So my mom kicked me out of the house because she doesn't want me to transition at her house, so what I did since there were not really any resources in Buffalo was to put an ad on craiglist looking for a place/couch and from there I met this older guy he's 49 and I'm 18 btw, and he paid for a ticket for me to get to Boston and I'm living with him right now, even though I don't like him, but yeah anyway I wouldn't know what else I could do... He's helping me with paying for stuff like laser and my transition so at least that... So I was self medicating for some months, and I will tell my doctor I am going to Fenway Health tomorrow, I have an appointment, do you think that they will prescribe me hormones right away if I tell them that I was self medicating? I don't want to keep self medicating and the pills I was taking are almost up I literally have 4 pills left, and I don't want to order more of them...

Self medicating is always a red flag but not as bad as concealing truths. I have several friends that went to Fenway, all ar satisfied. Can't say wether or not they'll prescribe rite away, but best to protect yer health an do it rite hon. Living with strangers is always scary especially when yer kinda indebted to them. Do bi careful hon an keep us posted to what goin on.

Oh, an do bi careful hon. Theres a group of transwomen in na Boston area that first befriended mi, then tried turning mi into a prostitute. Mani of us end up like that, ye mae bi there now. No shame hon if that's na case but mind folks an their intentions.

Prescribing Doctors are pretty accustomed to self-medicating trans people if they serve our community often. It's very common and nothing to be ashamed of. Make sure you tell them, so they can prescribe accordingly and read your lab charts correctly when you do your blood work. Having accurate medical histories help them better take care of you.


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ok I went through the fenway thing not long ago, though I never self medicated. Odds are before they give you anything they are going to run a standard physical checking blood pressure and stuff to make sure your over all healthy, if you have been sexually active they may run things like HIV tests and such. (given my age they where going to with me just to be safe till I was like "nope I am a virgin") they will also do a full blood work up which can be done very fast like next day fast and check just about everything including estrogen and testosterone levels.

Make sure you explain any medication you can in as detailed way as possible. Though they normally want you to see on of there therapists or get a letter from one your already seeing before starting HRT they often times are willing to make exceptions for people who are already on hormones. Its generally not very safe to have someone suddenly go off hormones especially if you have been on them for a while, your body often has trouble picking back up and being without anything is bad.

Plus if they know exactly what your on they wont have issues reading your blood tests.

I do urge you to look around the area and try and find some alternative potential living arrangements. Hopefully the guy your with is just a decent person who wants to help, or at worse a harmless pervert. but if things go bad its best to have some sorta plan in place before hand.

your still young enought to go to BAGLY (Boston Alliance of Gay and Lesbian Youth) and I would urge you to go down and talk to them. They can likely help even if its just meeting with others and making friends. lets see 5-9PM every Wednesday night at the community church of boston. you can find a lot more info on there website.

Serena, who is very glad to live near Boston and be able to go to fenway health.

Quote from: Melanie ♡ on November 24, 2015, 06:46:23 PM
I met this older guy he's 49 and I'm 18 btw, and he paid for a ticket for me to get to Boston and I'm living with him right now, even though I don't like him, but yeah anyway I wouldn't know what else I could do... He's helping me with paying for stuff like laser and my transition so at least that.

Move out... like, yesterday.

Nothing is free in this world and this whole scenario is creepy af.

p.s. I could probably get you room / board and a job here in VA if needed.  Best bet is to somehow mend ties with Mom and get back home safely.

Quote from: Ⓥ on November 25, 2015, 03:11:14 AM
Move out... like, yesterday.

Nothing is free in this world and this whole scenario is creepy af.

p.s. I could probably get you room / board and a job here in VA if needed.  Best bet is to somehow mend ties with Mom and get back home safely.

I agree 100%


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If you've self med and go to an understanding doc they will work with you and probably not vary your hormone regimen too much.

I'm sure you're not the only Trans woman who has ever self medicated.

I am a current patient at fenway, it took me about a month or two to get hrt under way. Also look up the Boston Queer Exchange group on FB. I am house hunting in the area myself and there are listings posted there all the time.

Please be careful with that guy and get yourself somewhere safer.

Quote from: Ⓥ on November 25, 2015, 03:11:14 AM
Move out... like, yesterday.

Nothing is free in this world and this whole scenario is creepy af.

I also agree 100% - nothing comes for free and it is most certain that he's doing this with the expectation of getting something in return. I doubt that you'll want to pay his price.

Well It's not free, I am helping him with his restaurant sometimes and we are intimate too now, even tho I didn't want at first and I told him no but he kept going and the second time I was kinda drunk (he made a drink for me since I am not 21 yet we couldn't go to a pub/club), sometimes maybe he gets mad or is kinda violent but he never hurted me and he is kinda sweet sometimes and understands what I need to do for my transition, but he can also be kinda transphobic, but he also tells me that I am beautiful, and that he wants to marry me (and pays for my transition by the way, he told me that he wants to pay for my surgeries too if we marry). My mom told me that she wants me to die a lot of times because she's ashamed of me, and that if we were back in her country she would kill me  herself. She's muslim by the way, I don't think she'll ever accept me. She has still not tried to call me at all.

I went to Fenway by the way and maybe after 2 visits I can get my prescription! Thanks for you help/advice!

Here are a few resources that could help:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,197523.msg1756901.html#msg1756901

It could be translated to your language.

And the first link there leads to a post with other young trans people.

Have a big *hug*.

Well I'd say listen to your intuition...


*hugs*

Quote from: Melanie ♡ on November 27, 2015, 02:57:06 PM
Well It's not free, I am helping him with his restaurant sometimes and we are intimate too now, even tho I didn't want at first and I told him no but he kept going and the second time I was kinda drunk (he made a drink for me since I am not 21 yet we couldn't go to a pub/club), sometimes maybe he gets mad or is kinda violent but he never hurted me and he is kinda sweet sometimes and understands what I need to do for my transition, but he can also be kinda transphobic, but he also tells me that I am beautiful, and that he wants to marry me (and pays for my transition by the way, he told me that he wants to pay for my surgeries too if we marry). My mom told me that she wants me to die a lot of times because she's ashamed of me, and that if we were back in her country she would kill me  herself. She's muslim by the way, I don't think she'll ever accept me. She has still not tried to call me at all.

I went to Fenway by the way and maybe after 2 visits I can get my prescription! Thanks for you help/advice!

I've been where you are, relying on a complete stranger to avoid being homeless. I know it is impossibly frightening, but sweetie, you really really NEED to get away from him as soon as possible.

Ya I been there too an some worse, I completely agree with Juliett, RUN!!!

The guy your living with you met on craigslist, is old enough to be your dad, is transphobic, and violent.  Go find a ymca, or something, no one is going to fork out 50k just for ->-bleeped-<-s and giggles hon. Transition is important, being alive is more important.