Sydney, I'm sorry this happened to you. My sister in Paris gets a lot of rather unpleasant experiences from guys. It's this kind of thing which puts me off presenting as female.

Quote from: Kimberley Beauregard on December 20, 2015, 06:08:34 AM
Sydney, I'm sorry this happened to you. My sister in Paris gets a lot of rather unpleasant experiences from guys. It's this kind of thing which puts me off presenting as female.

Just don't let men ever affect your view of your own womanhood. I know it's easy to say things like 'it sucks being a woman' or 'I hate being a woman' because of how men treat us, but that has nothing to do with actually being a woman, and it's a slippery slope turning that self loathing into misogyny and being an apologist for men (which I think is disgusting and unfortunate). Yes it can be difficult dealing with men, but try not to let it get to you. Sadly, it's something you're going to have to learn to deal with like every other woman does...

Quote from: Ashey on December 20, 2015, 10:15:18 AM
Just don't let men ever affect your view of your own womanhood. I know it's easy to say things like 'it sucks being a woman' or 'I hate being a woman' because of how men treat us, but that has nothing to do with actually being a woman, and it's a slippery slope turning that self loathing into misogyny and being an apologist for men (which I think is disgusting and unfortunate). Yes it can be difficult dealing with men, but try not to let it get to you. Sadly, it's something you're going to have to learn to deal with like every other woman does...

Thanks for that, Ashey. You're absolutely right, I shouldn't let those guys ruins things for me. I'm only doing myself a disservice otherwise.

On an unrelated note, I'm fortunate enough to know plenty of decent guys. It can take one ->-bleeped-<- head to ruin things and there are enough of them.

Quote from: Kimberley Beauregard on December 20, 2015, 06:08:34 AM
Sydney, I'm sorry this happened to you. My sister in Paris gets a lot of rather unpleasant experiences from guys. It's this kind of thing which puts me off presenting as female.

It's one of those things that wouldn't prevent me as presenting as my true self. I wouldn't let anyone take that power away from me. But is does point out that I need to be a little more prepared. Like carrying pepper spay or something.

Quote from: Kimberley Beauregard on December 20, 2015, 06:08:34 AM
Sydney, I'm sorry this happened to you. My sister in Paris gets a lot of rather unpleasant experiences from guys. It's this kind of thing which puts me off presenting as female.

Eh its bad sometimes but for me being able to live authentically it's worth it.

Quote from: Sydney_NYC on December 20, 2015, 12:31:05 PM
It's one of those things that wouldn't prevent me as presenting as my true self. I wouldn't let anyone take that power away from me. But is does point out that I need to be a little more prepared. Like carrying pepper spay or something.

Yeah and the thing is most men will not turn it violent. But if they do, you'll be prepared.

Being seriously hit on by men is a sign you are passing.   Me for the most part, I have attained gray-haired granny status by most people I see on the street.   We were all in a Mobile station where the others buy their cigarettes were my girlfriend and her daughter were talking the cashier and they got into explaining our relationships.  My girlfriend and my 12-year-old son was there and they tried to explain that I was the boy's father and she just didn't seem to to get it.   She would look at me  and seemed to be puzzling out how I could be the boy's father.   Go figure,  I must be getting the granny thing down, despite the fact that I have never had hormones nor surgery.   I just wear padded bras 24/7/365 and no one has seen me as anything other than a granny.

That is my sign that I must be passing more in public than I am in my own mind.   With you, your sign may be that no one can view you as your wife's husband.     As for me, nothing can take away my womanhood because I am a woman, period, end of discussion.   Fifty-three years living a butch lifestyle couldn't change that, so neither will what other's think.

QuoteI had been extremely reluctant to click this thread because I thought this was going to be an anti-trans related harassment incident. I typically don't do well with learning how transphobic some people can be; it literally discourages me and puts a damper on any positive vibes I am feeling.

Not that I am glad you got sexually harassed, but at least this says a lot about how well you pass in public that a man would say that to you. It is still very inappropriate what he did, and I think you and your wife handled the situation well and calmly, so good on you both for that! Hopefully you weren't left too rattled by the incident.

I work at a fast food joint and was serving this young male at our drive-thru. He whipped his privates out as I was talking to him and he started masturbating right there and then in his car, all while looking at me intently. It was definitely a night I will never forget, for the wrong reasons of course.

Wow, I thought the chuckleheads I encounter from time to time at the gas station I work were bad. BTW, I'm reminded of a scene from  the movie about a transgender woman, Boy Meets Girl, where there is a flashback scene to her childhood and she is with a group of girls on Halloween who encounter a local perv who exposes himself to them.

Today was... I dunno, kind of weird. At least 10 guys tried to talk to me and one of them just said I'm pretty and asked for my number. Well okay then! I do get some street harassment but today I got about 3x more than usual. I'm chalking it up to the increased alcohol consumption around town.

Quote from: iKate on December 28, 2015, 07:50:14 PM
Today was... I dunno, kind of weird. At least 10 guys tried to talk to me and one of them just said I'm pretty and asked for my number. Well okay then! I do get some street harassment but today I got about 3x more than usual. I'm chalking it up to the increased alcohol consumption around town.

Tis the Season.

More tourists in town this time of year too, especially in Midtown where you work. I'm going to be in Midtown on New Years Eve for a party (not at Times Square, but not too far) so I'm preparing for it.