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Started by Arch, December 12, 2015, 10:06:54 PM

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Arch

Heaven knows I've had more than my share of life challenges (most of which I haven't posted about) in the past year, and I'm not quite through it all yet. But some things are going great. Mainly, I'm having my hysto in a little over a week. I still have to iron out billing, transportation, and a couple of little things, but I'm very excited.

I'm also relieved. I was originally going to get two and a half weeks off from work, but my surgery date was delayed by three more days. I was half afraid that I would face another delay and not have the two weeks off that my surgeon wants me to take. But things are looking good now. I hope that I don't have any complications.

I was rather shocked to see my "clinical summary" in my health care system's online reporting system. The report starts out fine with male pronouns but suddenly dips into female pronouns before ending with male pronouns again. I figure that my doctor has a standard write-up that he uses for his hysto consultation; he must have just pasted it in without thinking. I had quite a jolt when I read the report, but he has never messed up on pronouns yet, so I'm prepared to be forgiving. ;D

This has been a long time coming, and I've had tremendous dysphoria over these internal body parts in the last few years. Sometimes, I wondered whether I would make it. Most of you know what I mean because you grapple with the daily dysphoria beast yourself.

If you are facing a long, long wait for services or hormones or surgery, KEEP GOING. The waiting seems like forever, but it isn't.
"The hammer is my penis." --Captain Hammer

"When all you have is a hammer . . ." --Anonymous carpenter
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Ms Grace

Great news Arch! All the very best! :D
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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JLT1

Most excellent Arch.

Congrats!

Hugs,

Jen
To move forward is to leave behind that which has become dear. It is a call into the wild, into becoming someone currently unknown to us. For most, it is a call too frightening and too challenging to heed. For some, it is a call to be more than we were capable of being, both now and in the future.
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Tysilio

Arch, that's great!  May it all go smoothly for you.
Never bring an umbrella to a coyote fight.
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Derpy

That's awesome! Congrats :) I'm really happy for you :)
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stephaniec

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FTMax

Congrats Arch! I hope you get all the details worked out, and everything goes smoothly for you. With any luck, I'll be having mine next month.
T: 12/5/2014 | Top: 4/21/2015 | Hysto: 2/6/2016 | Meta: 3/21/2017

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HeyTrace19

Hope it all goes well for you! Congratulations...
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Arch

I appreciate all of your good wishes. I'm stoked!

I'm currently deciding on a cab company to take me to the hospital. Thanks to my parents, I'm paranoid about having a stranger pick me up at my home when I live alone and know I won't be there for a day and a half. My mother seemed to think that such a situation was a golden opportunity for dishonest cab drivers to come back and rip us off while we were gone. ::)
"The hammer is my penis." --Captain Hammer

"When all you have is a hammer . . ." --Anonymous carpenter
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Cindy

Arch,
Sorry for the late response. Awesome news!!!

Congrats.

Why take a cab? What is wrong with a Limo?

Hugs my friend
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Arch

A limo, haha. I would look so funny driving up to reception at five in the morning in a limo and wearing Dockers and a ratty message tee. "Who's the celeb?" "I dunno, but he shoulda spent his money on wardrobe instead of a limo."
"The hammer is my penis." --Captain Hammer

"When all you have is a hammer . . ." --Anonymous carpenter
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Cindy

Quote from: Arch on December 14, 2015, 01:16:15 AM
A limo, haha. I would look so funny driving up to reception at five in the morning in a limo and wearing Dockers and a ratty message tee. "Who's the celeb?" "I dunno, but he shoulda spent his money on wardrobe instead of a limo."

Just another wealthy eccentric!!
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Arch

Yesterday was interesting...never a dull moment. I spent three hours on the phone after I found out (at the last minute) that I wasn't preauthorized. One of the insurance people I talked to said that it was too late to get authorization; I would have to pay half of the full price up front as the hospital wished--and in all likelihood not get it back. I spent half an hour on the phone with her, and the best news she could give me was that I could apply for a reimbursement but that I shouldn't expect it because hospitals don't usually reimburse unless the surgery is preauthorized.

Well, if the surgery were preauthorized, I wouldn't need to pay up front, and I wouldn't need a reimbursement. Right?

Time was running out. I needed preauthorization by the end of the business day, and it was already midafternoon. Aaauuugghh.

At least I was able to get in touch with my case manager. She kept banging away on people until she found out what the problem was. She was told that my doctor's office had waited too long to send over my records; it takes five BUSINESS days to preauthorize, and my records had arrived only on Wednesday. But apparently, the records had been incomplete. The office did send the remaining records on Thursday. All set, right? I could be expedited in a day, right?

