never expected to see so dramatical changes, this time not physically but mentally.
I feel like I understand my ex girlfriend right now when she refused to have sex. I used to masturbate 1-3 time per day before hormones and I always wanted sex. Now I am like : I will have some fun "later" then this moment arrive and I just dont do it and Tell myself Tomorrow.. It has been 4 day like this I never have been so long without desire. Then this random moment arrive where I am totally turned on and when I do it , it is totally different . I feel like more parts of my body are involved, more mentally and intense. I am also turned on by new things that I would never have been pre-hrt.

Hormones are crazy thing. Thanks god it exist I feel so much better every day.

Anyone experienced something similar ?

Been exactly that myself...

But I am a bit older
But it does open your eyes somewhat more, about looking at life and other things than just sexual gratification. Wonderful feeling of liberation.

Katy xx

Yes, I'm only in week two but already feeling changes.

Masturbation was automatic, at set times.  Now .... not so much.  Mechanically, I'm still trying to, just out of behavioral habit, but starting to have times where it's not responsive and I'm just not aroused.

Previously, I'd be automatically aroused because I knew it was almost time.

I didn't have much drive to do masturbate coming in, but is gone now. So yes it definitely can affect that for sure. Hugs
Mariah

Has it changed your orientation or outlook regarding sex?

It definitely changes. The more time went on and the more comfortable I became with my body I noticed it all became tied to my emotions. Which is nice and fun but sometimes guys will use that emotional trick to get you in the mood

Everything in that department has changed!  When I first started HRT, things stopped happening down there at random times, then no more in the mornings, and now not even when I'm fooling around.  It's so wonderful.

Actual arousal now seems to be located on my entire body and mind.  When we are messing around now, I still get super worked up but it actually feels good now and nothing down there reminds me it's there.  Now, sex consists exclusively of things that do not require my junk.  And it has so far been more gratifying for me and my wife than it did when I used all of my male-bodied parts.  I cannot express how awesome things feel on my skin now when being intimate.  Totally different and suddenly, it all feels... correct?  I think that word probably works best.  Correct.

If it is something you feel like you will miss, just give it time to see if other areas of your sexuality change to compensate.

My drive never came back after my first HRT go around, though things still worked well enough if a partner really worked at it.  Not so much that I do not get aroused, that would be inaccurate...it is that arousal means something different and is way more intense.  There is a feeling of connection and everything is mutual.  Sex becomes unfocused on the phallus and more focused on the real connection being made.

Being pan, it really does not matter who I am with as long as we are meaningful...not in to 'hooking up' or one night standing stuff.  This has been the greatest evolution in approach to intimacy imaginable, something to revel in and enjoy archlord.  For me, the sensations of climax changed as well.  Infrequent, I just do not go 'there' often, but when it does and there is a finish to it...it is always a "hold on, oh damn" time that has come to encompass the mental and emotional energies to probably greater degrees than the physical.

@katrinaw,  exactly the feeling of liberation.

@melissa_h,  yes it always was at a certain moment of the day and it was mechanic (not much pleasure, it felt gross to me) , i no longer need this.

@JennTO , i dont think hormones alone can change someone's orientation but it had an impact on me. Before hormones i was only to woman  but i had sometimes weird feelings for men . However for me having sex with men was impossible, i couldnt imagine myself at all.  Now that i am changing into a woman and that i plan having SRS it opens new perspective and i see men differently now and it is scaring me a little.

@Abysha, yes exactly im forgetting its there until i take a shower. I actually wont miss the thing, i cant wait for SRS.

Question What's a sex drive?? I kinda sorta remember what that was but isn't sure.

To be technical, anti androgen combined with Estrogen will definitely have an impact on your libido. Some report having that impact the next day after taking HRT. It used to bother me so much that I think about sex all the time pre HRT. Now, it's something that I can control and can choose to forget when I am busy.

You're still at the early stages of HRT and a lot more surprises to come. I'm glad you are enjoying every bit of it.
Stay beautiful.

