I do this all in steps and well I finally yesterday wore clear nail polish on one of my fingernails. Nobody noticed at all. I thought they might considering they shine ofcourse but nobody saw. This has been my fear for a long time considering Ive had a few girls tell me how good my nails are like they wish they had mine so they do look. Mine still can break and they are not perfect but I appreciate the compliment.

I also am really good at it to including cutting my nails, filing them really right and I also can put this stuff on really smooth. This being partly that when I was younger, I used to mess with my mom or sisters nail polish. They might leave a bottle on the table at the end of the couch and when alone Id play with it a bit. I never kept the nail polish on so that others wouldnt see.

Ive wanted to do my fingernails also for a longtime. This makes me happy as during summer when swimming, I can do the same thing instead of colors on the nails on my feet, Ill use clear nail polish and no one sees.

I paint my nails with colors every weekend until I am to see friends or Sunday night, whichever comes first. Then I paint all my fingers clear for the whole week. I was worried about people noticing too but I stopped caring, and I'm pretty sure no one has. Even if they have, they probably weren't 100% sure and weren't about to ask me because supposed to have this badass repair technician persona. The clear is a great way to still feel better about yourself, without drawing too much attention. I think one of my goals for 2016 will be to integrate colors into my weekdays. It's just so much more pretty and fun... Plus why would anyone give a ->-bleeped-<-! I mean they're my fingers, right?... If only it were that simple.


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I paint my toes regularly.  People make comments, at times, of course, but I don't really care too much.  When they ask are your toes painted, I say yes.  When they ask why my toes are painted, I say because I wanted to.

If they don't like it, they don't have to look.  I'd do my fingers too, but my wife isn't really OK with that, so I can't without causing a major issue.

Ya I work tomorrow so this is a worry for me a bit but I think I will be fine. I went out tonight to get some makeup stuff and some face wash and I wasnt sure what I was looking for. I asked for help and told them it was helping my sister out and well they helped. I doubt they even saw my nails shining at all as no one said anything or even gave me an odd look. This made me realize that it should be okay tomorrow.

I was gonna also start wearing a little makeup that no one would notice to work to but Im gonna hold off on that till I know how things go with my fingernails. It sucks that I can't do it all at once like other girls but Im happy to start to be doing what the other girls have always done. This makes me happier. Ive done alot of transition over even more the last months yet no one knows. I want people to see me but I dont also as I know how judging society can be. This why I have had the nails fear is because of judgement. Ive had to look past judgement and all and say Im a girl inside and I want to be me and that is very important to me.

Trust me on the finger nails! No one will notice the clear and it will feel good for yourself when you look down and see the shine.  I'm still working up the courage to do any sort of makeup for work. But I did notice that I had a little of left over eyeliner from last night still there when I went to put it on tonight and no one noticed that either! I guess that will be the next step.

I've also been wearing women's deodorant on and off for the past few months but consistently for the last month at least. I don't think anyone has noticed but I love the way it smells compared to the regular ass old spice I felt stricken to wear before. Today I also took a leap and used some fruity lotion on my hands and just a little on my chest. Not a ton but it's strong smelling. I'm not sure if anyone noticed that either but I almost don't really care at this point because it's just a nice smell. I suppose worst case scenario for now I would use the excuse I used some of my girlfriends hand cream or something. But Doing little things like this on the day to day it seems is helping give me the courage to take little steps towards what I think I want.

Trust me I TOTALLY know what you mean about he judgment. That is my main hurdle as well. I want to show parts of myself I've never shown the world but at the same time I'm afraid of how critical people may be. This feeling comes to the point of me asking if it's even worth it, or if I should just give up now and try to be normal. I'm pretty sure if I do that now, I will regret it later. All I know is I don't want the same terrible feelings I've had later on because I didn't face myself. I suppose in a worst case scenario it's better to be having other bad feelings in relation to other people versus having the terrible feelings of Dysphoria and self-hate tearing me up inside.

