Hi ladies. This has been a hard week for me and I think I've just thought of a few things that have got my emotions running wild and my head is all over the place.

I've already had some help from some very kind people here. And I thought I had a plan. Which was to seek out my LGBT group and try and find a gender therapist who could help.

Great I thought. I can finally see if someone can help me. Then it hit me. What if I am transgender, how do it lol my partner, my family, my friends.... Then it really hit home. I work as a driving instructor in th uk. Every 3 years we have to complete a criminal record check as we deal with adolescents from the age of 17, if Ian transgender does this mean I will have to find anoth career etc. etc.

I feel so hopeless and helpless right now,


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I don't know UK law but they should only be concerned about a criminal past. Being TG shouldn't effect your employment as long as your employer will accept the transition. I had a job for a short time with Ford motor company and they ran a security clearance check on me. I didn't have a problem because I was open about my past and because of that I wasn't a security risk.

As for telling others, it depends on your relationship with them as to how and when to tell them. Yes, it gets complicated at times but many here have done it and will answer your questions from their experience.

I've just managed to find a TG driving instructor so it looks like I have a bit of a reprieve.  As for my family. So far I have only made occasional jokes with my wife about swapping bodies but am not sure she knows im being serious about it and that's how I felt for quite some time


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This is all I think about atm. I think I've been awake now for the best part of 2 days. Do I still consider gender therapy or should I seek psychiatric help. I just seem to keep asking the same question over and over.... What's wrong with me?


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Being transgender doesn't make you "criminal" in the UK so I expect you have no issue with your job.

As for telling your family and others you are getting way ahead of yourself. How about you take it a step at a time. Have a chat to the therapist, see what's going on for yourself and consider your options. For the majority, social transition is the hardest aspect of being trans and it is often where the process comes unstuck largely due to lack of acceptance or support and discrimination, etc. But that's why you need to take it one step at a time, figure out your gender identity and what course of action is going to work best for you before you consider telling anyone.

Quote from: Spookie on January 24, 2016, 04:15:39 PM
So far I have only made occasional jokes with my wife about swapping bodies but am not sure she knows im being serious about it and that's how I felt for quite some time

I can guarantee you most people would never consider you are serious, they are cis gender (comfortable in their gender) so they'd have no real idea that you weren't joking.

Quote from: Spookie on January 24, 2016, 04:26:07 PM
What's wrong with me?

Nothing - it is quite common to become obsessed over the issue. Once a trans person has hit on the reasons for their discomfort over living as their assigned gender it can be hard to think of anything else sometimes. I suggest talking with a therapist or counsellor ASAP.

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Thanks ladies. I'm just finding these things out and as usual my head is running riot. Sorry for being such a pain


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