I am very shy and I don't like talking to people, so I cannot say much other than my situation.

I am 15 years old, and I want to be a girl, I have always seen myself as a girl, and this is a problem I have had since I was very little, I am quite feminine and my looks are also feminine, a few times in my life I have been mistaken for a girl. But the reasons why I want to be a girl, I shouldn't even have to say them, but I felt I had to.

I'm not sure what to do. I live just with my parents and they are both very cool people, at least I would say, but of course they have no idea, and they can be skeptical of things, they are the kind of parents to put something off for awhile or to make sure i really want something before it happens, but they may never even go for something. It's not like they aren't nice, but they are what I would say average people, and the average person really does not understand about these things, and has ideas in their heads about transgender people. They can get these ideas from anywhere.

My parents were both kinda freaked out when the whole Caitlyn Jenner thing happened, but they aren't necessarily transphobic people. They just don't understand it - I think there is some overlap between being transphobic and not understanding, and at the same time, I think it's different.

I don't think gender matters so much but I may as well be comfortable in my own skin, if it kills me trying to do something, I really don't care - I am not suicidal but I am not scared of death either.

The things in life that interest me - being a boy is not one of them. I would get along just fine as a girl. I don't think it matters as I said, it's not something I am scared or nervous about doing.

What I am nervous about is coming out to parents, and trying to convince them to let me become a girl. This does really scare me - the thought of them preventing what I wish to happen. Now that is a truly scary thought to me. I came here for advice, from other people like me. These are the only people who can truly understand, and offer me advice. So I ask you to please give me advice as to what I should do. I want to have HRT although I have little knowledge about it - as soon as possible. Convincing my parents any of this may be a monumental task.

I also may want some sort of surgery, but we shall see.

I just need advice for all this.

Also, I am not scared of peoples reactions, because I know there are others like me out there. I'm sure I would find friends, and a lover one day too. All I am truly frightened of is my parents, their reactions, convincing them to do things, and etc. and I need advice from people like me. Thank you.

Also, I am not sure when I would start dressing as I wish to (a bit nervous about going around in public as a girl) I would probably wait a long time for that, right now is first things first, coming out and convincing my parents to help me to be who I want to be..and that is what I need advice for!

Big hug! Welcome to Susan's Place!

It's a tough road. Many people never gain the acceptance of their families. A lot of people really surprise us with their acceptance, as well. Poke around the forums, you can take a lot away from reading other people's experiences. Here are some links to get you going on the site. See you around!

Hugs, Devlyn

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Hello and welcome


Here are some resources that can help:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,197523.msg1756901.html#msg1756901

One link leads to a thread with young trans people, you might have a look there ... maybe you find some friends there ...
and there is also a chat on susans...

I'd say take part ... ask further questions ... people like to help .


hugs

My mother made a nasty comment about someone that was transgendered when I was a kid. It made me terrified of telling her. When I finally did tell her, she turned into my strongest ally. Sometimes people assume that they don't know anybody that's trans/gay/whatever and they make comments that are really not okay, but since it doesn't directly affect them, they see nothing wrong with those comments.

I'm not really saying you should or should not tell them though. That's up to you. It wasn't all roses and sunshine for me even as an adult. My mother turned into a supporter. My father walked out of my life. But I do wish I had said something when I was younger. My mother was upset that I hadn't told her before because she could have helped me back then.