For now I think if we both take baby steps it will be okay! That's what is making me feel most comfortable within myself, while at the same time maintaining who others think I'm supposed to be until I'm ready to fully reveal myself. I hope this approach works for you too!


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I started wearing clear polish a couple of years ago, and have grown my nails out a LOT, and it's never been a big deal.  I always color my toes now too, and have had the odd occasion where I'm in sandals and bump into someone I know.  My story goes that it costs an extra $5 for shiny buff, so I save the money and go for polish.  And since I'm gonna get 'em polished anyways, might as well pick a fun color! 

I'm still dragging my feet with makeup, although I add a little bit of liner every once in a while, like quarterly, maybe.  I'm just not very confident with makeup or hair.  Mine, by the way, is way past my shoulders now, but unfortunately is creeping back from my face at about the same rate. 

I've thought about nail polish, though I'm not sure I'm ready to do that at work. But one thought I have is that I know several homosexual men who wear nail polish who (as far as I know) are not trans. So, I don't think it's something that necessarily will place direct suspicion on you for specifically being trans if you're not out about it.

Not one person noticed!! I was so nervous this morning but not one mention or anything.

Lots of men get manicures and use clear nail polish so that shouldn't really be a big deal.

PLUS most guys won't even notice that kinda thing.

Before I came out, I had gotten a pedicure with clear nail polish and wore flipflops to work and the only one that even noticed was our receptionist lady.

Funny enough when I came out to her, I said "Well.....I'm a woman" and she was like "DUHHHH!" lol

I wore nail polish for 30 min before I was out and literally nobody cared. I also use the language Tommi described to ward off any comments and it worked out great!


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I'm with the rest of you, I like to do the things that make me feel more feminine, and yet, at the same time I fear the reaction from others, because it's not the norm they expect.

Yet, I still do those things, but don't flaunt them.  Like the toe nails... I've been painting them for months.  I go out in flip flops, if I'm staying in the car.  I've only ventured out into stores a few times with flip flops, because I fear it causing a scene because some jerk decides to have an issue with it.  So far it hasn't.

I wear my breast forms in my bra at work, and no one has made any comment, yet I wear a sweatshirt jacket to sort of hide them... although they're not really hidden.  I think it makes me feel better to be less obvious, but I'm pretty sure people know and probably talk behind my back.

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Not one person noticed!! I was so nervous this morning but not one mention or anything.

Yaayyyyyy!! That's so awesome! Isn't it a great feeling? The clear is great for building confidence and just making you feel better in the moment when you're somewhere like work and that dysphoria starts to set in.

I also wore some of my ladies underwear under my clothes to work for the first time yesterday. It felt great, I almost felt more like myself at times throughout the day. I feel more in tune with myself when I take little steps like this.


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I've worn clear nail polish for a few months.I definitely noticed quite a few looks. But only one person person asked, a guy, if I was wearing nail polish. I said yes, he asked why, I said why not? and moved on

Now, if only I could wear a shiny one with sparkles for the holiday season...

I too dreaded getting the look- even though I've underdressed in panties and hose for years, I've never been able to summon the courage to paint my nails. Then I realized one day that it's perfect flair (in a socially acceptable kind of way out here conservative USA) for my job. I play fiddle in several bands, and a clear coat gives my nails just enough shine to emphasize the finger work and still not be "a big deal." A country western bar filled with oilfield roughnecks is NOT the place to experiment with "Is this too femme?"
My band mates, also roughnecks, did look at me a little funny, but a few deflecting comments and life went on. 

And, no, I'm not in the oil field. I'd get broken. Those dudes are hard core.  I'm a full time musician.

For 3 months I would put nail Polish (color) on every night, and take it off any morning. I was so excited when I came out - the next day I just didn't take my nail Polish off in the morning

Before that I also found matte clear nail Polish. There's absolutely no way any one will notice that.