April

Quote from: archlord on November 14, 2015, 10:43:24 PM
Wow i never expected to see so dramatical changes, this time not physically but mentally.
I feel like I understand my ex girlfriend right now when she refused to have sex. I used to masturbate 1-3 time per day before hormones and I always wanted sex. Now I am like : I will have some fun "later" then this moment arrive and I just dont do it and Tell myself Tomorrow.. It has been 4 day like this I never have been so long without desire. Then this random moment arrive where I am totally turned on and when I do it , it is totally different . I feel like more parts of my body are involved, more mentally and intense. I am also turned on by new things that I would never have been pre-hrt.

Hormones are crazy thing. Thanks god it exist I feel so much better every day.

Anyone experienced something similar ?

Yeah it's kind of weird. Going on HRT definitely tapered off the 'need' or 'drive' of wanting sex/masturbation.

And yet I never fully lost it either. I do feel like nowadays, almost 5 years after GCS, there's still a need for it a couple times a week or so. But it's hard to remember it ever being as bad as it was with blatant testosterone ravaging my system.

To be totally honest, my sex drive is about zero. I am 66 years old, but that by itself does not account for my lack of sex drive.

I needed to transition and lack of strong male sexual feelings is a small loss in order to be my true self.

Up until I was about 19 or 20, I had maybe 1% interest in men and 200% interest in women. Sex drive was strong, though with my erectile difficulties and general insecurities, I never went 'all the way'. Almost did on quite a few occasions but just wasn't working. Probably had a lot to do with performance anxiety. Anyway, then I came out as bisexual, admitting that I found some men attractive, but mostly just feminine men and I still wasn't too interested in actually getting involved with a guy.

My sex-drive was strong all the way up until I started HRT and then it got all wobbly. Still hasn't completely disappeared but it certainly changed. Between coming out and transitioning, my interest in men went up slightly but wasn't all that strong. But as my sense of womanhood blossomed and my male sex drive declined, I started noticing men more. I'd be at the gym and the pheromones would just slap me in the face as these buff guys would strut by me. My interest and desire sky-rocketed and I after a few months when I became passable and went full-time, I put myself out there and got a lot of positive response. So I've since talked with a whole lot of men, had various sexual experiences, and had a boyfriend that I lived with for a year.

I also used to perform on cam, and when I did, for a good part of it I was off my t-blocker to help that stuff out. My male drive went back up steadily and I was getting regular erections again but I saved the masturbation for that. But going back on to the t-blocker, it gradually went back down. I can't say it disappeared entirely though. For a long stretch of time it was all consistent. I'd maybe get horny once every other week. I use a vibrator now, and it feels great but it doesn't satisfy my female drive. When I get aroused now it doesn't translate down there. Instead my eyes glaze over, I get with the lip-biting, nipples get hard and sensitive, and I get waves of tingling all over. Sex fantasies have become more of a thing, and I never really want to watch porn anymore. I'd rather read a story because I can put myself into it. So that's another change. At my worst, I'm debilitatingly aroused and writhing around fantasizing and playing with my tits. Much different experience than it used to be, but unfortunately my vibe just doesn't satisfy it, and I either have to push it out of my mind or call someone up... I'm still not sure just how much it's linked to my cycle. After my first period I was crazy horny for an entire day. I couldn't concentrate at all. After that it was inconsistent. And lately, I was off my t-blocker for only a week and a half because of my doctor's appointment scheduling and running out, but I've been on it for 2-3 weeks again, and started prometrium (low dose first 15 days of the month), and the past week I've been super horny to the point that I couldn't hardly focus on anything. It's just started to calm down again, but it's been frustrating. I gotta say, I do kind of miss being able to get myself off and have my arousal evaporate immediately after. :/

Also, I will say that my sexual orientation has been frustrating as well. I still like women, but my sexual interest in other women has declined significantly. If I look at an attractive woman, I can still get aroused, but then I have trouble fantasizing about anything unless I imagine I've swapped my junk out for a more lesbian-friendly option. I can see myself being romantic and having a relationship just fine, but when I think about sex, I think about men so much more. So my orientation hasn't exactly changed, I still lean towards straight, but I guess it transitioned along with me. I just wish I could pick sides though. Even though I lean one way or another at times, I'm still pansexual and I wish I wasn't...

My sex drive had always been relatively high. It is definitely changing on HRT though. When i started T-blockers it went into decline immediately and the first couple months on estrogen it tanked, almost no sex drive which is a problem as i am married. On the great side there is no more compulsive sex drive, no interest in porn anymore etc. Even my fantasies are more cerebral than physical.

