My family knows I'm trans. They've known for years and over time they've gotten a little more accepting about it. They've even seen my clothes thanks to a rather embarrassing moment while moving. My sister set a box down on the wet pavement and though it didn't damage my clothes it did cause the box to open when she picked it back up and well, stuff fell out....

The thing is they have never seen me dress. I want to start because I'm transitioning and that means as time goes on I will be in guy clothes less and less. I'm not sure how to go about it though. I know I would warn them. I would probably call my sister and tell her before showing up at the door but I'm not sure how awkward it will be. I know I'm not the first transperson to go through this so, advice?

If they already know and are accepting then tell them you'd like to meet them as Christy (or whichever name you'll be using) and go for it!

Who ever the house belongs to should be informed of how you wish to dress. If they have issues then you have the option of wearing acceptable dress or not visiting. If they don't have issues then fully enjoy the visit.

The best advice is  everyone, just be you. Jumping through hoops for other people accomplishes nothing and only makes you miserable.


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Quote from: Christy76 on November 27, 2015, 05:52:15 PM
I would probably call my sister and tell her before showing up at the door but I'm not sure how awkward it will be. I know I'm not the first transperson to go through this so, advice?

"Sis, I need to let you know that I'll be dressing as myself the next time I see you. This means I'll be wearing women's clothes. Just thought I'd warn you so it's not too much of a shock."

Hold your head high and be proud of who you are. If there is any awkwardness, it will be on her part. You can't control that. You can only control how you react.

Good luck Christy. Please let us know how it goes.

Before I dressed as myself infront of family members, I showed them pictures of me dressed up first so they had an idea of what I looked like and it wasn't as much of a shock for them. To me it was kind of ridiculous on why they are so shocked or whatever but it is what it is. I guess even if it's uncomfortable at first just don't act like its a big deal because then it will seem like a big deal. The first time I dressed infront of the family members I'm not close to I kept it classy but also made sure I showed my feminity, this showed them that I was ment to do this. After the first time dress however the hell you want and they shouldn't have anything to say bevause if they do then anybody can point fingers at others for how they dress trans or not so it shouldn't be an issue. Some people feel excited the first time some people feel awkward it just depends on if the person is open or closed minded so don't take it personal! I have had people in my far side of the family give me the stares but I just kept in my mind that I'm happy I'm brave enough to be myself and I love myself that I'm transitioning, this kept me in a positive mind frame. Good luck !

I invited my entire family over for dinner telling them that I had an important matter that I needed to share. I was dressed as me when they arrived. I then said, if you accept me you are most welcome to stay. If you cannot you are welcome to leave.

The two men in the family asked if they could watch the end of the footy on TV, and I gave them a beer each; we women went to the kitchen and drank wine and cooked.

No one left.

Hey you're family accepts it. That's a great first step.

6 years into my transition and my dad can still barely stand the thought of me in a dress, let alone see me. And my parents don't really want anything to do with me.

My advice: let them know and just start doing it. Be yourself. You only have one life. =)

I understand how nervous you are I have family that don't know I am transgender yet.

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