i keep trying to take him out of my head but seems impossible , every time i think i have move on guess what>? not really and i really want to fall in love again but he's on my mind all the time what should i do?

I wish I could say there is an easy way to forget your ex boyfriend there isn't. I know my boyfriend is on my mind all the time. If your ready, I would say start dating again. It could help. Otherwise you might want to find a new activity or something that doesn't remind you of him, but as i said forgetting him isn't easy. It takes time to forget a boyfriend. Hugs
Mariah

I saw a Dear Abby years ago and it said it takes as much time as you were in love to forget a love. I think many people get over a lost love faster than that but it can still take a long time. Keeping yourself occupied helps but mostly it's waiting for time to pass.

Quote from: Dena on December 25, 2015, 11:53:58 PM
I saw a Dear Abby years ago and it said it takes as much time as you were in love to forget a love.

Wow that's interesting. Yeah it takes a lot to get over something you've had for so long. Even when I fell for someone after the 2nd date, I would have my heart broken for a long time after.

Sometimes you just need another distraction.....work on yourself, your hobbies, etc. And when someone else comes along, you'll be ready to get over the last person.

I won't tell you how long it took me to get over someone.

I find those kind of obsessions are only given fuel when we haven't admitted to ourself that the relationship is over and we don't have something or someone else to take our minds left by the vacuum of their absence. It's harder to shrug them off if they are still in your social circle or work or whatever, but if they're not then you're doing yourself no favours by revisiting them in your mind. Take the best parts of the relationship, box them up and put them away and move on with your life. Obsession will only suck up years of your life when you could have instead been out there meeting someone else.