So I finally broke down and decided to go to a therapist the specializes in gender. My first appointment is this Thursday and I'm a bit nervous that I'm actually getting things started. What do I wear to the first appointment? Do I dress as the gender I was born as or the one I wish to be? What can I except him to ask and want to know about?
I've had regular therapists for a long time but this one I'm just a bit worried about for whatever reason, possibly because I'm getting more serious about transitioning. What are first appointments of this nature usually like?


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Hey; first congratulations on your first step . The therapist will ask the usual questions to start off with. Why are you here, how was your childhood, how do you feel about your gender, do you have support. I would suggest that you dress however you're comfortable. Therapists seem to now be realising that gender expression is wholly different from gender identity and that there is no set checklist for a trans person e.g. masculine clothes for a trans man and feminine clothes for a trans woman.

Congratulations on getting started. Being nervous is normal but it's a big step for you. Trust that all goes well.

Dress however you want to! And your therapist is probably going to ask things to find out what you need and how to best help you. Be honest, as lying won't really help you in therapy. Feel free to ask any questions you have too. And the most important thing, I think, is to know that you don't have to stick with the first therapist you go to. My first therapist didn't specialize in gender and when I came out to her she said some unintentionally transphobic things (she was just generally really uneducated about it), so I tried out a few more therapists until I found the one I go to now. Therapy is about you. If it's uncomfortable or not helping, then some changes should be made!

So this is a thing that happened and i already feel so much better about a lot of things. Yay for therapists! I now drafting lots of letters to close friends and family and feeling like I'm really getting things started.


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