First of all, congratulations Keri!

I find very interesing the topic about dating. What Angelique says happens way too often, there are many many guys interested in just sex.

I think what Ashey suggested is nice idea, focusing your profile more on the side of your hobbies and interests and not mainly on your looks. I think if you look very good the vast majority of the guys that message you are gonna be interested just because you're pretty and sexy and those are the main features that they seek because they are looking for sex. You could try to give an extensive description on your hobbies (specially those that can be more appealing to men, like practising some sport if you do like running) and suggest "innovative" dates, like go running or go spend some time doing any activity you both enjoy. Men who are looking sex are usually impatient enough to spend time doing those things.

Another thing I do is not to speed things too much. I mean, I just don't give them what they ask as soon as they request it. I try to pay attention to every single detail.

You need also to keep in mind that young men are very promiscuous, and not being able to give them biological descent may be an issue for some.

About boobs... Yes, I think men love boobs (most men love big boobs I think) and they can help you a lot to get guys attention. Even if HRT works nice, I think Breast Augmentation is a very nice investment. Anyway, you look really great (I'm being honest) even if you don't have boobs at all, I'm not really sure if boobs is the key issue here. It is true that a lot of guys love girls with very curvy girls (slim girly girl with big breast implants and big butt implants it's usually a killer combo) so that coud be the thing.

If you found guys that were boys who had previous relationships with TGirls would be nice to know if those girls offered the boy something more.

I think improving your looks is always a great idea and a nice way to spend your time and money. Not just to get guys attention, but to feel good about yourself.

Quote from: kittenpower on December 12, 2015, 08:00:20 PM
I don't have an answer for you, but I didn't do online dating.

I think this is key. I've never really liked online dating. I go out and meet people and it's much better.

Hope all goes well with you and your dating adventures. I have yet to go on a date with anyone either male or female. Maybe I appear scary or come off as threatening. Only people who have approached me are crazies. Quality individuals are hard to come by.

Have fun dating!  Enjoy yourself and relax. 

Kate -  loving the avatar with your hair down. I can see side swept bangs on you.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 12, 2015, 01:10:57 PM
after the date? I tell guys the sec they hit on me because I don't want to waste my time.

All our experiences are different, but I think that's where your going wrong, if I told my husband on our first date I was a trans woman, he probably would have run a mile and we wouldn't be married now, but I didn't, over time we got to know each other, he fell in love with a woman, he only ever knew me as a woman, was a bit of a shock when I eventually told him, but we worked it out, we're now married 5 years.

Quote from: herekitten on December 14, 2015, 09:15:22 AM
Have fun dating!  Enjoy yourself and relax. 

Best advice ever.

Quote from: pretty pauline on December 14, 2015, 11:55:48 AM
All our experiences are different, but I think that's where your going wrong, if I told my husband on our first date I was a trans woman, he probably would have run a mile and we wouldn't be married now, but I didn't, over time we got to know each other, he fell in love with a woman, he only ever knew me as a woman, was a bit of a shock when I eventually told him, but we worked it out, we're now married 5 years.
Best advice ever.

yea but I'm worried bout getting beat up or killed. A lot of guys I told told me they wouldn't hav been ok wit it later on n they even said they prolly would have been even more mad cause They would feel like they got played.

I honestly feel like ur husband would hav been fine wit it from the start cause I just asked 6 guys who I am friends with if they would date a transgender if she didn't tell them n they fell inlove N every one of them said that they wouldn't date them anymore after that. Could just be location like that one girl said.

Quote from: Angélique LaCava on December 14, 2015, 02:33:18 PM
I honestly feel like ur husband would hav been fine wit it from the start cause I just asked 6 guys who I am friends with if they would date a transgender if she didn't tell them n they fell inlove N every one of them said that they wouldn't date them anymore after that. Could just be location like that one girl said.

Well some people go the middle way.
Not telling from the start because it might shy people away. And people might have no idea what it means.

So after they have shown a few facets of themselves they tell. So they thave a chance to have been seen as a person.


*hugs*

Quote from: Wednesday on December 13, 2015, 04:41:02 PM
First of all, congratulations Keri!

I find very interesing the topic about dating. What Angelique says happens way too often, there are many many guys interested in just sex.

I think what Ashey suggested is nice idea, focusing your profile more on the side of your hobbies and interests and not mainly on your looks. I think if you look very good the vast majority of the guys that message you are gonna be interested just because you're pretty and sexy and those are the main features that they seek because they are looking for sex. You could try to give an extensive description on your hobbies (specially those that can be more appealing to men, like practising some sport if you do like running) and suggest "innovative" dates, like go running or go spend some time doing any activity you both enjoy. Men who are looking sex are usually impatient enough to spend time doing those things.

Another thing I do is not to speed things too much. I mean, I just don't give them what they ask as soon as they request it. I try to pay attention to every single detail.

You need also to keep in mind that young men are very promiscuous, and not being able to give them biological descent may be an issue for some.

About boobs... Yes, I think men love boobs (most men love big boobs I think) and they can help you a lot to get guys attention. Even if HRT works nice, I think Breast Augmentation is a very nice investment. Anyway, you look really great (I'm being honest) even if you don't have boobs at all, I'm not really sure if boobs is the key issue here. It is true that a lot of guys love girls with very curvy girls (slim girly girl with big breast implants and big butt implants it's usually a killer combo) so that coud be the thing.

If you found guys that were boys who had previous relationships with TGirls would be nice to know if those girls offered the boy something more.

I think improving your looks is always a great idea and a nice way to spend your time and money. Not just to get guys attention, but to feel good about yourself.

Wednesday,
I get it.. love the response.. I do feel wonderful about myself.. I am rocking it and having fun.. went to the mall with tight jeans and skin tight long sleeve T last night with my ex.. LOL.. It was fun...  Seems women ignore me and men don't.. LOL.. how I suppose it should be.
Anyway, I am trying not to get caught in what I see a lot of CIS women do.. and that is settle because of this or that.. I may have enjoyed my date but I don't think he is the one.. or maybe he is .. who knows.
Its just amazing to be at this point..
Thanks
Keri

I thought I would respond after reading many of the posts.. I like the way the discussion has gone.. and I am one who will tell a man about me before I ever go out with anyone period.
I have a strong bad ass personality and a guy would be lucky to get me as far as I am concerned.

Finding a guy and getting married is not my goal but if it happens with the right man.. and I know it will be right then it happens.

I really have my second wind in life and am just glad to be here.. honestly thought I would be dead by now..

It still blows my mind that I did this..but it was not much of a choice.

As far as dating we do need to be very careful.. at all times.  I go to clubs all the time with friends.. all CIS and even though my group loves me.. someone else may find out I am trans from someone and think it would be great to do something horrible..
So just as any woman we need to be on our toes.
I have no idea how I will ever meet anyone locally .. but why worry  It will happen but at my age if it doesn't.. well things could be worse.. I have family and friends. 

I did find out one thing on my date.. not sure I mentioned it.. but I am a heterosexual girl.. I def like guys a lot..
Love
Keri

Just relax & be yourself. Just do what feels good for you. Men can be very nice to be with. I remember my first date but that was so long ago. I loved a first date, most every men wanted a 2nd, 3rd, permanent relationship. Sometimes it's harder to get rid of a man that it is to find one. They fall in love so easy.  WYG girl friend.

Quote from: Laura_7 on December 14, 2015, 03:36:25 PM
Well some people go the middle way.
Not telling from the start because it might shy people away. And people might have no idea what it means.

So after they have shown a few facets of themselves they tell. So they thave a chance to have been seen as a person.


*hugs*

This is how I approach it. Works for me.