This poll is to satisfy my scientific curiosity!

Personally, I lean towards the don't want it/don't know category though I am open to changing my mind sometime down the road. Curious how many girls are in the same boat as me.

I am one of the already had it. When it came time to decide on surgery, I felt I was comfortable in the feminine role and I knew I would never return to the male role. I am still a virgin so you can clearly see it wasn't sexual for me but it was a matter of putting the old life behind me. It was the life and not the surgery that was my goal but I didn't know that at first. I understood that at decision time so the surgery was a graduation instead of a goal for me.

If you don't want surgery, don't have it because what's important is finding a life where you are comfortable with yourself. My idea of comfortable may be greatly different than yours. Even as far back as my surgery was, there where some girls who didn't have their surgery for a number of reasons.

Not personally. I feel very comfortable this way. I might change my mind in the future but i dont think so.


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I don't want it period. Maybe hrt on say in the future but not surgery.

The physical modifications were the ONLY thing I was interested in. SRS, HRT & electrolysis. When I had SRS that was the best day of my life.

You can keep all the lifestyle, makeup, and clothes with pleasure.

That is my ultimate goal for transition and possibly the final step. But that is a long way off. After 2 FFS procedures this year I have to build up my resources again.

Quote from: RachelsMantra on December 06, 2015, 09:07:19 AM
This poll is to satisfy my scientific curiosity!

Personally, I lean towards the don't want it/don't know category though I am open to changing my mind sometime down the road. Curious how many girls are in the same boat as me.

Hi Rachels

I was in the same boat as you. I started to transition years ago and after a few years of living full time I decided to have SRS. I got on the waiting list with Dr. Marci Bowers in June of 2014 and had SRS October 20th 2015. I feel so good about myself now. I feel complete. When I first started i like you was not sure about it. I changed my mind after a year and a half on hormones. Lots of changes can happen during that time. I would say that you will know after a period of time.

I hope this helps a little
Hugs
Lyndsey

I've gone back and forth a few times on this, so I voted "I don't know".  At the moment, I am leaning towards probably not.

Quote from: Dena on December 06, 2015, 09:47:00 AM
I am one of the already had it. When it came time to decide on surgery, I felt I was comfortable in the feminine role and I knew I would never return to the male role. I am still a virgin so you can clearly see it wasn't sexual for me but it was a matter of putting the old life behind me. It was the life and not the surgery that was my goal but I didn't know that at first. I understood that at decision time so the surgery was a graduation instead of a goal for me.

If you don't want surgery, don't have it because what's important is finding a life where you are comfortable with yourself. My idea of comfortable may be greatly different than yours. Even as far back as my surgery was, there where some girls who didn't have their surgery for a number of reasons.

Hi Dena
I am still a virgin too so you can clearly see it wasn't sexual for me ether. For me it is feeling complete, and I love my new life as a women and wished I had done it years ago. I'm so relaxed now.

Hugs
Lyndsey

I definitely want it (I'm really hoping that I'll get it done next year). I don't think that I have extreme genital dysphoria, it's more like a huge part of my gender dysphoria. What I mean is that I don't hate my genital per se as in I don't hate how it looks etc., but it is by far the thing which does remind me the most of who I don't want to be.

A once famous transgender porn star said she didnt want the surgery out of fear of losing sexual pleasure. I agree a bit.

I am a transgender woman, the penis is part of me. I have no issues with my genital. A lot of trans women are against  ->-bleeped-<-s, but to be honest I think that gives me an edge that cisgender women dont have.

I am a woman. Yes, but my penis is just a penis, it doesnt make me less of a woman because my BRAIN is female. I am already a woman. If I dont do anything.. Hormones or surgeries... I am still a woman.

I just want society to see what I am. My genitals are not a package deal of my society image. Thats for me and my lovers.

I want it, but it can be over $50K...how is anyone supposed to afford it..

sweet poll

In case anyone is interested, here is what the HRC trans survey said about GRS:

Trans women: (vaginoplasty)
Want it someday: 64%
Have had it already: 23%
Don't want it: 14%

Trans men: (metoidioplasty)
Want it someday: 53%
Have had it already: 4%
Don't want it: 44%

Trans men: (phalloplasty)
Want it someday: 27%
Have had it already: 2%
Don't want it: 72%

Quote from: Tartarus on December 06, 2015, 01:46:44 PM
I want it, but it can be over $50K...how is anyone supposed to afford it..

$50k sounds really high. If you're willing to travel, there are lots of very reputable surgeons who will do it for under $20k, and it's starting to look like it's going to be covered a lot more by insurance in the near future. Personally I want to do it, but at this rate I'll probably end up waiting until I can get it covered by insurance. I wasn't always sure though, and for a long time I thought surgery would be such a poor substitute for the real thing that it wasn't worth the pain and expense. But anymore I am just thinking that if I want to have any chance at an intimate relationship with another human being at all I've got to do it, and a lot of what I've read here about the results has been encouraging. Even if the surgery isn't perfect, I care so little for what I have now that I doubt I would regret it anyway.

Physically no, i like my bits lol and so does my wife. You gotta do what you gotta do.

Personally i think hrt will satisfy my needs physically and emotionally, everyones different!

~Shan~

Quote from: Dena on December 06, 2015, 09:47:00 AM
I am one of the already had it. When it came time to decide on surgery, I felt I was comfortable in the feminine role and I knew I would never return to the male role. I am still a virgin so you can clearly see it wasn't sexual for me but it was a matter of putting the old life behind me. It was the life and not the surgery that was my goal but I didn't know that at first. I understood that at decision time so the surgery was a graduation instead of a goal for me.

If you don't want surgery, don't have it because what's important is finding a life where you are comfortable with yourself. My idea of comfortable may be greatly different than yours. Even as far back as my surgery was, there where some girls who didn't have their surgery for a number of reasons.

Dena,

I think what you stated is probably one of the most important things that can be said on this forum......period.  It is disturbing sometimes to see posts, especially from people who are young and new, who put so much emphasis on the sexual side of transition and the related surgery.  As you well know, to have or not have surgery for many people will be the most important decision they will ever make in their life.  They need to be aware of not only all the risks associated with surgery but how it will impact nearly every aspect of your life moving forward.  Furthermore, they should take time to really understand and get in touch with their internal feelings before even considering surgery because the results are permanent and certainly not for everyone.  As with you, for me it was all about feeling whole and getting my body in sync with my mind.  The sex came in time and was only achieved because I was able to reach that comfort level long before.

When it came time to make my surgery plans, it was the easiest decision of my life. It is one I never waffled about (unlike so many others I've had concerning jobs/relationships/major purchases). I have never regretted it.  I'm still on the fence about my sexuality. I may always be so.

Cindi

I don't know f I want it; one of the reasons is that I like to have orgasms, and it seems like a lot of post op women suffer from anorgasmia. Also, it's a long recovery, and a lot of women complain about post op complications, and have to have surgical revisions. And I am already a woman, and I have a wonderful supportive husband who accepts me as I am. 

It seems I am part of the small minority who don't want to get GRS. My genitals don't give me dysphoria at all, and my BF is also very accepting and does not mind whether I go for GRS or not. Like some girls on this thread, I'm also worried that getting the surgery would cause me to lose a bit, if not most, of my sensation. Sexual sensation is extremely, extremely important for me.