Wrong. Next, it seemed that my referral letters were not adequate. They were only "brief notes" stating that I was "an appropriate candidate." Um, no, these letters follow WPATH guidelines and are completely in order. I guess she went to bat on that one, too, only I didn't get the details. She was so disgusted, proclaiming, "It takes ten minutes to authorize the surgery. Literally ten minutes."

The afternoon dragged on. Finally, my case manager found out that my second referral letter HAD GONE MISSING. Blue Shield had never received a copy from my doctor, and his people couldn't find the original. They had received it, but nobody knew where it was.

The clock kept ticking inexorably. My case manager told me that if I had a copy of the letter, I needed to scan it and send it to her immediately so that she could forward it to the representative in charge of expediting my authorization. I had a copy and knew exactly where it was, so I ran to turn on the computer. Then, my doctor's office called. "We can't find the letter. Do you have a copy? You need to scan it and send it to your case manager." "Yes, yes, I'm waiting for my computer to wake up."

I was authorized at about four o'clock, waaaay too close for comfort. But I have confirmation from both my doctor's office and my insurance provider, and I have an authorization code to give to the hospital in case I have any trouble there.

Sheesh...
"The hammer is my penis." --Captain Hammer

"When all you have is a hammer . . ." --Anonymous carpenter
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JLT1

Congratulations.  Insurance is tough sometimes.  Your case manager needs a huge "THANK YOU".  Good ones are a huge help.

Wishing you well Arch.

Hugs

Jen
To move forward is to leave behind that which has become dear. It is a call into the wild, into becoming someone currently unknown to us. For most, it is a call too frightening and too challenging to heed. For some, it is a call to be more than we were capable of being, both now and in the future.
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Arch

Oh, dear, I promised to send her an e-mail as soon as I get home from the hospital. One more thing to do before I can crash.

Well, I made it home okay. The procedure went well, but I got hardly any sleep (hospitals are terrible places for rest), and, adding insult to injury, I am all shaved down there and on my belly. Not down to the skin, but short.

I reconciled myself to being messed with, catheterized, and decatheterized. I have treated the bleeding with bleak acceptance. But the worst jolt is the one that lasts the longest: I'm practically naked down there.

Wonder how long the hair will take to grow back?
"The hammer is my penis." --Captain Hammer

"When all you have is a hammer . . ." --Anonymous carpenter
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FTMax

Glad to hear it went well, and wishing you continued good healing!

Slather yourself in minoxidil and pop some biotin until you're a hairy beast again ;D
T: 12/5/2014 | Top: 4/21/2015 | Hysto: 2/6/2016 | Meta: 3/21/2017

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Mariah

I'm glad things are going well Arch. Congrats and good healing. Hugs
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Bimmer Guy

Oh my gosh, Arch, I was feeling sick to my stomach the whole way through your post!  I can't imagine how tense you had to have been that day!  Geez!

Glad to hear you are home.  Did you get abdominal incision or lapro?  I am wondering why they shaved your lower area?  They did lapro on me and were able to get the organs out through the <hole>, yet I still wasn't shaved.  I didn't even think about the fact that I wasn't shaved.  :-\
Top Surgery: 10/10/13 (Garramone)
Testosterone: 9/9/14
Hysto: 10/1/15
Stage 1 Meta: 3/2/16 (including UL, Vaginectomy, Scrotoplasty), (Crane, CA)
Stage 2 Meta: 11/11/16 Testicular implants, phallus and scrotum repositioning, v-nectomy revision.  Additional: Lipo on sides of chest. (Crane, TX)
Fistula Repair 12/21/17 (UPenn Hospital,unsuccessful)
Fistula Repair 6/7/18 (Nikolavsky, successful)
Revision: 1/11/19 Replacement of eroded testicle,  mons resection, cosmetic work on scrotum (Crane, TX)



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Arch

I thought that only my belly was being shaved, but, well, the best surprises are...surprises. I think I just misunderstood when he said that they weren't going to "shave it ALL off." He just meant that my hair would be left short, not eliminated entirely. I am (was) very furry below the navel. And I will be again...that's the beauty of it. I just have to be patient. And avert my eyes a lot. ("Well, don't...knock it off!!")

I had laparoscopic. Abdominal has an insane recovery period...I had to wedge the surgery and recovery into winter break from teaching. As it is, I'm feeling good enough that I have to remind myself not to overdo.
"The hammer is my penis." --Captain Hammer

"When all you have is a hammer . . ." --Anonymous carpenter
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Jill F

Awesome awesomeness, Arch!  Congrats!!!
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