Okay, so I have this crush on someone at school... He's a teacher actually, lol, but he's in my age-group so it's nothing too weird... I probably just have issues with authority figures!

I've already started dressing as a girl and I get gendered as female by everyone I come across. The problem is in environments where my legal name comes into play. The first class I had with this teacher, he gendered me female and adressed me as such... But alas, at the end of class I had to tell him my legal name, to verify that I attended school... Doing so felt really weird. He didn't apologize or anything for having adressed me as female, but started referring to me by my male name in subsequent lessons (the only name he knows -.-) ...

Is it possible for a straight guy to fancy someone who looks female, dresses female, sounds female, but that hasn't really assumed a female "identity" for him? I imagine I must seem like something really unusual... The trans thing isn't big in this country... It's actually fairly unheard of...

Not sure why I care... But I do... Probably just because he's cute...

Help?!

Quote from: Mermaid on December 14, 2015, 03:51:05 PM
Okay, so I have this crush on someone at school... He's a teacher actually, lol, but he's in my age-group so it's nothing too weird... I probably just have issues with authority figures!

I've already started dressing as a girl and I get gendered as female by everyone I come across. The problem is in environments where my legal name comes into play. The first class I had with this teacher, he gendered me female and adressed me as such... But alas, at the end of class I had to tell him my legal name, to verify that I attended school... Doing so felt really weird. He didn't apologize or anything for having adressed me as female, but started referring to me by my male name in subsequent lessons (the only name he knows -.-) ...

Is it possible for a straight guy to fancy someone who looks female, dresses female, sounds female, but that hasn't really assumed a female "identity" for him? I imagine I must seem like something really unusual... The trans thing isn't big in this country... It's actually fairly unheard of...

Not sure why I care... But I do... Probably just because he's cute...

Help?!

Oh it certainly is possible for guys to fancy us but determining their motivation is a whole other ball game.  Crushes are fun and people flirt easily but what does it really mean?  It may take a few dates

the term "ass for every seat" comes to mind...

I think there are people out there that like every sort of unique, finding them is the hard part

Quote from: Mermaid on December 14, 2015, 03:51:05 PM
Okay, so I have this crush on someone at school... He's a teacher actually, lol, but he's in my age-group so it's nothing too weird... I probably just have issues with authority figures!

I've already started dressing as a girl and I get gendered as female by everyone I come across. The problem is in environments where my legal name comes into play. The first class I had with this teacher, he gendered me female and adressed me as such... But alas, at the end of class I had to tell him my legal name, to verify that I attended school... Doing so felt really weird. He didn't apologize or anything for having adressed me as female, but started referring to me by my male name in subsequent lessons (the only name he knows -.-) ...

Is it possible for a straight guy to fancy someone who looks female, dresses female, sounds female, but that hasn't really assumed a female "identity" for him? I imagine I must seem like something really unusual... The trans thing isn't big in this country... It's actually fairly unheard of...

Not sure why I care... But I do... Probably just because he's cute...

Help?!

Yup, but you'll have to fight me for him!

Quote from: RitaChans on December 14, 2015, 05:14:39 PM
the term "ass for every seat" comes to mind...

I think there are people out there that like every sort of unique, finding them is the hard part

Nicely said! 

Hugs, Devlyn

im not sure why not because trans women are literally women

ok... You want to know if hes attracted to you.

Look into his eyes while speaking to you, if his pupils are huge he likes you... A lot.

Thats key. Thats fundamental for attraction.

But that could mean he likes you just as a friend (most times sexual attraction though).

------'

Satanic Witch by Anton LaVey is my book seducting. There is even a paragrah that trans women make better women than ciswomen. It has nothing to do with the religion but its based on the Marilyn Monroe / Jaynes Mansfield era.


I been with more straight/bi guys in my life than gay guys.... Gay guys mostly dont find me attractive.

Well, I know they like transwomen. I have never implied that I thought I had to date gay guys, from experience they like men... Or more broadly speaking, people who look like men.

I've been with straight guys, the thing is they all knew I'm trans, they all knew my female name, etc. This one doesn't have a clue about me, and that's what I'm specifically asking about... If they can like someone they think looks like a woman, but aren't sure identifies as a woman...

First,
How do you know he's straight?

Second,
He's your teacher. Move on and don't think about him until the class is finished.

Sounds like the plot to an anime

Quote from: Mermaid on December 15, 2015, 03:47:14 AM
Well, I know they like transwomen. I have never implied that I thought I had to date gay guys, from experience they like men... Or more broadly speaking, people who look like men.

I've been with straight guys, the thing is they all knew I'm trans, they all knew my female name, etc. This one doesn't have a clue about me, and that's what I'm specifically asking about... If they can like someone they think looks like a woman, but aren't sure identifies as a woman...

