So today I was at work, and I saw that my coworker/boss was pregnant. I don't know how to categorize this.. maybe dysphoria, whatever it is, it's the feeling that I'll never be able to naturally get a girl pregnant, and it sucks. It's not like I have complete bottom dysphoria, it's just hella disheartening.

Lets have some hope for the future... who knows what the next 10 years may bring...


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Nope. I don't like kids. Never wanted to have one or raise one.

Like Laura says, wait and see. They're already working on uterus transplants for transwomen. I'd be surprised if someone isn't already fiddling with methods for transmen to impregnate someone.

YES.

I very much want children and am currently dating a wonderful cis woman. We've talked about artificial insemination and adopting and I'm sure we'll end up with amazing kids regardless, but there's still a part of me that just craves being able to impregnate her.

Lol I'm with Max, I hate kids. Actually it's a bit of relief that's there's no chance of ever having an "oops"

But sure, it would still be nice to have the choice.

Quote from: AeroZeppelin92 on December 06, 2015, 01:48:16 AM
Lol I'm with Max, I hate kids. Actually it's a bit of relief that's there's no chance of ever having an "oops"

This. >.>

But I can understand the opposite feeling, though. Fortunately science is a wonderful thing.

It's weird for me. I'm not able to get pregnant, and I've always been aware of that, and never regretted it. I never wanted to be a mother, and I don't really like kids. But now I'm starting to regret that I'll never be a biological father. But hey, there's always adoption. Lots of great kids out there looking for homes, so perhaps someday...

Quote from: WorkingOnThomas on December 06, 2015, 03:15:38 AM
It's weird for me. I'm not able to get pregnant, and I've always been aware of that, and never regretted it. I never wanted to be a mother, and I don't really like kids. But now I'm starting to regret that I'll never be a biological father. But hey, there's always adoption. Lots of great kids out there looking for homes, so perhaps someday...

That's what I'm saying. It's not that I NEED kids to live a fulfilled life, and the not being able to accidentally get a girl pregnant is definitely a plus. The chance to be a dad the way cis men can go about it is just a way different route. Working with kids makes it especially hard some moments ahah

Quote from: FTMax on December 05, 2015, 08:20:22 PM
Nope. I don't like kids. Never wanted to have one or raise one.

I used to feel that way a lot but I've come to terms with it now. I talked it over a lot with my girlfriend (since that's who I plan on having kids with in the future) and we talked about the different options we had to start a family one day, what we did and didn't like about them, and so on. Hopefully it gets better for you buddy.

I prefer men, so it's a little different for me, but I do regret not being able to have a child that is biologically mine and my partner's.  However, there is always adoption, and since I wouldn't be able to impregante my male partner if I was a cis man, I don't think the regret could be described as dysphoria to me.

I'm more disappointed that my dysphoria is too intense to carry a kid, since I'd love to for me and my partner (who can't because he has too many medical problems and since he already had a hysto, it wouldn't work anyway).

Well, I am too old to have children now...but when I was younger and pre-T, the thought of being pregnant and raising a child repulsed me.  Now that I am 5 years on T and living a much more comfortable life, I do have an occasional thought that I might be a good dad.  Not being able to be a partner in conception would get me down a bit, but not because of the child issue...more because of the equipment issue.

I do. I really do. I would love to be a parent (although I doubt it's in the cards for me, as honestly, I love my career just a little bit more, haha. Plus, I'm crap with kids.), and sometimes the knowledge that I can never father children bums me out. Of course, I could always adopt -- and if I find my life heading in that direction, that's what I'll do, but. I dunno. It's the utter obliteration of the possibility that I find just a little sad. Would have loved the option of doing things "normally."

I'm still kind of young so raising children is still a bit farther in the future for me, but yes, I am disappointed in the fact I can't be a biological farther, at least not until a lot more medical advancements have been made (like converting certain cells into sperm cells, etc.) which won't be for a long, long time. But a lot of cis guys will have to deal with this to because they are in a same-sex relationship or their infertile or their partner is interfile for whatever reason. I know I can adopt in the future and all that stuff but just the thought of one day getting married to my girlfriend and having a kid that looks and acts like both of us... alas.   

I understand people who want their own kids, but at the same time (in my opinion, I respect others opinions), I think biological ties are slightly overrated.

I had a very bad relationship with my biological parents and a much better relationship with others, who respected me more, and understood me more. The fact that you have a biological tie with your child does not guarantee anything immediately.

The relationship you can have with your adopted kid is probably equally strong and intense as biological bond, in the end it´s much more about good parenthood than it ever was about biological links.

Still, I might have a very different perspective, since parenthood isn´t a thing that I am interested in.

I don't know if it's helpful to note but there are lots and lots of fertility clinics around and many cis-people unable to conceive without technological assistance either.  So you're not alone, and like everyone else said, who knows what the future may bring. 

there actually is a way that's been developing for awhile!! they're looking at a way to develop sperm from skin cells.... still not the 'same' as a cis guy, but it's pretty cool imo.
http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/dec/24/science-skin-cells-create-artificial-sperm-eggs

as for transplants.... there have been successful transplants with donor penises, so i truly believe it's possible for us in the future. stay hopeful  

Quote from: palexander on December 11, 2015, 02:06:17 PM
there actually is a way that's been developing for awhile!! they're looking at a way to develop sperm from skin cells.... still not the 'same' as a cis guy, but it's pretty cool imo.
http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/dec/24/science-skin-cells-create-artificial-sperm-eggs

as for transplants.... there have been successful transplants with donor penises, so i truly believe it's possible for us in the future. stay hopeful

this is really cool! made me feel really good. thank you !

I never want kids, so no