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Does anyone else identify as, well, kinda butch?

Started by Tamika Olivia, December 14, 2015, 07:14:51 PM

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Ms Grace

I know that some butch cis women tend to get misgendered (called "sir", etc). As long as you feel you can deal with that if it happens then be as butch as you like. :)

Like all cis women and trans women it's important to find the look that best expresses who you are.

From my own observations the majority of cis women rarely, if ever, go all out girly femme except for certain social occasions and in the cliché factory of TV and movies.
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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cindianna_jones

I was girly in the beginning, went tom boy for many years, now I'm back to being girly girly. I like to look nice. I seldom wear skirts although if I have the right venue, I most definitely will.

Cindi
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emyrinth

My style is always a mix of goth and hippy. My Mom is a hippy and my cousin (a huge influence on me throughout life) is a metal head so I've been drawn to alternative culture since I was 10 (it was the early 90's) and the goth aesthetic and music always had a strong draw for me. So I kind of blend a lot of things like combat boots with dresses and my makeup can be a bit messy and it's okay. I tried more androgynous polos and khakis for work and it lasted two months and I couldn't stand myself.
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sparrow

I went through the bubblegum pink phase really early on.  I refer to this phase as my "lost girlhood."  I was never swaddled in pink as a child.  Apparently I needed that.  I'm under the impression that this is quite common.

Early on, my feminine side was enraged... demanding of all my attention and effort, demanding acceptance from me, demanding acceptance from my wife.  I spent most of my time dressed in boy clothes, feminine clothes were a hidden part of my life, so when I did get the rare opportunity to be girly, I went all out.

It appears to me that my life needs a certain amount of girliness.  For a while, I'd go for long "dry periods" and then get a massive dose all in one go.  That wasn't healthy.  I've got an addictive personality, and I tend to view the world through that lens (lest an addiction consume me, I remain vigilant).  During my dry periods I'd obsess about my next fix, and when I did have those opportunities, they were never enough.  I needed smaller, more regular doses.

Today, I'm essentially out to everybody I know.  My outfit selection depends on (1) which clothes are clean, and then (2) how feminine I feel that day.  Some days I look like a fruity guy.  Some days I look like a pretty ordinary guy.  Some days I look like a cross-dresser who doesn't bother to pass.  I'd like to be read as female about as often as male... but that's a ways off if it ever will happen.

Last week, I did two complete flips where I looked very feminine on Tuesday and Friday, and masculine on Wednesday and Thursday.  Strangely, I kinda love living this way... even though it can be frustrating as hell when my gender flips mid-day and I can't tweak my outfit.  I hate some of the reactions I get from people, but I'm happy to be me.
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