I'm currently married with one 3 year old son. I have already spoken to my wife about it. She's not totally against it but I'm still not sure. I'm sure that I want to transition. I'm just not sure when and how to explain this to everyone. I think in the end when it does happen I will just go off the grid. That would be most comfortable to me.

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There really is no perfect time. Transitions never go perfect. For me I just sort of take it day by day. When the time seems right I take another step forward. Some people will be okay with it and others won't. Some people who are not okay with it may become okay with it over time. I know it's not much help but the best time to transition is when the time feels right to you. Take small steps and take it day by day. I would also consider seeing a gender therapist if you can. Sorry I don't have better advice but others on here might have.

Hi:

I agree with Christy.  One thing I'll add: It won't get easier with time.  I also suggest you see a therapist and begin to think about what your transition will look like (you only think you have control) and life after the initial full time experience.

Take care and stay in touch,

Rachel

I'm pre-HRT and some days I still get doubtful, I'll wake up and think that it would be much easier on everyone I care about if I just "take one for the team" and just.... Stay as I am. It's rough, definitely isn't easy! Hopefully it'll all work out for the best.

A lot of words of encouragement thank you all. This is like day one for me but I want to start on hormones like tomorrow. Not sure if over the counter hormones are ok. Should I just wait until they are prescribed?

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I wouldn't recommend over the counter hormones as they are often very expensive for what they do. In addition, the blockers will make a big difference in the way you feel and there isn't an over the counter equivalent for them.

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A lot of words of encouragement thank you all. This is like day one for me but I want to start on hormones like tomorrow. Not sure if over the counter hormones are ok. Should I just wait until they are prescribed?

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A doctor really is the best way to go. The endochrine system is complex and powerful, and you probably don't have the expertise to handle it on your own. Messing with your hormones isn't something you want to do lightly.

The wait can be agony, I know, but don't let it drive you into an unhealthy decison.

Thanks tamika

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Are you seeing a therapist? As others have said, there is really no perfect time. Be prepared for your wife to leave at worst. At the least your relationship dynamic will change. Have to figure out what the kids will call you too. "Daddy" gets really confusing in public.

In the end you need to live with yourself and getting it over with now rather than later is probably better in the long run. I wish I had transitioned in my teens but couldn't so I lost precious time and now I need all kinds of surgery to get where I need to be...

Well I'm 29 now. I have been seeing a psychiatrist. He is referring me to a therapist for therapy. He said they are the only ones that can recommend hormones to me. 

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