Just because he could be straight doesnt mean he finds you attractive. Some guys like fat, tall, short, blonde, asian, pretty, ugly, freckles, whatever.... And he probably doesnt find you attractive if he doesnt imply anything sexual to you. Guys who find you attractive will flirt or do something obvious.... Theres so many signals they could use. The most common signal I see is physical contact, not necesarily your body but your chair, your shoulder, or just get close to you. Alpha guys will take up your space... They will want to claim you.

I know because I was once the most beautiful being in a job (young, and feminine goes a long ways), and the alpha guy claim me out of desperation and thats his nature to go for the best. He had no options but fat and old, or rugged men.

And being transgender inheritly makes guys afraid of you or even disgusted... Or chase you. You dont know.

Guys are like slot machines. But some players start off with more money to bet on high quality men... Doesnt mean they wont lose in the end. (Shania Twain)... Or strick it gold (Anna Nicole). In the end, you got to leave once you hit the jackpot because the house always win.

Quote from: Skylar1992 on December 15, 2015, 07:48:17 AM
Sounds like the plot to an anime

Yeah, now if only Senpai would notice me!

Quote from: Wild Flower on December 15, 2015, 08:14:12 AM
Just because he could be straight doesnt mean he finds you attractive. Some guys like fat, tall, short, blonde, asian, pretty, ugly, freckles, whatever.... And he probably doesnt find you attractive if he doesnt imply anything sexual to you. Guys who find you attractive will flirt or do something obvious.... Theres so many signals they could use. The most common signal I see is physical contact, not necesarily your body but your chair, your shoulder, or just get close to you. Alpha guys will take up your space... They will want to claim you.

He's my teacher, how's he supposed to touch my "shoulder" or any other body part without it being creepy? No matter what, I think that's deemed really inappropriate, specially in front of an entire classroom... I assume he likes his job and doesn't want to risk losing it...

Quote from: Wild Flower on December 15, 2015, 08:14:12 AM
I know because I was once the most beautiful being in a job (young, and feminine goes a long ways), and the alpha guy claim me out of desperation and thats his nature to go for the best. He had no options but fat and old, or rugged men.

Lol, I doubt there's an issue with competition... Somehow I get the feeling that most girls in IT mustn't even shave their legs in the winter months.

As Karin says, he's your teacher. Any relationship with a student could result in him losing his job and possibly career. Best just to move along.

Quote from: Mermaid on December 15, 2015, 01:28:14 PM
Yeah, now if only Senpai would notice me!

He's my teacher, how's he supposed to touch my "shoulder" or any other body part without it being creepy? No matter what, I think that's deemed really inappropriate, specially in front of an entire classroom... I assume he likes his job and doesn't want to risk losing it...

Lol, I doubt there's an issue with competition... Somehow I get the feeling that most girls in IT mustn't even shave their legs in the winter months.

You be surprise at how many "straight" guys touch shoulders. Although hes a teacher so it unlikely but a lot of male coworkers touch my shoulder...it gives me the ibby jibbies.

Quote from: Squircle on December 15, 2015, 05:25:11 PM
As Karin says, he's your teacher. Any relationship with a student could result in him losing his job and possibly career. Best just to move along.

I don't think people understood yet that it's just a question, no more than morbid curiosity because I think someone's attractive.

In reality, I don't even imagine being capable of pursuing someone like this... much less when I'm their student. I'm not a nutcase, nor am I looking for any trouble...

Mother hen syndrome!    <running away>

It's definitely possible but the reality is it's not probable.

I've dated pre-op and I've dated post-op. Most straight guys are not ready for us AT ALL.

I've gone on dates where they didnt know and had a great time and then after the date the next day, I'd tell them and suddenly they no longer want a 2nd date.

Sometimes pre-op/post-op matters and sometimes it doesn't.

There's still a huge stigma for any woman that 'used to be a man' as claimed by society.

It sucks. BUT don't give up hope. It's still possible to find a straight guy that 'gets it'....that understands.

it's just definitely more difficult than you would think.

Quote from: Debra on December 17, 2015, 09:38:11 AM
It's definitely possible but the reality is it's not probable.

I've dated pre-op and I've dated post-op. Most straight guys are not ready for us AT ALL.

I've gone on dates where they didnt know and had a great time and then after the date the next day, I'd tell them and suddenly they no longer want a 2nd date.

Sometimes pre-op/post-op matters and sometimes it doesn't.

There's still a huge stigma for any woman that 'used to be a man' as claimed by society.

It sucks. BUT don't give up hope. It's still possible to find a straight guy that 'gets it'....that understands.

it's just definitely more difficudlt than you would think.

I got the samd experience (dating non-op). From those attracted to you just a few would date for a long-term relationship.

It takes really special guys who dont care at all about what other people thinks or says.

Yeah It's possible. I'm a straight male and I could see myself dating someone if we hit it off. Although me hitting anything off is unlikely because I've never dated. XD
I guess it's because I have low self esteem.

Quote from: KarinMcD on December 15, 2015, 05:22:38 AM
First,
How do you know he's straight?

Second,
He's your teacher. Move on and don't think about him until the class is finished.

I love your reply!