Hi Girl's

I'm very curious How you would feel If you woke after SCS surgery and your Doctor was standing by your bed side and told you that you were already female at one point in your life and you still had your female parts and that you must have been changed at child birth to match what you parents wanted?

Hug's
Lyndsey

Quote from: Lyndsey on January 21, 2016, 11:48:55 AM
Hi Girl's

I'm very curious How you would feel If you woke after SCS surgery and your Doctor was standing by your bed side and told you that you were already female at one point in your life and you still had your female parts and that you must have been changed at child birth to match what you parents wanted?

Hug's
Lyndsey

What is SCS?

Quote from: kittenpower on January 21, 2016, 12:20:13 PM
What is SCS?

SCS means Sex Change Surgery or Sex Correction Surgery. It's genital surgery.

Quote from: kittenpower on January 21, 2016, 12:20:13 PM
What is SCS?

Hi Kittenpower

Sex correction surgery

I can't recall how many times it has gone through my mind in my life time that I was born a girl or even a hermaphrodite and my parents had me surgically "corrected" to meet their own wants.

They obviously didn't but my mind is so female that I can't comprehend this body.
If I was to wake up from GRS to find out I was female all along, I would be very angry for the lifetime of confusion and pain.

*hugs*

Quote from: MeganAshley on January 21, 2016, 01:04:45 PM
I can't recall how many times it has gone through my mind in my life time that I was born a girl or even a hermaphrodite and my parents had me surgically "corrected" to meet their own wants.

They obviously didn't but my mind is so female that I can't comprehend this body.
If I was to wake up from GRS to find out I was female all along, I would be very angry for the lifetime of confusion and pain.

*hugs*

I have felt this too. Even questioning the "seam" that we all have down there before I had the Internet to find out what the perineal raphe was!

I still question it


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A thing that is a bit annoying is, a trans woman can say "I've always been a girl", since we all begin as XX or something like that before the sex are choose in the womb. But a trans man can't always say it in that way. Because he started XX too, and missed the XY. I know I changed topic a bit. But just wanted to add a comment.

I have actually thought about this a lot before.  Honestly, I would feel validated.  I'm not really sure what that says about my state of mind and self image though.  Is it good or bad?  I don't know.


Sapere Aude

Quote from: Lyndsey on January 21, 2016, 11:48:55 AM
I'm very curious How you would feel If you woke after SCS surgery and your Doctor was standing by your bed side and told you that you were already female at one point in your life and you still had your female parts and that you must have been changed at child birth to match what you parents wanted?

I would find it very fishy and ask for someone else to check the story out.

But then, the way I've gotten through life is to rigidly suppress any wishful thinking.  It wasn't until I had the idea that it was possible that I even considered the idea that I might want to be a woman.  (And, no, in the USA South in the 1960's, even wishing to be a girl was not a safe thing to do.)

Honestly, angry. Not just for myself though... though there would be plenty of that. I'd be mad for the F2M guys, because it would mean that there is a very effective and desired surgical option hidden under a garbage heap hospital in Oklahoma.

I would be extatic to find out I was already a biological female and would probably go around to everyone I have ever known and say " ha, I told you so!?!"  and then I would exact my vengeance on all who changed me wrongly.

I'd feel validated yet hurt that I had to go through so much angst because of a wrong call by my parents and/or doctor soon after my birth. If someone is born with ambiguous genitals, only the owner of those genitals has the right to decide whether they are male, female or other.

I might be weird, but I wouldn't feel that I was cis. After all, I'd still had to go through being raised as male, male puberty, needing my genitals rearranged to look female... After all, if I had ALL the female parts I wouldn't have needed surgery! I *could have been* cis, and that would be incredibly frustrating and infuriating, but that's not the same thing.

(I'd also wonder a) how they managed to induce male puberty without me noticing testosterone supplements and b) how everybody else had missed this. The most likely explanation would be that I'd been born intersex, which still isn't cis, though it's not something most trans people experience either.)

I have (had) testes that can produce sperm, so I'd call the doctor a liar who's toying with my emotions and issue a formal complaint to his superior.

How can a doctor tell me how I feel about my gender...? (title kinda confusing)

but anyway, if that happened I'd have a few things to say to my parental units, the doctors and all of them who were in in the deception.

Not least that the deception didn't work very well.

This is not quite as theoretical and far fetched as it might sound.

When my mother was pregnant with me, she took an experimental drug to inhibit the chance of miscarriage.  It turned out that this drug produced a very large number of TG babies, and was withdrawn from use.  Something about a big estrogenic lavage at a critical moment of fetal development.

I can recall a conversation, initiated by my mother, about how I felt gender-wise, and offering SRS.  Being a fearful young child, I said no.  Stupid me, because even at that age I desperately wanted SRS.

While I did not know it ar the time, it turned out that my parents were personal friends with one of pioneering SRS surgeons at a major nearby hospital.

Lesson learned:  Do not let your doubts get in the of seriously considering what seems like a golden opportunity.

Unfortunately, that opportunity never appeared again, and I had to pay big bucks for it myself later on.

I wonder about this a lot because something like this actually happened to my mother. If it happened to her, maybe it was the same for me... I remember being told my dad specifically wanted a daughter and was happy I wasn't a boy (though he accepts me the most now!)