Lately it has been increasing again possibly because the dose of estrogen increased. It is more gradual, more romance focused, less about the destination and more about the journey. My orgasm changed a lot, as many have said it would. Physically my breasts have become pretty important to sex.

My attraction to both genders was always there but i look at men and women differently now and the attraction is different. I notice men a lot more than i used to. The attraction to my own spouse is strong but very focused on her emotions and our shared experiences. I'm so happy to be liberated and not controlled by my libido.

Well after just a few days I too was blessed that na morning wood faeries stopped visiting, an it now does take a lot to make that thing work as it once does, but it does. Then again theres a lot better now too especially with all that's changing for mi. However on na sex drive tip, well no change fer mi there. I am a diagnosed nymphomaniac. I suffer from extreme lust addiction an (in that department) I have no impulse control with it. 9+months of hrt has changed nothing for mi in that department. Perhaps I too will find that freedom from libido ye speak of post srs.

For most of my life I had decided I could never be with anyone, I was too broken to be with anyone and it would be wrong to subject someone else to what I am. That did not stop me from masterbating regularly, ok Daily, Ok often multiple daily, ok I think my record was 7 in one day, other record would be 4 times in a row without stopping. I was board those days. But I still could never be with anyone, Sexually or romanticly I had repressed that part of me so deeply I rarely even looked at a woman in a sexual way.

Then I started HRT and my sex drive die, for about 2 months. Then it came back and brought all the old desires and wants with it, and I was out of practice ignoring them. That caught me by surprise. The last few months have been weird in that way, finally being able to show the woman I am to the world has awoken a desire to no longer be alone, and I know its the biggest struggle I may ever face but I decided to stop hiding behind being transgender to stop assuming no one could love me and to stop thinking that i have nothing to give.

also I am 34 and a virgin and kinda desperate for some physical contact...I Just don't know if I am mentally/emotionally/physically capable of doing that..or rather how much I am capable of doing.

Serena

I was on just AAs for my first month and that tanked my sex drive. I actually got hornier when I went on E!

I'm at a little over 3 months now and my sex drive is certainly lower than it was pre hrt, but not gone.

I probably find release once a week now? It definitely requires more ...focus than before and it certainly feels a lot different! I find I start feeling orgasmic before the orgasm and the feelings of well, good, last a lot longer afterwards. Overall I enjoy the experience much more now

Quote from: Valwen on November 23, 2015, 01:42:58 AM
For most of my life I had decided I could never be with anyone, I was too broken to be with anyone and it would be wrong to subject someone else to what I am. That did not stop me from masterbating regularly, ok Daily, Ok often multiple daily, ok I think my record was 7 in one day, other record would be 4 times in a row without stopping. I was board those days. But I still could never be with anyone, Sexually or romanticly I had repressed that part of me so deeply I rarely even looked at a woman in a sexual way.

Then I started HRT and my sex drive die, for about 2 months. Then it came back and brought all the old desires and wants with it, and I was out of practice ignoring them. That caught me by surprise. The last few months have been weird in that way, finally being able to show the woman I am to the world has awoken a desire to no longer be alone, and I know its the biggest struggle I may ever face but I decided to stop hiding behind being transgender to stop assuming no one could love me and to stop thinking that i have nothing to give.

also I am 34 and a virgin and kinda desperate for some physical contact...I Just don't know if I am mentally/emotionally/physically capable of doing that..or rather how much I am capable of doing.

Serena

You have nothing to hide! ^__^ You can most certainly find someone, and not being afraid is the first step!

Funny my sex drive went in the other direction. As a male I was not that interested in sex. I started hormones and I had no desire to have sex (zero sex drive).

Then one day during my transition, don't remember when, I had a desire to be penetrated. I started seeing a guy at about the same time, maybe it was my attraction to him. He was also the first guy I had ever dated, this at a time I thought I was lesbian. As I was pre-op at the time.. that could only go one way. I was weird at first, but I actually started enjoying it.

Now I am post-op and I cant get enough and vaginal sex is amazing. I am lucky my current boyfriend (not the same guy as pre-op) also has a high sex drive. If my boyfriend is not around, then i love my vibrator.