Hello, my name is Kelsey. I'm a mtf transgender woman, married to a ftm transgender man. We have two kids, both school age.

My husband just recently came out to his family and work. I'm still in the closet, except of course to my husband, and I've told my sister a little. I'm pretty sure she will be accepting of who I am, but the rest of my family will probably disown me. Which isn't good, but I feel like I'm already estranged from them anyway, since I can't be myself around them. I'm not planning on coming out anytime in the near future, though, because I'm concerned about how my kids would take it.

We're in North Georgia, and we're both trying to start the transition process. I'm lucky to have insurance that covers transgender healthcare, but I haven't told my doctor anything, mainly because I don't know how helpful he would want to be. I really want to start HRT though.

And I'd like to meet some transgender people. I've been pretty isolated most of my life, and I've got to the point where I just can't do that anymore.

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Kelseyness:

Welcome.  It will be a pleasure getting to know you here and at future threads as you continue your journey.

I have occasional appointments to see my gender counsellor who is F-M.  We joked one time when I commented it would be fun to have a F-M partner but we'd not be able to compare notes, as the saying goes.

Yes, sadly, family and friends will reject you. That is one of the problematic consequences of telling and transition.  I recently discovered a curious situation that begs scientific study.  I learned that some people who rejected me have otherwise posted comments of support at pro-transsexual message boards and sites.  Why would they express outrage against me while declaring support for LGBT?  Maybe the situation is easy to accept when the transsexual is not a family or friend?

Maybe your families will come around.  At least you know where they stand so you don't feel more hurt when they learn about you.  Counselling will help you with your children and their acceptance of you.  They'll need to know sooner or later, so why not plan making it sooner and everyone can enjoy each other sooner.

Atlanta should provide lists of appropriate professionals throughout Georgia.  Hopefully you will locate a nearby transsexual-friendly internist, endocrinologist, or counsellor to help you.  Likewise, a local transsexual group can provide support for you and your family.


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Hey Sharon,

Yeah, I know what you mean about people who are ostensibly LGBT-friendly being transphobic. Kinda like how people will swear up and down that they aren't racist, but it doesn't go beyond words. Maybe they just want to avoid the social stigma of being a bigot, and don't understand that it takes work to overcome the prejudices they don't want to admit they have.

Anyway, things are looking better than I thought. My husband's family has been mostly supportive of him. There's some of that, "I don't agree with what you're doing but I'll still love you," reaction, but at least they're still on talking and visiting terms. And some of my family have been more accepting of him than I thought they would. I don't want to get my hopes up too much, but maybe things won't be so bad for me.

Thanks for the kind words, and nice to meet you

--Kelsey