from the time i was really little ive always questioned my gender. i recently at the age of 19 came out as transgender but now as i look more into it im having doubts.

i was born male and some days i look down at my penis and feel fine, but other days i see it and i just feel wrong, i want to cry because my body doesnt fit my mind. it doesnt make sense. i thought i might be gender fluid, but that doesnt explain why some days i want to transition to female and some days im proud of being male.

please help, i just didnt know where to turn to.

To my knowledge some genderfluid folk do feel that way. Some experience major dysphoria and do various things to help make them feel comfortable with the gender they feel at that given time.

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I totally know how you feel. I've been back and forth a lot over the past few months about whether I was trans or not. I recently went through one of my first conscious gender switches a few days ago where I realized I felt more "male". I still sort of feel that way today, but at the same time I still have a desire for some feminine things.

I don't know if it's me just wanting to flip back to "female" because I feel like a nicer/ better person and have been having a lot of fun with it or what. But I still painted my nails this weekend and still wear ladies underwear and so on because I still just like it and I guess it still makes me feel a little better and closer to who I am. I think this is because even in male mode I still have more femininity to me than I ever wanted to admit earlier in life.

I'm in a middle ground right now, but I'm trying to learn to differentiate my feelings and so on day to day. Basically you just gotta do what makes you feel better and happy! There's no reason you can't be both male and female, or something in between. You could even just transition until you feel more comfortable with yourself. There's no one saying you have to transition all the way. Just take your time, and do what makes you happy. The decision is all yours!


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Quote from: confused96 on January 23, 2016, 04:44:45 PM
from the time i was really little ive always questioned my gender. i recently at the age of 19 came out as transgender but now as i look more into it im having doubts.

i was born male and some days i look down at my penis and feel fine, but other days i see it and i just feel wrong, i want to cry because my body doesnt fit my mind. it doesnt make sense. i thought i might be gender fluid, but that doesnt explain why some days i want to transition to female and some days im proud of being male.

please help, i just didnt know where to turn to.

That just screams genderfluid to me. I'm in the genderfluid/bi-gender/two-spirit range myself. There's not really a label that fits me, and I ain't sitting around waiting for one to be made!    You'll find your niche, too.  Get busy posting and I'll see you around the site!

Hugs, Devlyn